Yea i can see that… i think you and the others were right… and with you all the saying the same things… it kinda got through to me that i am not gonna beable to change if i am still in the same situation doesn’t matter how much i try..
But sometimes, when you find out so many others agree with the course of action that will require courage, it can help you know you’re doing the right thing and overcome the mental obstacles that are keeping you from doing it. I hope we were able to help you with that a bit. . .
I understand about the privacy thing - that’s why I suggested you might want to go ahead and post your issue anonymously. That way you can get lots of people’s opinions. And there really are a lot of wise people of all ages on here who can offer advice from all perspectives. So maybe wait a bit and then write out the story and post, clicking the anonymous button, and no one will tie it back to your username. But I’m happy to talk with you here if you’re OK with that.