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• I’m having trouble. posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  I don’t really know how else to put it. I’m 26, I’m a temp, I get paid $15 an hou…

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• I’m having trouble.
  

  [quote slimline2]He is only trying to help in a good way ,what more can you ask for???[/quote]
  
  I can ask that he not ask for something and then not let me provide it. I can ask that he not put pressure on me (when I already have plenty) to do something that is not financially responsible. Yes, I need to pay off my debts. But saving for a house? How on earth is that even a priority right now when I have so much to pay off?
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I’m having trouble.
  

  [quote Da⌐11]What does your boyfreind do around the house?[/quote]
  
  It’s his job to make the bed, wash/rotate the laundry, put away the clean dishes, pick up his own stuff, and do the heavy lifting. He usually cooks because he knows how and I don’t. He does more but it’s lots of little things, like airing out the house and feeding my cat when I’m in a rush. I don’t even have to ask.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

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  [quote annlovestars *]I think we are hitting the core a lot of things here.Sedatives I would only use if nothing else works.Do you like any sports, maybe cycling ?I think indeed you might need therapy first to learn how to focus on relaxing more.You should take like an half an hour a day, to just sit and listen to music,or bike somewhere.let all those thoughts come to you, and then, let them pass by.Let them sink in and release it again.[/quote]
  
  I’ve been trying to meditate every day for at least ten minutes. And if I actually DO manage to let go for a little while, within the next ten minutes I’m right back to being a stressed out ball of anxiety all over again. And I recognize that it’s a choice, I *choose* to let these things bother me, but it seems like I don’t know how NOT to choose that route, no matter how often I try. I swim sometimes, I ride horses, I fence, I spin yarn, I knit, I g for walk, it never lasts. It doesn’t even usually help past the first five minutes out. Invariably I start dwelling on all the other crap going on in my life.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I’m having trouble.
  

  [quote annlovestars *]Well getting out of debts isn’t something that goes away overnight, he should now that. I’m sure that if you notice that those debts will decrease bit by bit, you will feel better more and more. As I can sense form all of this, you really needto take some time off and go do things YOU want.Try to like yourself agian, more, better :)Do little things that make you smile. Try to find an open space and just sit there.Listen to the silence.[/quote]
  
  Been trying that. All I ever seem to do is feel more anxious as time goes by. I know it’s silly, but if I take time to just sit and relax, I don’t relax, I get more stressed because there are all these things like the laundry needs folding or I should call so-and-so oh and the bills need to go out and the papers need filing and what about dinner and I forgot to wash those dishes and the garbage should go out and I really ought to put gas in the car and do I need to go to the store and and and… the list goes on. It’s like this little voice buzzing in my head that won’t shut up and I can’t seem to get a moment’s rest. There’s ALWAYS more to do, there’s ALWAYS something more important that I ought to be doing instead of sitting still. And when I go to bed I’m invariably kicking myself for not having done as much as I should.
  
  It’s a terrible vicious cycle, but it just won’t stop, no matter how much I try to concentrate on how pretty the grass is or how slow I’ve made my breathing. I’m seriously wondering if I just need some form of sedative.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I’m having trouble.
  

  [quote simon_wra]The problem maybe is that they are expensive. Maybe there is some group-thearapy-group you could join, they shouldnt be too expensive. Otherwise you seem like a real nice and caring person, and you are doing so many positive things, so you can really pat yourself on the back. Oh well, dont know if this helps or not, i just wanted to write something maybe helpful. From Simon.[/quote]
  
  I don’t suppose you have any suggestions for looking one up? I wouldn’t even know where to begin.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

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