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• I forgot how much this site meant to me. posted (1 month, 2 weeks) ago
  I’m off to bed now, but I’m really glad I was able to stop in and talk a bit.…

• Just wanted to stop in and say hi. posted (1 year, 4 months) ago
  I haven’t been on here in quite a while and I have missed talking to my friends here. Everythi…

• Just An Update For My Friends: posted (2 years) ago
  I just wanted to say hi to my friends and I hope you are all doing great. It has been nice to still…

• I am trying to find my younger sister. posted (2 years, 2 months) ago
  I know what city and state she is in, but I don’t know how to find her phone number.…

• It’s Richards Birthday! posted (2 years, 2 months) ago
  Happy Birthday Richard and I hope you have a wonderful day!…

• I need a list of at least five more things that I want for my Birthday and I can’t think of any! posted (2 years, 2 months) ago
  This isn’t a huge problem or anything, but I thought people might have some ideas.…

• From My Sister: I have this really bad issue at work. posted (2 years, 3 months) ago
  I am in charge of my office besides my boss and my boss is playing favorites with the people under …

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JoJo's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (4 votes) Okay, here goes..this is a rant, do not ignore this!
  

  I agree with you on almost everything. I am not ashamed to be human and I am not sorry I was born into this world though. I am also angry about the fact that people, especially children, are treated like this and it is so often ignored, but because I am in this world and because I am human, I have a chance to change things. I have a chance to make a difference. I went through much of my life experiencing horrible abuse so I am very passionate about the fact that it should not be allowed to happen and it should not be ignored. The more people who are angry about it, the more people who are passionate, the more people who demand change, the more change we will see. I am determined that when I leave this world (when I am 100 years old) it will be better then when I entered it.
  
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago – voted for by PersonalPandaParty, Mï†z¥-superMODel, Queen of Lost Vampyr, Heather: Given It

• (2 votes) I hate freaking migranes.
  

  I’ve had migraines for years. Got all sorts of tests done, tried all sorts of meds, nothing helped. Want to know what finally helped? Ok….building suspense….
  
  getting away from the computer a little bit more. It was getting away from the computer a little bit and things like shoulder rolls and massages. My migraines were mostly being caused from muscle tension. You might as well try stretching, maybe massages and don’t spend too much time at the computer without standing up and moving around a bit.
  
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago – voted for by Bluecat, asdfghjkl

• (1 vote) My Dad is 68 and single.
  

  Ok, three months doesn’t sound like marriage time, but probably enough time to get to know each other a bit. First of all, I wouldn’t be afraid of discussing things with your dad because you might influence him. He is a grown man and he has thought and opinions of his own and he can make his own decisions. Being open with him gives him a chance to get someone else’s point of view in case he’s missing something which is pretty common when someone is dating. It does sound a little off to me that she is discussing her debt with your dad already. Typically not a beginning of the relationship discussion. She may be going after your dad for money, she may just be very shy and insecure, she may really love your dad and your not seeing the whole story. No matter what the situation is, keep honest and open communication going on with your dad. It’s going to help your relationship stay strong no matter what happens with this woman.
  
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago – voted for by cfreemantrack

• (1 vote) I have a crush on one of my students.
  

  Well, you have two choices as far as I can see:
  1. Pursue this crush. Tell the kid you like him or flirt with him in some way. Give him special attention, try and form a relationship. This will more then likely result in you losing your job, your ability to ever teach again, and possibly criminal charges.
  
  2. Realize that just because someone is cute and you have an attraction to them, it doesn’t have to mean anything. This kid is a kid and it would not only be immoral for you to have a relationship with him, it would be illegal. You better hope this kid doesn’t know you like him because that could send things in a really wrong direction. It doesn’t matter if he has a girlfriend, you are not a teenager and you are not allowed to date him. If you are going to work with kids you have to be more mature then they are and that mean controlling your feelings and actions.
  
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Sans

• (1 vote) about 5 years ago i was with a man who beat me and
  

  This is a type of help line. The people here come to help and give advice that they believe to be true. If you just want people to agree with everything you say and not tell you what they think, then don’t ask for advice. None of us are robots that just respond the way you want us too. If you don’t want to listen to the advice people give that is fine, but I do not think it is appropriate for you to lecture or judge people because of the well intentioned advice they give you. The fact of the matter is that you can’t have kids and your boyfriend wants you too. Nothing you can do about that. No way people can fix that for you. People were telling you there views and advice based on the reality of the situation.
  
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago – voted for by green_bedsocks

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• My Dad is 68 and single.
  

  Ok, three months doesn’t sound like marriage time, but probably enough time to get to know each other a bit. First of all, I wouldn’t be afraid of discussing things with your dad because you might influence him. He is a grown man and he has thought and opinions of his own and he can make his own decisions. Being open with him gives him a chance to get someone else’s point of view in case he’s missing something which is pretty common when someone is dating. It does sound a little off to me that she is discussing her debt with your dad already. Typically not a beginning of the relationship discussion. She may be going after your dad for money, she may just be very shy and insecure, she may really love your dad and your not seeing the whole story. No matter what the situation is, keep honest and open communication going on with your dad. It’s going to help your relationship stay strong no matter what happens with this woman.
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago

• i can’t make my self to do anything
  

  Think about the consequences of your choices. If you study, what will be the reward? If you get your drivers license, what will be the reward? If you choose to just sit around and watch movies and tv, what will be the reward? Is pushing yourself into doing something you don’t feel like doing worth the rewards? Maybe set short term rewards for yourself too. Do you have a favorite ice cream or any kind of treat you enjoy? Well, tell yourself that once you finish your studying, you can have that treat.
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago

• I have always been a very happy person up until 2 years ago.
  

  Congrats on quitting drugs! That is quite an accomplishment and it must have taken a tremendous amount of strength to get through that detox time. A lot of times people start doing drugs because of things like depression and anxiety. You said you’ve been depressed since you quit doing drugs, were you happy before doing drugs? Why did you get into drugs? It sounds like you may have depression and it would be a good idea to talk to a counselor and/or a psychiatrist about the best way to treat it.
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago

• My Dad is 68 and single.
  

  Wow, it sounds like you have some reasons to be suspicious, but it also sounds like you are very loving and very protective so you may be jumping to conclusions. There really is no way to know what her motives are or whether she is hiding something unless you get some more information. Have you talked to your dad about your concerns? One things is, she might not be very open if she is shy and they haven’t been dating very long. How long have they been together? How do you know she has credit card debt? That seems like personal information someone wouldn’t share really easily.
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago

• Wife vs Brother.
  

  Ok, that makes some sense. That is a huge burden for a newly married couple to take on or really even anyone to take on. The fact that he right now has people who are taking care of him means he might expect you to be taking care of him if he does move close to you. If I were you, I would just talk to him on the phone and let him know that if he does come to live near you, you aren’t going to be responsible for taking care of him and if he needs someone to take care of him, he better stay where he is. He might not like to hear that and things could be stressful in your relationship, but he is your brother and you can work to repair the relationship. If your wife has made it clear she doesn’t want to be responsible for him and you don’t support her in that desire and need, it could be a very bad sign in your relationship. Be honest with your brother even if it makes him angry. Let him know you care about him but are not in a place in your life where you can take care of him.
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago

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