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Some cultures breast feed for years. In hippy circles, elder children where allowed to have a go once the baby was finished. In my world, there is mounting support for allowing breastfeeding in public. Yay for boobies.

Why don’t why farm women? hmmm, I;d be afraid to answer that.

I remember your strong stance on agnosticism, to the point of absurdity, but you throughly earnt my respect with your knowledge, wit, consistency on the matter. I then heard that you were one of the “ancients”, something that sounded - awesome.

I remember the way you handled yourself in a mild flame war - class. That some users I admired were named by you, that you had artistic flair, you had thought through opinions on may topics that I disagreed with and enjoyed doing so. Many more, but that’s enough for todays ego.

The two things that stick in my mind are - the thing you were proud of; getting shat on and surviving, and two - that you exist/create/bring - not just another clone.

And another hurrah for LazyDaze! Thanks for helping out.

cool

oooo, and you just have to get a matching hat or fascinator darling…

side note: do you happen to remember the movie Braveheart? There was a superb man in that film that referred to Ireland as “my island”. To even be associated with him by referring to my country make me feel ALIVE!

The weathers only going to get better :-)

I’m a fan of yoga, gets you sorted in lots of ways.

If you want to loose weight, then just get some regular exercise built into your day. if you just go “I’m go to the gym” then when you can’t be bothered you won’t go. Join some team sport of decide to walk to school etc. Oh, and eating right.

If you want to tone up, pilates creates a fine female form.

Have you ever felt safe?

what’s it going to take for you to be able to move from this abusiveness?

Sending you some positive vibes…

tng rant - doesn’t matter, just ignore it.

when you realise that the person you are worried about upsetting has completely forgotten it, are you able to let it go?

If they don’t mind, why carry the guilt? I know I still do, but can’t figure out why. would be nice to move on. I think it because I have an idea of myself, an image of who I am, and when I upset someone, it goes against that image.

or it could be that when I upset my parents, I got extreme punishments.

just got to move on then. carrying guilt for no purpose.

I was hurt deaply very young, and I guess I still carry the vauge hope deep down of an apology. maybe letting go of that is a plan…

so why do you think you apologise more than most?

tangent rant…

I confronted my dad with a carefully laid out plan, explained the reasons why I was mad at him, and had been my whole life. He took it well, partly because he’s now a grown up. He offered to apologise, but I’d already said I didn’t want one. don’t quite know why. he then said he was proud of me - first time ever. I told him he had been a jerk, and he no respects me. last time I tried it, he hit me. was it because I am now bigger than him, or that he has grown up, or that I am no longer a threat. who knows ,letting go, moving on.

ahh apologies, what strange things they are.

end rant.

what did you need to do before you were comfortable saying that?

did you need permission to say it?
Or perhaps a vision of the future that didn’t need the past?
or that you felt you had learnt enough lessons from it?

I ask, as I’m still reintegrating my past into a different future.

thanks for the offer.

thing is, she isn’t at all angry. It’s not that she doesn’t forgive, it’s honestly that she doesn’t remember.
At the time, she was so sad about us breaking up, but I was cool with it. I comforted her by saying (and knowing )she’d be fine. A year on, I was right. Yay. No if I can just be that smart about my own angst.

Have you ever wanted to apologise about something to someone that didn’t even remember it?

do you think time solves things? I see that as too passive, taking credit away from the effort people put in. It’s true, time is needed, but so is talking to people. like you :-)

apolgising make you feel better? bam, hadn’t thought about that, but it surely can. I wanted to apologise, and I wanted her to accept it. I was hurt because she didn’t.

and flying is sweeeet.

[quote HARVARDgirl!! :)]

yes blame is too strong…
ur welcome in fact good wishing is all i can do…
feeling low…because s.o who u love doesn’t love u anymore….i assume time heals any injures,u need time 2 get over it…
may i ask what she said?!why doesn’t she love u anymore?![/quote]
thanks

The story seems silly now. My father ( who I was big time annoyed at ) kindly asked if I’d enjoyed christmas holidays. I had traveled interstate with partners family and had good time, but it was a sad time too, as I missed my long term love, mother, own family etc. I was annoy at my dad and stupidly said that I hadn’t had a good time. A week later she told me how upset this made her, as she thought we had had a good time. I was going through a dumb stage and didn’t apologise. this was towards the end of the relationship, but we handled it well otherwise. It was one of the few times she was upset with me, only time maybe.

a year passes, she is single for 6 months, dating for three months, married for three months to a truely great guy, that also suits her well.

Today she messaged me, and I brought it up and apolgiesed. silly maybe, but it was bugging me. I did have a good time with her and her family, and didn’t like the idea of her thinking otherwise. I said was just grumpy with my dad.

She said she didn’t remember it, but she did remember the grumpy.
ouch.
thats what hurt.

I was trying to deal with so much angst, but at the same time not letting it get me down.