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How are things going for you now?

well to be honest a little down and i guess lonely. today wasnt bad but i am really feeling tired of doin it alone…..

well to be honest a little down and i guess lonely. today wasnt bad but i am really feeling tired of doin it alone…..

well to be honest a little down and i guess lonely. today wasnt bad but i am really feeling tired of doin it alone…..

well to be honest a little down and i guess lonely. today wasnt bad but i am really feeling tired of doin it alone…..

HHHEEEELLOOO are you okay? just wanted to check on you. dont make me put you on the “have you seen me” board at walmart…lol

hope all is good !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You are very welcome. How are things going! I hope you are doing good!! :)

Well you did the right thing, I’m glad it went well and I hope you will stay strong.
I wish you the best of luck hibbie :)

Your welcome, I love to help when I can, did everything work out okay?

well I think you are doing whats best and just stay occupied and positive. give yourself time to adjust and take things from there. even if you choose getting back together at least you will have figured out that its what u really want. and by the way I am proud of you! keep me posted and i am here if you need to talk

im doing okay…thanks for caring enough to ask. i had forgotten what taking care of an infant is like…lol, teething, midnight feedings, ect.i love the little guy but this was a good form of birth control. your encouragement means alot. i take Jaedon to the doctor tomorrow so i am a little anxious. but like you said…one hurdle at a time. so enough about me…how are you fairing..any headway? i hope you had a good day. i miss our chats too!

omg, i feel like i am on the verge of a nervous breakdown…why can i never seem to get a break!! first off i have been appointed temporary custody of my 8 mnth old nephew, he is a good baby but 2 jobs a 5 yr old and now this my plate couldnt get any more full. to top it off jaedons school called me yest (he has had trouble focussing and is showing signs of a.d. d, ) this has been going on for quit some time, but they called and said that he is making statements about hurting himself. wtf! i have an appoint to get him evaluated at a behavioral center. they say he crys about not having a daddy and he thinks i am gonna leave 2. they feel this stems from the separation from me and his dad. every role model(male ) in his life has left, my dad , his father, and my brother who just resently came back in the picture. i know he is acting out for attention, but how do i provide more when i have no choice but to work two job. i do this to provide him with a nice home and somewhat a normal lifestyle….and being that his father refuses to help out financially…i dont have a choice….i am so angry! but i also blame myself…my messed choice for a partner has now resulted in the creation of a little boy forced to wonder why his father lert him and doesnt love him. he comes home from school to a mother who is completly exhausted and is forced to share me with 2 jobs that keep me so busy i can barely keep up! i feel so shitty and now my worst fears are becoming reality…nothing hurts like knowing your child is hurting..i am afraid they may suggest medication and i dont want him to be affected by my poor decision making. there is such a history of addiction in my fam..dad and bro heroin addicts and alcoholics on both sides…i am physically and mentally drained and to be honest madd as hell that is dad just left me holding the bag trying to figure out how to be a mother and a father….I HATE HIM for this!!well thanks for being the someone i can vent to. i hope you are doing well today!!!sorry to be “debbie downer”

i have no doubt you are doing the right thing. i believe you know it too and that you are just afraid. i think that even if you put this off you are bound to come to the same conclusion. but you can only do this when u are ready and i understand that as well.its scary…but isnt it scarier living your life in doubt like this..

whatever your decision, i support you because only you have to live it.

with that said, i am here to listen…without judgement….

good luck, my friend

damn i did it again….left the shout to myself….yeah i get the big idiot award of the day!!!lol

hey you! i have been trying to respond but the sight was givin me hell..are you okay…i’m worried. i have been sick so i wasnt on but get back to me asap…

I’m really not too smart, this course is just easy for the most part, and i actually do everything im supposed to.

nope, i have an 87%

if i completely failed my exam and didn’t do any questions i would get a 76%

Thank you, i wish you luck also.

Worried… i know i guess i shouldn’t be because even if i get a 0% on my exam i’ll get a 76% in math.

aw i’m sorry to hear, that must be horrible. I’ve never had to make a decsion like that but i’m sure you’ll make the right decsion in the end.

umm just o.e, french, math, and english

I’m pretty horrible. Mostly because there are more family problems, plus the stress from all of my exams coming up next week, and i’m feeling super lonely lately. i don’t know really…

How are you?

well to answer your questions i think it comes down to the fear of the unknown..as for her parents…there must be a level of respect you feel for them…living with them and such. obviously they have shown you kindness and in a sense you view them as parents…who wants to disappoint anyone who has shown them such. plus you must know that they love thier daughter and the thought of hurting her, means in some way you hurt them. in my point of view you would be “breaking u” with them as well. that’s how i felt with my break-up. it would mean seperation with all of them, when they had become my family as well. but remember that it all comes down to your happiness and you can pretend so many years away at the expense of other people but most importantly YOURSELF

I have an example for you, my moms boyfriend had remained with his ex wife for 20 years for the sake of the kids. him and his wife agreed to “pretend they were a couple and now in adilthood they resent the father, the mother believed one day things woud chenge so accepted his relaionships with other women…eventually they divorced and the kids now grown men resent him because they feel the life they thought they had was a lie. he never was in love with her only trying to “do the right thing” all he did was waste years in which he could have found happiness and he says himself if he could do it over , he would do things differntly because niether of them were ever “really” happy. Just some food for thought. your concerns aren’t a bad thing they only show that you have consideration for others feelings.but if they knew how you really felt , they would agree that it would be best to part ways. this is such a tough spot for you and believe me i completly understand your hesitation

Thank you for the help.

