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• I have been battleing with my 18 year old daughter for some time now.
  

  It is tough. My daughter is home, and behaving much better, though she still hasn’t found a job. I am making her do stuff around the house to help me and letting her run errands in my car, since hers is still in the shop. I have told her that we will not go back to letting her use the car as she pleases, that there will be much tighter control. I am enjoying her improved attitude, and only pray that it lasts!
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• I have been battleing with my 18 year old daughter for some time now.
  

  My daughter called me the day before yesterday and asked me to come and pick her up adn bring her home. She says she has learned a valuable life lesson. I certainly hope so, but as I explained to her when I picked her up from the trailer park where she was living with the boyfriend and his mother, Trust is something to be earned. I told her I will always love her and be there for her, but my trusting her as I did before with use of the car, etc., will be dependant on her behavior.
  
  It was the first good night’s sleep I have had since she left almost a month ago.
  
  Where did you get the gps thing?? That’s a great idea! I could get it installed before the car gets back here, as it is in for repairs right now.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• I have been battleing with my 18 year old daughter for some time now.
  

  Wow, this ’sweet daughter turned evil’ thing seems to be a blooming epidemic! I just came in to my computer because I couldn’t sleep, and typed my thoughts on google, which were “my 18 year old daughter left home”, and then read all these accounts of much the same thing I am going through. How sad. I really empathize with all of you.
  
  My daughter began ‘changing’ last year at 17. Not being honest with me as she had been before, and using language she hadn’t previously used, etc., and then after graduating this past June, she really went off the deep end, out every day and night with one friend or the other, and not calling to let me know she had arrived when driving somewhere… little things that gradually got much worse.
  
  We discussed the fact that she wanted to get out and ‘try it’ on her own, and we (her father and I) told her to come up with a plan, and show us how she planned on living, etc., and how she would meet expenses. She did a budget on paper, but it was based on a job that she didn’t yet have….. tried to figure out how she would take over payments on the car we got for her use, but again, figuring on the income she hadn’t yet made…..
  
  Then this summer, about July, she met this guy through some of her friends, and brough him home to meet us. He looked like a street hustler. She laughed when I told her that in private, and said ‘yeah, he’s a little gangster’. Well, little did I know that he would turn out to be exactly that! Who says you can’t judge a book by it’s cover??? Hmmmmmm
  
  At any rate, she took off with him and his mother about two weeks ago, and moved about 45 minutes away, exact location unknown to me, and has only called home twice in two weeks, once to say she was ‘ok’, and then a week later to ask if she could have ‘her’ car back and her cell phone back, both of which my husband and I are paying for. We told her ‘no’ in very certain terms, and she got mad and we haven’t heard back from her since.
  
  It’s really hard, she is my only girl, and I never dreamed any of this would happen. This boy is bad bad news. He helped her house-sit my neighbor’s dogs and he stole property and $$ from their house, he tried his little gangster act out on a couple of drunk guys at the gas station when he was with my daughter getting gas in ‘her’ car, and the drunks chased them with their truck and tried to run them off the road, doing over $2000 worth of damage to ‘her’ car that WE are paying for.
  
  My daughter refuses to see the danger he put her in on both occasions, let’s see, could have been jail or death! I just don’t know what has to happen for her to wake up!
  
  Thanks for listening!!
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

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