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Stopin bye just to say HI!

Hope everything is going ok for you.

:)

Hi I just wanted to kno what type of dancer you are

Dancer, here is how you handle it and feel good about your choice. Become a giver to your mother instead of a dependent that is needy. Don’t forget that your mother has probably never lived where she is in her right now before. She is scared. She is doubting herself and her ability to be everything she would like to be to you and her. Recognize it and you will have grown up some. Never become so lost in your own pain that you cannot recognize the pain of another. Think like God!

Hi Dancer, our best guess as parents is that your mom is on overload right now both emotionally and financially. This has nothing to do with you. Then one of your children becomes needy in some way and you love them and would prefer to fill all of their requests for things but can’t at this point in time. The overload has you in a position where you begin to choose no answer over an answer that you know would end in the child becoming angry or disappointed in your ability to furnish them with their needs at that time. This is what we think happened that night. Your mom knows the real story about the state of your lives and well being right now and most likely does not want to place that burden on any of your shoulders. If you have the room on the property for this horse and you can get a job and earn the money to buy it and feed it and pay for its vet bills you might have a better bargaining position. Let us know if this helps any.

Hi Dancer, read your shout and have a few more questions. Describe this gap between you and others your age you speak of. Why isn’t your dad coming to the house to see or pick you up to go to his place? What kind of research are you doing?

Hi dancer, no we did not get any recent reply about your mom and dad. We hope it is good. Let us know.

Dancer, we will start with what you did not address. Why don’t you fit in at church any more? Your parents divorce has absolutely no bearing on you as a person. Are you angry with God right now? If not, don’t deliberately evade the one place you could go and find peace and connection. As far as your dad goes, not knowing what type of abuse he suffered, we would have to take your mom’s best judgement in that he needs help to finally deal with all of his issues from his past, learn his lessons, gather his wisdom, free himself from the prison he has constructed in his mind and begin living his present and planning his future. If he has begun abusing the kids he has crossed a line and we give your mom credit for recognizing that and placing her children’s safety first and foremost. Your dad was in the process of becoming what he hates and your mom placed a temporary halt to that self destructive process for him. Dancer, you still have two parents, they just are not a united family unit any more. Leave their divorce between them and accept that it has no reflection on who you are today or who you will become. You are your own unique individual with your own unique destiny and although we all wish our parents were perfect with a perfect relationship this is impossible to accomplish in the human condition. What you are feeling is quite like mourning the death of a loved one but you did not lose your dad, you just lost him being with you on a daily basis. He can still love you and care for you and be proud of you whether you accomplish great feats or not, just because you are you and you are his daughter. We are leaving in the morning to go visit Kingdomc0me/jojo in colorado and probably won’t be home for about a week but we will try and come to help every night to check up on things so when you read this let us know what you think and we will get back to you. Good Luck Dancer, we know it is very difficult for you but you are a very strong young lady and you can do this. Get back to God. You need Him more now then ever.

at the least we will leave you a reply for you to read in the morning, ok?

yeAh, sorry

Dancer , we are a little tied up. We’ll answer you as soon as we can! sorry, sweetie!

Dancer, we are so sorry to hear all that life has been dealing you lately. Our main concern is your loss of connection to our Source and would like to help you help yourself get that back ASAP because that has always been your strength. As far as the parents breaking up, lets try and get to the root of your feelings about it, OK? Do you feel they let you down, do you feel you have kind of lost your identity, lost belief in love, security, safety. Are either one of them playing any games with you and your siblings, as in talking about the other parent? Give us a little more info on that.

go ahead, dancer

Hi hope ur doing well..xo..

see you dancer!

we are just finishing dinner and we are going for a romantic drive!

royal blue, turquoise, copper and black. We think those would look great if you mate them.

We have no clue what would be compatible with bettas. sorry!

We have but this is the third time around for both of us. Paul- very young, in his early thirties and now. Carol-very young, after a long illness, husband passed away and now.