If i make the decsion to live tonight, and i need help in the future i will shout you.

Have a goodnight.

Take care aswell

wow, you and i cant seem to connect. this is busy season at the job so i stay on the go…i did go on a blind date …aarrggg hated it! lol, but like a friend of mine said…gotta weed out the good from the bad…definitly no connection…another one bites the dust,lol. how are things with you. i miss our talks

where u been? hope u are okay!!

Tag…ur it! lol. well hope you have a great new year!!!

Well I am super, LOL
Just for fun, I will go back to LG soon :)

missing each other like ships in the night eh?

dont work too hard and have a great 2009

You too! i keep missing you on here. hope you are good. i have been working like a crazy woman….have to make back that santa money..

thank you sir!
she’s absolutely gorgeous!

good for you. I had the feeling you didn’t really want to leave her, but you needed a break.
A counselor would help, with suggestions.
Just make sure it’s the right kind of counselor.

Yeah, this is a good time to be thankful for what we have.
Me?…well, I had an infection in my leg and was on IV antibiotics for 8 days, but it’s cleared up now, thankfully.
On 7 December, my daughter blessed me with my first grandchild, Lily. I spent time with her today at our family Xmas party at my folk’s place. I start back to work full on 5 January.
Exciting times indeed!

If I don’t see you before, Happy Hogmanay! (happy new year!)

Thank you, I am glad you liked it. It definately helps to give a bit of perspective.
V x

hibbie!
Long time no see! How’s life treating you?

Happy Christmas!

Hey hi. Yeah Down Under is hot, lol. Summer time. Hows urself ? Where you from ?

i am glad you are feeling better!

to answer your question, no I did not tell jaedon…spared him the disappointment.

he loved the dog and the look on his face made all the effort worth it. All in all it was a good xmas.

I am working a 17 hour shift manyana….aaarrrgg, but have to make the money while it is out there to be made!

hope to chat with you soon…miss the talks…..ttyl

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!

Seasons Greeting and Happy Holidays

well my friend…i can sympathize with your doubts of the unknown…but i can tell you this much…if you settle for less than what makes you happy all you will ever end up with is just that…being unhapppy. comfortable is always easy…but, comfortable and unhappy is nothing less than misery…try this for a minute …reverse the roles and pretend it is someone else in your siuation…what would your advice be…it seems like you have given this a good and fair try with her…more than once, but it always seems to end up in the same place of doubt and discontent…like you told me , make a list…check it twice…lol(just trying to make u laugh) and if it is longer on the negative, then it seems time to make some changes…do you want to be with the one you cant live with…or the one you cant live WITHOUT. and dont feel like a screwup, change is always difficult,that is just human nature..

as for jaedons dad…no call no show…why does that not suprise me. either way, i can lay my head down and know I give my all…he can only lay his in shame..but at the end of the day,after all the long hours at work and the trials and tribulatons..i have peace…i have decided from today forward i will not let his neglect be my cross to bear…that guilt is his and i will let him carry it.

i really hope that you find the same peace i have …i was most afraid of being alone as well, but in doing so i learned alot about myself and now even if i find myself in a less fulfilling relationship, i can let it go because i know what i need and want…settling just isnt an option..

sorry for the novel, i hope it has helped no matter what you choose. just make sure it’s in your best interest

Well, I do most of the time. I try lol.

Haha your welcome.

Ok I love your picture!

i am sssoooo tired today. things are okay this way…could be better … but could be alot worse so i stay focused and thankful…hope things went well for u. well going to bed early…hopefully we can chat tomorrow…ttys…;-)

i do have one piece of advice for you..dont do anything until the holidays are over

he will be here on monday

hahah..his name is jaedon…i had alot of difficulty in the pregnancy..so i gave him that name because it means..God has heard…

but enough about me…how are u

good point! we just live sssoo far i dont know when my son would have the opportunity to see him again…aarrgg i am so torn….i wish i coud get a “do over”..lol

oops funny

by the way that pic is too finny..lol

he saw him last year thanksgiving…my son asks for him all the time and says he misses him. we live in 2 different states. and no! he owes me 15 thousand in back child suport. i really dont care about the money, but he is just so inconsistant(in the past)…i wouldnt care if he was there for him emotionally, but how many chances can i give at the expense of my sons feelings

oh ..my sons. his father called today, wants to see him. i just think it may do more harm than good. in out in out ….i dont want to take 3 steps back. he says he is flying in just to visit but i am concerned that it will effect my son negativly when he leaves…any suggestions..he does nothing for him financially but do i have the right to keep him from his father