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sounds like good idea to spend time more honest friends. good luck :-)

Ok… have you tried cognitive behaviour therapy?… you say you are hurting your family…yes possibly true but mostly you are hurting yourself…

you say you don’t want to live anymore…

do you actually mean you don’t want to live in the way you are anymore?

cutting is a behaviour…not the whole of life

all behaviours have purpose even if it is based on illogical thinking

i really feel for you…it sounds lonely

hypnosis is good for some people… sounds silly but paul mckenna does a ‘change your life in 7 days’ cd that you listen to for about 20 mins a day and it could help… worth giving a go… good luck

You say you are seeing a doctor…Have you got a counsellor? Is it just self harm or have you other stuff going on … are you happy?

I think your friends sound a bit strange!!!! I guess you don’t normally hack into peoples’ private stuff??? I wonder if you did because you suspected that something didn’t ring true. My advice is to not get too fixated on this … maybe try and develop a wider circle of (real!)friends and then what these friends do will not be so important. The greatest goal in life is happiness :-) good luck

thank you rosi… so true… no answers… thanks for your empathy… you have mine x

I’m sorry tigergirl… you sound heart broken… … it is hard to give advise… i remeber that i kept a diary when i broke up with someone i loved very much about seven years ago…i was devastated but my diary did show me how my feelings began to change … i still read it sometimes to remind myself that even though timnes can be very very bleak things do change and get better… thinking of you

I agree with the Dr A M… respect is all ways… do your parents realise how you feeling? is there rational reason for dislike? Are they having hard time letting you go? would anyone your married be ‘good enough’? and do you think that they have real reason to dislike him?… blimey lots of questions… sorry!

Yes is a tough one…you sound a bit afraid of offending your parents??? agree with above comments…may also be tough on husband to feel excluded by dislike???? … marriage is a bond … we grow up and leave home hopefully prepared to make wise choices and secure enough to make new bonds …we give our loyalty out of choice when we marry…how do you get on with his family? How do they feel about your family’s attitude?

Thank you… really

do you have a dog…if not have you ever thought of getting one…sorry if that sounds stupid …i don’t mean it in a trivial way

What things do you like to do? Even just a little bit?

little steps. keep talking on here (good advise Manzybabe101 14!!!! wisdom beyond your years). Am i daft or would it not be natural to feel a bit abandoned???? what do you like to do? walk…paint…music…cook…dogs????

It is hardly surprising you still feel haunted. You are correct in saying ‘mind altering’…such expereinces do have impact on memory and processing as they happen so rapidly the mind cannot compute and store such extreme information… this leaves it scrambled in the mind and hence flash backs and nightmares…hope that does not sound too clinical…I hope you are being treated for PTSD. I feel lost for words but just feel for you as much as i can without ever having experienced such things. The things that people are asked to do…

Have you had any type of psychological support?… there is only so much anyone can take. it sounds horrendous hard for me to comprehend.