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I missed the fact that it will just be the two of you in the group, thus the advice should go more like…sit near him, be friendly and warm towards him, casually touch him. If he’s sitting down working on something, come up behind him and put your hand on his shoulder or something to look down at what he’s doing. Just make casual friendly advances, it’s always worked better for me than awkward declarations of love.

I say just wait and see how things unfold. As you spend more time with him, it should become clear if he’s interested in you. I’ve found that being somewhat subtle is the best approach. Flirt a little, smile when you see him, sit near him when in the group, not always, not obviously, just friendly. Maybe invite him along on group outings, to see a band, or have coffee, or whatever. If he’s into you, he’ll ask you out, or let you know in some way.

You don’t get to choose who your dad decides to be with. That’s it. He’s made his choice. He’s not choosing her over you, he’s just choosing her. He loves her and wants to marry her, whether you approve or not. He’s still housing you, he’s even listened to your POV about the situation. He’s just not willing to put your happiness before his own. And he shouldn’t. You’re an adult, you’re not his primary concern anymore.

Your best bet is to try to get out of the living situation you’re in. Once you are away from that, the situation might seem a lot easier. Focus on finding a nice apartment for yourself and your fiance. Once you’ve found a place, you can start making plans to move. When you are out of the basement, then you can start rebuilding your relationship with your dad, and possibly sit down with his fiance and try to get to the root of her animosity toward you, and maybe even build a better relationship with her at some point.

I wouldn’t try to explain all your feelings to him if I were you. Just sweetly let him know that you will miss him.

And I just checked out the Jet program and it seems to be a year long commitment. But the program doesn’t appeal to me as much as the Peace Corps.

I’ve had an application half filled out for the Peace Corps for the past several years, so it is something I’ve been wanting for a long time. Once I actually submit the application, it takes six months to a year before I’d actually depart for service. Right now I am grieving and I realize I still need more time to do so, but I also realize that I need start living my dreams. Life actually doesn’t last forever.

The way you feel isn’t wrong, in fact it’s probably how most people would feel. Let yourself be upset, it’s okay. But you also have to let him go, and that might mean that things are over between the two of you. It’ll be hard, but you can get through it. And there’s the possibility that next year you’ll go to a university near him and things will work out.

I might look into the Jet program as well.

The only problem with the Peace Corps thing right now is that since my best friend died recently I question my motives. Am I just running away? And even if I’m not am I really strong enough to deal with the pressures of the Peace Corps at this point in my life.

Trimming split ends won’t make hair grow faster, but it will make your hair healthier.

The healthier you are, the better your hair will look, and the quicker it will grow. So make sure you’re eating right and getting all your vitamins. A friend of mine used to take prenatal vitamins, which she swore made her hair grow. But beyond extensions there’s no real quick fix.

If they’re good friends see if they would mind seeing the movie on Friday instead. If that’s not possible, just suck it up and do the family thing on Saturday night. There will be many other nights to spend with with your friends in the future.

No one can really help you except yourself. People can be there for you and support you, but you have to be responsible for yourself.

Crawdad Song

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I wouldn’t want to know my future. The exciting part of life is experiencing it as it happens, letting life unfold into what it becomes. If I knew what tomorrow would bring it wouldn’t be as fun.