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• my husband is having second thoughts on a baby when I am already due on the 20th.
  

  Men often experience cold feet during pregnancy with strong protective and parental instincts kicking in when the baby is born. Don’t fight unecessarily. Remind him he is your top priority; that you love him and need him. Remain steady.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Why are people so cruel to fat/obese people?
  

  People are cruel because they are cruel. But there’s a social mechanism surrounding this particular example. People sometimes attack what they fear or fear to become themselves. The truth is there’s a healthy component to this otherwise negative situation. Peer pressure encouraging eachother to stay healthy and fit is good. I have also struggled with a weight issue, and I anticipate (based on conversations with others) that your first reaction to what I am about to write will be one of rejection. You may not accept or believe this, but the way to lose weight is actually the easiest thing in the world - just eat less. All this propoganda about diets, pills, metabolism is just people disseminating falsehoods to take your money. Eat less. The mass of any system equals its initial mass plus mass added minus mass removed. It’s a law true for every dynamic system including our own bodies. Just eat less and you will gradually lose weight.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Do you believe people grow into their names?
  

  Choosing a baby’s name is a very important matter warranting careful consideration. Look here for advice: http://babynames.merschat.com/advice.cgi. I know adults named Angel, Carol, etc. These are both beautiful names. It’s also true how a name sounds when given to a baby should not be the only consideration. Bear in mind, one day your daughter may aspire to be a prominent political figure or professional. Laurel can be traced back to both English and French roots related to the laurel tree or sweet bay tree symbolic of honor and victory. What a great selection your parents made Jesus Murphy.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I really need unique baby names.
  

  Whether other people like the names is only one factor. Here are some other considerations:
  
  1 Gender. An initial consideration is the baby’s gender. Knowing this will considerably narrow the field. Make sure your selections are gender-appropriate. Don’t choose a girl’s name for a boy or vice versa.
  
  2 Ancestry. Including the name of an ancestor or loved relative is a noble consideration. What were the names of your great grandparents? Perhaps these would make suitable middle names. It shows family pride, tradition, and heritage.
  
  3 Help. Use good baby name sites or books. Try http://babynames.merschat.com. Initially, gather several options then use guidelines that follow to thin down the list. Give yourself every chance of success. Certainly, ending up with zero names on the list won’t work and may leave you feeling defeated or disappointed. In-fact, you might keep 2 or 3 options on the list until the baby is born saving the final selection for that special moment.
  
  4 Meaning. Take care in selecting names with flattering meanings. Meaning considerations should include not only the literal translation, but historical as well. Avoid overly cute names. In Chinese culture, babies are sometimes given a “milk name” such as “Cutie” at birth, or two characters that sound cute when said together. However, these are not appropriate legal names. Remember, one day the child will be an adult. In China, permanent names are chosen within a month of birth which is or has been the period allowed before registration. Refrain from using negative meanings. Desdemona is a Greek name for girls meaning “of the devil”, Fraco is a Spanish name for boys meaning “weak”, and Alda is a German name for girls meaning “old”. Instead, collect options that mean sweet, strong, graceful, or noble. Literal translations should include different languages. Muet may sound like a pretty name for a girl, but it means “dumb man” in French. Consider how the name might be abbreviated or used to form profane rhymes or nicknames such as “Farty Arty”, etc. On the other hand, predict nicknames you may like such as Stephen as Steve. And finally, be aware of meanings formed by initials as well. For example, Daniel Otto Griffin (DOG), or Angela Paige Eade (APE) may not be the best selections.
  
  5 Association. Are religious affiliations important to your family? Names of Saints may be desirable. Past Presidents, leaders, or prominent historical figures can be attractive. Research the names to assure no derogatory connotation. Unfortunately, otherwise acceptable names such as Adolph or Attila fall into this category. Attila and “scourge of God” have at one time been considered synonyms.
  
  6 Experience. Life is constantly changing, but there’s no reason to choose a name that conjures up painful memories of places, experiences, or previous relationships.
  
  7 Continuity. How does baby’s name fit in with the rest of the family? Fathers sometimes wish to name their first son after themselves. How does the name sound when spoken or written on a Christmas card together with baby’s brothers and sisters?
  
  8 Pronunciation. The full name must flow well through first, middle, and last. Think about whether it’s easy to say and spell. Say the full name out loud several times to feel and hear it yourself. Ask if it’s easily confused with another name. Kirsten is often misspoken as Kristen. Do you want your daughter correcting people her entire life?
  
  9 Popularity. What matters most is whether the husband and wife like their child’s name. Compromise is recommended during these negotiations. Let selecting your baby’s name be a positive experience maximizing the satisfaction of both parents even if both don’t get everything they want. Next come opinions of grandparents and extended family. Then friends. Remember, popularity changes over time. Avoid selecting names based on the latest fad or trend.
  
  10 Commonality. Whether baby’s name is common or unusual is a personal decision but a factor worth consideration. Names that are too unusual may evoke teasing from other children. On the other hand, a less common name enforces the special distinction of their unique nature.
  
  
  Either way, congratulations and I hope I’ve helped ease this important decision.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• My husband constantly calls other women angel, beauty,
  

  You should love him for him including his faults. You should also make sure your needs are met. Some may not realize they’re making a mistake until they see how it appears from the outside. Reciprocity is one way to test a concept’s health. If he truly believes it’s healthy to call other women “hun” (and maybe it truly is just a polite / friendly way he deals with people), then he would have no issue with you calling other men “hun”.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

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