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how can you say you’re not procrastinating and surfing the net…when you’re on here??

have a break for a sec, staring wont work.
have a cup of tea, and a little snack, and while you’re munching draw out a brainstorm, or a thought bubble or whatever they’re called….and get down all the ideas you have for the essay, no matter how small.
this way, its all down on paper, so you can see everything and not forget bits.
then just link those ideas into sentences, and ta da!

dont let it overwhelm you, take it paragraph by paragraph, and reward yourself when you’re done.
give yourself something to look forward to when its over.

good luck.x

thats because this is a site for people with problems, who want help.
not little dicks who **** around at school and have no concept of life outside it.

grow up, the lot of you.
waste of my ******* time.

Yeah you need to get out and about and enjoy yourself.
You’re at a difficult age when you rely on family and friends to prop you up.

Keep strong though. Life will never be so bad that its not worth living.

The world is full of people who will care, you just have to find them.
They’re not strangers, they’re potential friends.

Be nice, they’ll be nice back.
And then you don’t have to worry about getting shouted at by your crap non-friend.

chin up darling, it could always be worse.xxx

Remember though that after an accident you do suddenly feel a million times more needy, and appreciative of those around you, (and those that you’ve lost = you!).

So don’t be too suprised if he pops up well and healthy in a few weeks, being the arsehole he was before.
If he wants you, he has to show you he’s willing to work for you.
You’re not his nurse, or his toy, so don’t let him treat you that way.

Its lovely that you care, and that even though he treated you badly, you’re there when he needs you.
But don’t ever let him treat you badly again.
You’re not a game to be played when he feels like it and discarded when he doesn’t.

You’re (obviously) a very caring, sensible person. Keep it that way. :)

Yeah ok that sounds good. She is still very young, we found her wandering on the road, i nearly ran her over!!
so i have no idea what happened with her mother, or if she had ever been weaned at all.
I’ll leave a bowl out and keep her dropped-up!

thanks guys.x

Ok in that case i wouldn’t worry too much.
It was just a little message. If they were having a full-on fling behind your back, it would be more obvious than that.
Its just natural jealousy, he’s yours and you want to keep him, so anything like that will feel like a threat.

Don’t torture yourself with those online networking things, in the end, its the real people, the real friends that count.
I got facebook just to check on my then-boyfriend. I regretted it because there were lots of photos of him with girls i dont know, but nothing i could prove. It just drove me insane.

Try not to let it get to you, move on and have a nice day out somewhere with your boy.
Get yourself all dressed up pretty and remind him why he fell for you in the first place.
He might have called her pretty, but he’s with YOU. So you are far more important.

dont worry love, chin up!! xxx

Careful.
If he hurt you before he can hurt you again.
You’re probably right, an accident can really prioritise your life and make you think about what you really want.
But you havent had an accident. remember, you got dumped, harshly.
Don’t let your pity for him be the reason you let him back.
Before you guys can work again you need to be able to truly forgive and forget, so he needs to be truly sorry.

Take it easy and slow, you’ve got your whole lives to get back together if thats really what you both want.
Dont rush back into anything and end up in the same pile you were before.
Just watch your step, thats all.

i dont want to get her into the habit of drinking from me though,
id like her to learn to use a bowl so i know she’ll be ok to drink when im out.

can you train cats?!?!

You’re not wrong, you’re naturally a bit jealous.

It depends, if hes doing it all secretly and talking to her only when you’re not around….then id worry.
If its just a general observation, or just trying to be nice….then don’t worry!

The worst thing you can do is just sit and panic.

You’re both very young, so you must both realise that this probably wont last forever.
Between the ages of 14 and 18, people change A LOT. sometimes into people you wouldnt even recognise anymore.

It might just be that you are growing apart, and that its time to face the fact that he wont be around forever.

If you’ve been together this long, you must have dealt with some nasty **** before.
Talk to him honestly, tell him how you feel, but do not, i repeat DO NOT accuse him of anything.
If everything is alright, he’ll tell you you’re just being silly and that you’re the one he wants.
If he goes mental….you might have a bit of a defensive problem there…

But either way, whatever happens, you’ll be fine.
17 is tough, especially being a girl. But by the time you’re 20 you’ll be looking back and laughing.
and trust me…20 might seem years and years away now…
but you’ll blink and you’ll be 25.

just make the most of your youth, please dont spend it worrying!! xxx

yeah dont involve the dinner-lady. shes just doing her job, and someone has to clean that **** up.
Just make it clear that if she tries to do it again, she’ll pay for it.

On the other hand, completely ignore her.
She’ll keep throwing it if you keep bringing it back.
You’re not playing fetch here…its your lunch.

Tell your friend to leave the bottle at home, then old dwarf-features can’t throw ****.
Tell this little freak to leave you both alone or the bottle will be coming back, and going straight up where the sun don’t shine.

dont take this **** from a midget!

Yeah so he’s a freak!!!
He’s got a girlfriend, he should be looking at her.
He’s clearly not trustworthy, so why are you still interested???

You dont HAVE to have a boyfriend.
the right boy will find you and you’ll know he’s right because he wont be STARING AT OTHER GIRLS!!!

please, dont put yourself through this.
just let him go.

its true, even if you were with him, its clear he has no respect for his girlfriend.
if you were his girlfriend, he’d just be staring at someone else.
move on and find somebody who wants you, and just you.
there’s billions of us out there, so don’t ever think that there’s just one for you.
there’s always more fish in the sea. (just avoid those creepy starey sharks…)

you don’t need to be rich to be noticed.
and you don’t have to present a perfectly polished finished product….

if you’ve got a good idea, present it the best you can, and send it around to publishers etc.
its their job to make it look all fancy for selling.

ok clearly you are an attractive girl.
you’re sporty, slim and healthy.
And you have the guts to dress and act the way YOU want.
not the way EVERY other girl does.
be proud of that. that makes you different.

if a guy is interested in you because you are “hot” and nothing else…then he’s not worth it.
if a guy is interested in you, because you are a healthy, confident girl…then he is.

don’t try and change to suit others!!
don’t try and be “hot”.
because even if that does land you the man of your dreams, he’ll eventually realise that you are just acting,
you will get bored of pretending to be interested in his **** stories and you’ll be back to square one.
thats why you get dumped for other girls, its not because they are hotter than you.
its because they are just being who they are.

think about it….if a guy was clearly trying really hard to look like a skateboarder, growing his hair and wearing baggies just to impress you,…you’d think he was a bit of a try-hard knob.

whereas the bloke who really is a skateboarder, who really doesn’t care about his clothes or his hair, the one who looks relaxed and happy with who they are…..you’d like him.

its all about confidence.
if you love you, so will everybody else.

and besides, once you’ve got one. you’ll be desperate to get rid of him.
honestly my love, the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing…….seriously over-rated.

just concentrate on what makes YOU happy. :)
xxx