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• Hi, I’m at my wits end.
  

  The real question is do you want to spend the rest of your life with THIS man, not the man that you want him to be. You cannot commit yourself and someone else to a lifetime relationship that you will never be satisfied with. It isn’t fair to either of you. You both deserve to be happy.
  
  You could try talking this out with him, but your posting don’t read like you truly want to.
  
  In the end, it is hard to admit to a difficult decision, but it really sounds as if you have already made it.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• My ex-boyfriend wants me to stay over at his house on Saturday night
  

  Honestly, you have heard it before. Sex changes everything. Whether you are 16 or 60.
  
  Women tend to react to sex differently than men. You know that whole flower thing? It actually is kinda true. Once you have had sex, then he comes to expect it. Or you are a trophy and you are discarded. Sex does not make someone you care about stay.
  
  My advice. Wait. It sounds so cliche, but it really is something you will remember all of your life. If he really does love you, then he will wait. If he is holding out on getting together unless you have sex - RUN.
  
  One final thing. If you both are not in it for love, then first time sex sucks. It could suck even if you are in love. It hurts. It hurts YOU, not him. It is awkward. It is NOTHING like in the movies. And the game of roulette you are playing can end a baby or worse.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I need someone to talk to.
  

  I love that. It makes sense. But I can’t seem to keep it up.
  
  Here is an example. The manipulative rat who got me fired from my office - she can rot for all I care. What hurts me is that I was working for a group of churches. I have kept my distance from the church (not God) most of my adult life, but had started to grow fond of these people. I worked with them for almost a decade. They had nothing but praise for me and my work. I worked through my illness, even worked while in the hospital. And when the rat started complaining, they didn’t ask my side. They didn’t give me a chance to defend myself. Their first reaction was to get rid of me.
  
  I actually do attempt to see the brighter side of things. Reasons and outcomes. What good came from something or some event. I had started to gain some faith. But, like time and time again for the past three years, I was knocked down. I am not trying to imply that your ideas are not great, but sometimes the hurt is so strong and the betrayal is so unforgivable and unforgettable, it makes you question yourself.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I need someone to talk to.
  

  And thank you for waiting with me.
  
  I hate that others feel the way that I do, but selfishly, I am glad I am not alone.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I need someone to talk to.
  

  Here’s a question.
  
  How do you get over being angry? How do you get over hurt?
  
  They say, “just get over it”. That isn’t so easy.
  
  I have done the self reflection. I understand where most of my issues come from. So what? Yeah, movie style revelation means nothing. The Ah-Ha moment of understanding your past doesn’t help your present or future as storytellers want to tell you. So I have abandonment issues. So does everyone.
  
  How do you get over these things? How do you forgive those who have hurt you in the past and stop letting the past affect your future? It is not as easy as “Just Do It”. Screw Nike! (sorry for that, I can’t help but try to amuse myself)
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

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