LOL! we have a thirty something daughter and another daughter that just turned twenty one!

call us silly! Strawberries sound good! five cents a tomato? wow, we’ll be rich!!!

Dancer, we are doing wonderful. Where is your dad? We are a little confused. What is your new hobby?

Hey, you! how goes it?

I am leaving this message for every one on my friends list. It so that you will know I have no ill feelings towards any of the normal users of the website.

Below is a message I sent to Erric to explain my reasons for leaving.

Thankyou for your response to my post. I will try to explain why I feel I can not be a part of your website.

It is not to complicated to understand I hope.

The modinations post in my opinion was a farce and wasn’t thought out nor was it neccecary. While it was running as a post I left a message saying that the members should ask the person they were nominating if they were prepared to be a moderator.
This is because hmf in particular didn’t want to be one, put on the post that she didn’t want to be one, yet members still kept voting for her. She had to spell it out that she didn’t want to be a moderator again that she would not want the post.
I did not want the post and didn’t want people voting for me, so I asked that the members asked first if the person they were nominating was prepared to do the job.
It is also my oppinion that the now admins and new moderators new in advance that they had already been chosen and that they had already accepted.
There were a number of members that could see that this post was causing anger and resentment between and with each other, just to give you one example look at tap dancers reply. There were others like it but the reasons were different.
I have no interest in who was picked for these particular posts although every one of them is a very long term user.
I also think that you already know that the only moderators post I was intereted in was one that could delete the bad posts that were being put on the site at the week ends in particular. Again I would not have accepted the post if asked, I know that many members would be interested.
If you can or want to try to convince me that the whole thing was for the good of the website I would consider trying to help again.
I have though lost all faith in the admins and mods, hence my leaving.
You had the curtesy to answere my post, you deserve to have an answer.

Hi there.

Haven’t seen you about for a little while.

Is everything allright?

Dancer, good luck to you and you know if you ever need to talk we will be here for you.

Hi Dancer, we just came back on. What’s up? Do you still need us to make you a post?

Happy Easter my friend!

Hey and I did not break your shout box this time, lol

***tGiF***

clogging like in tap dancing but its more torwards a hillbilly dance ( old school )

~~Good Nigh~~ NO Self-Mutilation 4 me..xo..

no prob.

love the advatar! the feet are better than the hands. lol

I was reading yopuir profile and you say you can clog thats very good not many people can or even know what clogging is I grew up with it I think thats great that some younger people take interest in it

Not really much I can do. For starters, there are WAY too many posts here for me to find every instance of this happening.

What you *can* do is play the role yourself. Try to encourage people to stay on topic and that secular or non-secular solutions are both valid opinions, but that people should focus on the question at hand.

Hi hope you have a good day! crista xo..

Living in the US is pretty neat, thanks for asking. Though I do miss my mom, and I miss nationalised health care ;). Thanks for the good discussion. You seem like a neat person.

Thanks for the response…. I was actually just commenting on the 3 different Greek words for love….. I did mention Agape as the highest love, and yes, it is translated charity in the NT. Actually I thought the post would provoke a little more of a discussion but it did not. Either way….It is fabulous that God’s eternal love for us is based not on what He sees in us or hopes to gain from us but from His purpose to love us (Agape). God so loved the world that He GAVE….. Have a great day!

thanks for the link :)

I have any questions I’ll be sure to ask. Thanks for the greeting.

That would awsome!

41 people want to be friends with you, wow!!

ya

Im not going to be able to answer for like 30 mins

Omg those dogs are sooooo cool!!!!!!

Show me show me show me! lol

what do the pics look like?

nah, I haven’t. sorry it took me so long to answer

Have you found any good pics lately?

cool, its my fav song right now :)
night lynn, sleep well
ttyl!
C’ya

ill pray for you :)
night! ttyl

You should go to www.youtube.com and look under creed for, arms wide open, its a REALLY good song

Those pics are cool :)
I think that the one about the bird poop is funny :)
where do u find all these pics?

Have u eva heard of the band creed? if so do u like they’re music?