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• Help distract me from my loneliness. posted (4 years, 6 months) ago
  I know no one on here cares about me. No one cares about me in my life anyway. I feel like I could d…

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• How can you tell If you like someone?
  

  Found this thread in a google search for pretty much the same thing, and tho it’s old I want to comment. I have to say, I’m exactly like Drin. When people admit they like me, I think “Why?” or that they’re lying (in order to get something out of me; what, I don’t know). And if they seem serious, some part of me also thinks they must be desperate or “bad” themselves. I have low self-esteem, heh.
  
  I’m 22 now and still haven’t had a significant other, though I’ve been on (terrible) dates. I’ve had 3 guys say they like me so far, and none of them I’ve been able to take seriously (tho in one case, it was too late by the time I was like them back).
  
  And that brings me to what made me like someone. I got to know them, a few months passed, and we had established we’d stay friends (he got tired of pursuing me when I wouldn’t say I liked him, I guess! But he told me it was because I was a virgin–ouch). That’s when my like grew into a form of love, if you could say that about someone you’ve never kissed. I’ve been hurt by this experience (we’re no longer friends due to crazy ****) but it was worth it to learn what I did.
  
  Basically I think I just need time to get to know someone. The people that fall in love easily perplex me. I have learned that I must have a bit of self-worth if the guy I liked, liked me back; it gave me hope. My problem is that I’m picky, but I’m also depressed and have low self esteem. I’m not saying everyone like this is like me, but there’s definitely something wrong with your upbringing and perspective if you are this way. Anyway, hope this helps someone like me looking for solutions. I wish I had the solution to share.
  - written 1 year, 8 months ago

• Help distract me from my loneliness.
  

  [quote mcolwell2]that’s a great story i feel that way to all the time[/quote]
  
  I’m glad I’m not the only one!
  
  I do feel better. Just the fact someone has read this at all… Thanks, all of you. :)
  - written 4 years, 6 months ago

• Help distract me from my loneliness.
  

  Funny enough, I read your thread. :) And also I did like the advice. I had thought of joining meetup before, but I’m so shy. I think I’m at the point where I just need to conquer that or I’m going to go crazy.
  - written 4 years, 6 months ago

• Help distract me from my loneliness.
  

  I don’t know why we’re friends really, we don’t have much in common. But we were all loner kids in high school so we gravitated I suppose.
  
  The only thing is, I am shy and I don’t GET how to meet or talk to people. I’ve never had a real friend in my life. I don’t know why. It’s not like I don’t want to do anything. I have likes and dislikes, but for the most part I am up for anything. Just somehow, over the course of my whole life, my friends bail on me again and again. I keep secrets for them, protect them, and everything, and it’s like I don’t matter. I don’t get it. (I know this is all very vague, but like I said before I’m not going to tell my life story… just trust me that I’m telling the truth)
  
  I’ve known this one girl for more than a decade, since we were in elementary school together. We have done so many things together. And yet, she never talks to me, and the only time I see her is when she’s coming with the mutual group of friends to hang out. But she’s pretty and sociable and has a boyfriend and other friends, so I’m left in the dust. That hurts, that even though we’ve been through so much, she couldn’t care less about me. I’ve tried making plans with her, talking with her, but to no avail.
  
  It’s just about the same with everyone else I know. Even my own family doesn’t want to help me. They’ve seen the signs of depression and loneliness and other things, and they’ve never tried to help me. Ever.
  - written 4 years, 6 months ago

• Help distract me from my loneliness.
  

  I was thinking of joining a meetup group. I can’t do that right now though, I feel too bad. Lol.
  - written 4 years, 6 months ago

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