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• Im going through really hard times right now and would like some advice. posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  Its been 5 months now since my breakup from an 8yr relationship (found out that he cheated and prob…

• I’m trying to get over an 8 yrs relationship – I found out that he cheated and probably more than once and also to add he abused me once and I STILL posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
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• I’m trying to get over an 8 yrs relationship –
  

  Hi there playgirl–
  I’m sorry to hear that you are going through this, i defiantly understand how you are feeling in this moment. It feels like you have been betrayed, your entire insides have been gutted out and the person that you thought you knew so well is someone that you didn’t
  know at all….yes I understand and your not alone. I don’t know why guys (or girls) do the things they do especially when they have someone that loves them so much on the other end – it just greed I guess. But I will tell you this, tables DO turn and they will turn on him. I have experienced this through this long road that ive been trying to get through. My ex would get mad at me for the same reasons…like not trusting him, checking his personal things (aka snooping) but why do we do this??? Because THEY gave us a reason!!!! They try to turn the situation around and make us feel guilty and wrong for what we do and it’s NOT our fault!! Your’re strong, beautiful, and kind hearted, you do not deserve this….he does not deserve you! There will be a lot of sad days and a lot of crying but this will help you better yourself and he will one day get what he has coming i promise you that!!! Be strong, hang in there…if you two were truly meant to be then you will be together and if not then there is something else out there that is a better fit for you. Trust in life that it will bring something good your way when you are feeling down. Hold onto whatever faith your believe in and pray for strength, this has helped me in so many ways to stay sane  Also I found it helpful to drown myself in music…not the sad love songs or the songs that you two once shared, but NEW music..discover something new so it doesn’t remind you of him. Good luck and take care.
  
  goodkarma
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• I’m so confused.
  

  I would say to sit down with her and have a seriuos conversation about your relationship. Tell her your feelings and what you want out of the relationship and ask her what she wants. Explain to her that the ups and downs isnt healthy for you and confuses you - becuase in the end the only person that matters if YOU. You didnt cheat or lie, you are being straight forward with your feelings and any girl would and should appreciate that. If it turns out that she doenst want to commit and this is still killing you inside then i would suggest that you give it space. Dont go out and do the “couply” thing bc that will only hurt you and lead you on more. If you have to give your relationship a break this can be the true test on where the two of you stand. Im a believer that everything happens for a reason, people enter your life for a reason and if things are meant to be then they will be again. good luck and i wish you well. :)
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

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