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i’ve been there! my mom and older sister get along like two peas in a pod, and me, well i’m like the mud!!!
for years i wanted a relationship with my mom, for her to accept me for me, to like me, to get along with me. . . . .
Then one day, i was talking to my favorite Aunt Sheila in Atlanta, and i was explaining another eposode with my mother, and my aunt said something that i will never forget to this day, that has for the last five years helped me to just continue to be the positive - loving -kindhearted person i stil an to this day. Aunt Sheila said Quote “you know (name) you may never get approval or have a relationship with your mom, just live your life”

Hearing my aunt say that, and pondering over those words helped me to continue being me, and not caring about if my mom liked me, was close to me etc. and you know, since then, we have become a littl closer, but she’s still pretty much the same . . . But i really don’t care. not to be mean or hateful or state that i don’t love my mom, because oh let me tell you i do. just because she’s your mom doesn’t mean your going to get along or even like one another for that matter.

I heard my mom tell a family memeber years ago that she loved me but she didn’t like me. ooohhh the pain!!!!

and when i was real little i over heard her say that she never wanted to have a child of my complextion ( my brother and sister arne’t my color)

what im trying to say is, you will exhuast yourself trying to get your moms approval, if that what you want, being tired you go right ahead, i’ve been able to live with the fact that my mother doesn’t even like me for 34 years . . . doesn’t mean she doesn’t love me, she just don’t like me.

i am so much happier with ME! i will always be there for my mom, if she ever needs me, but over the years i have told her in so many words that she doesn’t have to like or accept or even love me if she chooses, i love me, i accept me, i am ,me.

don’t tire yourself out.

don’t worry
be you, and she how much more you will prosper but not worrying about her thoughts.

c ya

love

yourslef okay?

you know whatever it is that your going thru, your knot alone! mannny kids just like you are going thur problems. Running away only makes things worst for you. If you start running now, Believe me from personal experience, you will be running for a long time, if not for the rest of your life, you don’t want that. life’s not perfect. but it’s what you make it, and right now your making it worse for yourself.
Call that number boys and girls town, and just tell them whats going on. don’t keep running baby, your family is soo worried right now. Right now a lot of people are wondering if your okay? are you? then let them know just by a phone call, push star 67 if you want, just call. okay? God loves you he will help you thru

continue being yourself. Learn how to give eye contact with all human contact, practice doing this and it will help your confidence. Smile as you pass girls/women. speak more often. start conversations with the girls more often. be observant to figure out who’s singel and who’s not, the girl your around a lot may be looking for a boyfriend and don’t know how to find one either. Both parties can’t be shy and bashful. Sometimes you have to put your self in the middle of the street, make her laugh, buy lunch just because things of this nature. but whatever you do, keep in mind that it takes time to build a relationship of any sort, and if you move too fast, she’ll think it’s something wrong with you or your too desparte. take your time, laugh, smile, be yourself.