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Go and cry. Something that can help is setting goals for yourself when you come back.

i used to do that.

My favorite goal was:

Ok, I am going to save up all the money I can so that when I get back I can go with my friends to the mall and buy my bro’s and sis all they want.

And you made the right choice. Listen. I have three laptops. I work from how so they are a big part of my life. But my 15 inch screen I use it for school and work. Its the best for those two things because its not huge. You did the right thing. I would have gotten the 15 inch too.

Well, I suggest you make some cake. They can help you with the prepare it. it will be messy. But think about ti this way. You can set it up, it will take some time and will distratc you. Then you can sit them down, sing the rain rain go away song. Then start the cooking process. Once the cake is in the oven clean them up and put a movie that will entertain you too. like Surfs up, Rattatouie or The Last Mimzy. Wait for the cake to finish up and then eat and watch the movie. If you give them warm milk you can have them take a nap afterwards.

Also, you can get a couple of sheets and prettend you are camping and just let your inner child come out. Pretend you are building fires. It will be fun for you once you step back and observe how their little imaginationg go crazy.

Good Luck!

(I was a Daycare Teacher)

Its a present. Your not ungrateful like the firt gift you got you thought it was too heavy, with this one you think its too small. Dont beat yourself over it.

About school, I want you to know that you are one in a million. School is so important and I am extremely happy you are even attending. Please, if your sad know that its ok to be. Cry if you have to. But remember that you will see your family again (God willing). Dont think about the leaving part. Start planning for the coming home part.

Liz

ok, I dont have any money. But I can tell you this. If you have a computer and you have continuous access to the internet and have a phone in your house you can apply at www.westathome.com click on the become an agent link follow the steps. There is no money involved in order to apply and best of all, you work from home. I work for them. They are a ligit company. Hope thats helps.

I dont see where that would help him. In our correctional systems today drugs are what moves the money. I know what it is to have someone you love jsut out there hurting himself and others becuase of drugs. But you know something. I learned this from my own sister. If they dont want to be helped, no matter what you do, they will always do it again. In my opinion, let him go. I know its hard, but you have to. Because the pain and hurt you feel will consume you and he will be just fine doing what he wants.

Yeah, unfortunatley I have about 5,000.00 worth of bills I can give you. I’m sorry. But seriously if I hit the lotto one day(if I ever played it) i wopuld look for you and give you the money.

Becareful, I live in Florida and we just had an incident where the neighbors had a lot of issues throught a year I think. Anyway what ended up happening was that one of them killed the other becuase they cut his lawn by mistake. It was about half an inch that they cut but enough for this man to loose it an kill his neighbor. If I were you, I would wait till my lease is up and move.

I have to say thank you for your advice. Honestly I want to address Chris_bras first. I have thought about the pain someone might suffer if they cant see their own children, and although they are not his at all he did raise them for 7 years, I imagine he feels terrible, just like I do or even worst. In saying that, I have to say that if he wants to be with the kids, I want him to be them. THe “kids” we are talking about here are 23,24 and 17 by the way, and in 5 years that we have been together they have never made contact with him. But the ex keeps calling and then saying “oh, my son wanted to talk to you” and always drama comes from it. I am sorry for my husband, he loves them and thats ok. He can leave and be with them. I am not asking for help on how to deal with it, because I am not going to accept it, they are not his kids and they are grown men, atleast two are. They all know he is not their real father and he told me himself that he never had them call him dad or othing like that he was like a friend. He can go ahead and be with them. I told him I wasnt going to even make this a hard thing for him.

Because I cant afford the house I told him he could keep it, and everything in it. He keeps saying that he loves me and I need to stay with him and he will show me that he can be part of their life and ours. I dont want part, I want all. I want us to have our own family. That woman and her children are his past. I believe he needs to let go of the past and focus on the future but he is not doing that.

As for Soulrising, I am being selfish, because I want him to focus on the great things we can build. I dont want him to erase his past, if not learn from it so that this same errors dont happen in the future. Also, I want him to leave me alone! I want him to be happy and if they make him happy them I want him to be with them. But he insists on trying to have us be together and force me to agree with bringing these people back into our lives.

What I wrote yesterday, I wrote it because I need help with me. He is fine, I am still around and he still has the boys and her. He is living it right now. I am the one that feels like a piece of crap. I try to feel better but anything sets these negative feelings off and there I am in the kitchen cutting myself.

I thank all of you that read my post and replied. Thank you for making me feel special.

Liz