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• I’m definitely having trouble coping with my soon to be “dad’s wife”. posted (11 months) ago
  I honestly can’t even bring myself to call her a stepmother. They’re supposed to marry t…

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  It was fairly hard to figure out controls and such anyway, but I have the hang of most if it now. …

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• I’m definitely having trouble coping with my soon to be “dad’s wife”.
  

  Not sure anymore, but I think he’s just VERY oblivious.
  - written 11 months ago

• I’m definitely having trouble coping with my soon to be “dad’s wife”.
  

  [quote Silverwings]Wowo… sounds like you really have your hands full…. and I am thinking it will get progressivly worse, esp. after they marry. I def. like the counselor idea, and think you should get started asap… you might want to copy this post, and give it to the couselor… it would bring her up to date.
  
  Also, I think I would go to the police, and tell them, that you are having difficulty with someone who is getting very close to your father, and ask them if there are any steps that they can rec. that you take.
  
  Finding out more about her, is a very good thing, research friends, family, relationships.. etc. any info. that you can find out, will be helpful. Also, if you can’t do this, it might be wise to contact a private investigator.
  
  With all the crazy things going on nowdays, it pays to go the second mile, I believe.
  
  If she gets physical with you, you have the right to call the police yourself.. and I would highly rec. it. Every time. this will help you to establish a pattern, if one starts occuring. Also, it will put her on alert, that you are not going to let her walk all over you.
  
  She is showing that she has zero respect or she would not take your stuff, without asking.[/quote]
  
  
  That all sounds like a really good plan, and I’m sure I could get my mom to help with that.
  Do you know how I would go about talking to the police/ a private investigator?
  
  There’s honestly just something that I can’t trust about her ontop of all those things..
  I’m sort of afraid she’ll show her true colors AFTER the wedding and use it as leverage.
  
  We all sort of predict that she’ll guilt him out of a pre-nuptial by saying “Oh, are you planning on divorcing me? Or do you not trust me?!” and cry.
  And then she’ll start acting worse towards us, like so bad that he’ll have to get a divorce and then she’ll get a ton of his stuff.
  She already dictates enough financially, she doesn’t even like when he buys us shampoo.
  - written 11 months ago

• I’m definitely having trouble coping with my soon to be “dad’s wife”.
  

  I think I’m going as far as to being paranoid.
  
  But she’s constantly putting nuts in things and she should know I’m allergic.
  At my dad’s birthday party she bought a cake with walnuts, and claimed she forget and that she’d scrape them off.
  I probably should’ve said no, because there was a **** ton of walnuts in the cake still.
  I ate a small bite and I was flushed, my heart rate was crazy, and I threw up in the bathroom.
  
  Plus like a few days ago she told me to try this bread thing she made, and I asked what it had in it because it looked like there were pieces of things and she said it was plain.
  But then my dad was like..
  “Bev, I thought I saw you put nuts in them..Leah is allergic”
  And then she’s like
  “OH YEAH..there are walnuts and almonds in them. You’re allergic?”
  - written 11 months ago

• I’m definitely having trouble coping with my soon to be “dad’s wife”.
  

  I’m sure it would, but even then I doubt my dad would press charges.
  
  And Caroline, I could see her being passively physical like with the pin.
  **** like the pin, my room was unlocked and dad said she was in there for some reason.
  Plus they were the same kind she was using on those blankets.
  Weird?
  - written 11 months ago

• I’m definitely having trouble coping with my soon to be “dad’s wife”.
  

  If I could see my previous counselor, who I really want to see anyway because of this and other issues..
  I think it’d be an excellent idea.
  
  I just really am terrified of a group session, I can’t even stand to be in the same room as her for the most part.
  She’s fairly intimidating for a 53 year old woman.
  This is probably irrational, but I’m kind of scared that she may try to get physical.
  I found a pin in my bed not long ago.
  - written 11 months ago

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