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He’s playing mind games in my opinion.

[quote Anonymous]He kept on bringing them up, he kept on making me feel like i wasnt good enough for him. now i cant seem to get them outta my head?? would he have been doing it to raise his self-esteem?[/quote]

If he acts as though he is too good for you, I’d suggest you find someone who treasures you for who you are. If you have asked him to stop and he has not made an effort, he isn’t showing you the respect you deserve. He sounds manipulative.

Take the time while he is in jail to get in touch with the women’s services in your area. They will help you, as would therapy to build your esteem back up so that you will never put yourself or your children in this position again. I know it is very hard to end an abusive relationship but you can do it. There is support out there.

Survival of the fittest baby! ;)

Chances are that if you doubt his sincerity in taking you seriously, he isn’t taking you seriously. What has he done to you?

[quote Joshy Woshy Poshy][quote miss_enigma]I shaved but I had no idea it was no shave November. Had I known well……………. I would have shaved anyway :P[/quote]

Uhm….. well its the thought that counts Miss_E :P[/quote]

I can’t help it, I’m just vain that way lol.

I shaved but I had no idea it was no shave November. Had I known well……………. I would have shaved anyway :P

My sister and I had about the same age difference, her being younger. She used to make my life hell and get me in trouble all the time. She was incredibly manipulative. Could this be the case with your kids? Is your youngest monopolizing your attention and your older daughter getting on your nerves because she feels left out? Could you blame her?

Your eldest clearly is seeing something that troubles her and makes her feel less loved. I don’t think getting angry with her is going to help. I agree that you should perhaps show her more love and talk to her and find out what she needs from you in her own words. Otherwise this will only continue and how do you think she would feel about her mother saying she hates her? Ouch!!

Thank you! Here ya go *throws cake in your general direction* :D

[quote Sans][quote miss_enigma]Hehehehe!! I am loving those Chippendales!! I missed the post on Lum Sans!! I thought everyone forgot! What a wonderful surprise, I appreciate all the wishes so much. Thank you :)Sorry I’m late Sans, I didn’t see the post you made on Luminosity until now, don’t know how I missed it, geez.

Thank you thank you thank you! :)[/quote]

No worries, hope you had a great one. Just out of curiosity, which Chippendales did you like best, the animated ones or the shirtless ones lol?[/quote]

I honestly liked the furry ones better lol. Those shaved dudes kinda seem plastic and creepy hehehe.

Hehehehe!! I am loving those Chippendales!! I missed the post on Lum Sans!! I thought everyone forgot! What a wonderful surprise, I appreciate all the wishes so much. Thank you :)Sorry I’m late Sans, I didn’t see the post you made on Luminosity until now, don’t know how I missed it, geez.

Thank you thank you thank you! :)

It sounds as though you are having some trouble with anxiety. Try taking some deep breaths and assessing what the worst is that can happen and what you would do so that you can feel more confident and comfortable, more in control of these situations. If you feel you can’t calm yourself you might need to seek out a counselor or therapist to help you find out why you are feeling anxious.

Happy Birthday Lilies! Enjoy your day :)

I read the title and was like “WTF?!” then I read the post and all is well and right once again in my little universe.

Phew! That was close.

Sans is right Baba, I have faced depression at times in my life and it goes away when I feel ok with my lack of control over the universe lol. I too suffered from stomach problems, my son does too. He also presents as angry when anxious. I encourage him to get that anger out and I think the best thing we can do is teach them to use the language of feelings. Also in turn to acknowledge and become familiar with their feelings. It’s suppressing them that causes tummy aches.

On the bright side, your son is experiencing this likely because he is insightful and sensitive. Two traits that will serve him well once he learns more about himself and others. He must be a very bright boy indeed, exceptionally so. Is he creative? You could encourage him to paint, draw, write or pursue music which are all excellent ways of expressing one’s self.

Try to think less of this as a lifelong sentence and more like an awakening to who he is and how he can accept and embrace the person he is, in a positive way. How this bout with anxiety and being down can teach him so much that will serve him well in this life.

Strategies that will help him feel in control of his atmosphere will help too, also teaching that things sometimes are out of his control and “what’s the worst that will happen?” and how would he react to them and make it “ok” for himself.

You are bright and loving so I’m sure you will think of ways to help him, you already have Baba.

What’s that saying? That God doesn’t hand us anything we can’t handle? He has faith in you, for good reason ;)