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• Why does she always pick out something to argue about? posted (1 year, 2 months) ago
  I give her a long, very loving statement, and out of all of that she argues about how her therapis…

• How do you tell someone that they are hurting your feelings, posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  without making them feel guilty? My girlfriend is very sensitive. She has little to no self esteem,…

• How to calm down? posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  Your favorite ways of calming down from an emotional breakdown. Would prefer quicker ways, but any…

• Why does she say she’s fine when she’s not? posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  And I know it, and she knows it, and she knows I know it… Goddamn, I’ve been so helpfu…

• What is the best way to comfort someone? posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  To reassure someone? What are the best words to use? Just generally, please.…

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Pillow's Top (1) Replies by other users' votes

• (1 vote) I have seriously messed up and need advice.
  

  Maybe give her a little time? If she really doesn’t want to get back together with you, this might be a lost cause. Tell her that it was a mistake, that you messed up and you don’t know why you did it but you’re sorry that you did (you sure sound pretty sorry), and if that doesn’t work, maybe it’s time to start moving on. Live and learn, right?
  
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago – voted for by rolo

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• Why does she always pick out something to argue about?
  

  [quote Michael Leibman][quote Pillow]I would like to point out that I am a girl, and I almost never think about my body in relation to fat. [/quote]
  
  Then you might not even understand that standard-girl-fat-craziness issue. That does not mean it doesn’t actually exist. It actually does exist in some lives and minds.[/quote]
  
  While I understand what you are saying, I am objecting to the fact that apparently it is standard and normal to be obsessed about one’s weight, to the point where it apparently is causing stress and psychological harm to women specifically on a daily basis.
  
  I think that is a horrible mindset, and regardless of truth we should be trying to change it. I’ve seen too many girls thinking that way because they think it’s normal and acceptable.
  
  It’s disgusting.
  
  Anyway, I did understand what you meant.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• Why does she always pick out something to argue about?
  

  [quote experience_drive]maybe she is pushing you to see if you will give up or keep fighting.[/quote]
  
  I’ve been here for four years now, and I’ve lived through two attempted suicides on her part - my actions being the only thing between her and death.
  
  I don’t think it’s that, I’m sorry. If it is that I would be furiously angry because, I mean, come on. I’ve done absolutely everything for her.
  
  [quote JellyBelly]Make her feel secure about her body. Love and treasure it…consistently. Then she will feel Ok with her body around you and not bring up the “fat” issue as much….but still once in awhile, it’s a girl thing.[/quote]
  
  
  I would like to point out that I am a girl, and I almost never think about my body in relation to fat. I am at a healthy weight and intend to remain this way through my eating habits and exercize, but I don’t think of said eating habits and exercize as something I do for my weight but for my general health. Weight’s just a benefit.
  
  Anyway, I would like to thank everyone for their responses and opinions thus far. I was rather angry when I wrote that, but it’s nice to see what people think about why she’s always doing this to me. Also, to clarify, she’s not arguing with me 24/7. It’s only when we’re actually in an argument, which… it’s not really rare or anything, I mean, we “argue” like any couple does about little things, it’s not really like angry or anything but just us having different opinions. But it just annoys me so much that every time I say some really long speech, or type one even, she picks out the one teeny tiny disagreeable thing out of it! It makes me feel like she’s ignoring me for the sake of argument.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• I just want to shoot myself.
  

  This isn’t the end of joy. This is a new beginning.
  
  Don’t waste the gift that has been given to you. Don’t shoot yourself. There is joy in new beginnings that cannot be found anywhere else.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• Why does she always pick out something to argue about?
  

  [quote King Rowass]Your girl is fat? Or no? Or halfway?[/quote]
  
  “Overweight” says the doctor, but not by much. I think she’s absolutely lovely, though, she doesn’t look fat at /all/.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• What should you set your air conditioning to in the summer?
  

  I set it to like 78-82 and we get by fine.
  
  We also live on the coast, so. :/
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

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