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[quote unsoshable]And no, I am not a cannible.[/quote] you should be. i’ts super fun.

ahh, so this is mostly an online relationship. well i would just be honest with her then. shoot her a message saying “hey, i noticed that you arent really replying to me any more, and i was wondering what’s up.” if she likes you and she’s just being wierd then she will reply, but if she doesn’t reply to that then id just back off and call it a loss. i mean, you can’t just keep sending her messages if she doesn’t reply. but i hope she does!

wow. well, that really depends on your personal feelings. i know girls and guys who have lost their virginity very young, fourteen or fifteen, and they are about a fifty-fifty mix of happy/unhappy about it. the national average for girls is about eighteen i think, but in different places it’s different. california i’ts about sixteen i think.
the thing is, i have met people who lost their virginity young and don’t regret it, but i have also met those who regret it hugely. HOWEVER i have never met anyone who has regretted NOT losing their virginity, and that is what makes me think it’s better to wait.
i personally belive that the most important thing to consider is not your age, but your reasons for having sex in the first place. is it because of your hormones? or because you actually love and trust another person, and want to be physically close to them? the first time can be awkward and scary, and doing with someone just for physical gratification can actually turn out horribly. but you know, sex can be a lot of fun, and if you are the kind of person who doesn’t really care that much about losing it, your virginity doesn’t have to be that big of a deal. it’s a big deal to ME, because of my own personality, but you may be completely different. and that’s fine.
so basically, id say that the correct age to lose your virginity is when youfeel ready. honestly, no one else can tell you when you are ready to do something this personal. just trust yourself.

some people are very closed off, i don’t know if she is that type of person, but if she is then you should keep trying.
she may never have had someone really try to break down her protective walls before. she may be scared of closeness.
or she just might not like you.
but for some reason i don’t think so…

delicious.

supremely delicious.

turn off your computer for a week, or challenge yourself not to talk to him for that length of time. go out more, spend some time with guys your own age. focus on other tings. instead of going online read a book or watch tv. when you feel like talking to him call one of your other friends. or just leave the house so u wont be tempted.
the fact is, i can only tell you what i think you should do. if you are determined to keep talking to him you will. you are the only person who can decide to stop. and it will be hard. but i think that you can do it, and that you will be a lot happier when it’s over.

lol i guess i just assumed you were a girl because i am and this is so simmilar to my own life…. wierd.
hello.:D

it sounds like a horrible experiance, and i am glad that no one was seriously hurt. you can’t let your fear of your father keep you from speaking out tho, it is very important to give yourself the most protection you can. if you really think that he would be capable of killing, then you should TELL someone that, a judge, or any athority figure, so that he knows he couldn’t get away with it. the more people know about your situation, the safer you will be.

[quote troubeleddude17]Well there is one more thing that bugs me…

Last time we were going to went out she called me and asked me if we could go the next day because she descided that she will go to another place with her girl friends.

Maybe I’m still not so important for her?
Altough the phone connection was pretty bad then and i couldn’t hear it all. She sed something about busses like she could’nt come to meet me or something because she missed a bus to get home first… I don’t know…[/quote]

there could be a lot of reasons for that… like you said she could have missed the bus, or she could have decided to go out with her girlfriends because they couldn’t hang out any other time and she knew you could, or a million other things.
i know you are shy, but the only reason you wouldn’t tell her you love her is because if she didn’t feel the same way, you might stop being friends, right? but you are ALREADY not really friends. she is not your friend. she is the girl you are in love with. and if you keep pretending to be her friend, you will end up hurting yourself and your relationship with her. so tell her! you can do it! be brave!

[quote tmds][quote hellohello]stop talking to him immediately, cut off all contact, and do your best to forget about him.
it seems harsh, but it’s what you have to do.
this is not the kind of person you want to be in love with.
you don’t even know the real him! you are in love with a fake person! how can you even know if anything he has ever told you is true?!

you really need to completely erase him from your life.
i hope you are ok, this is a horrible thing to have happen to you.
good luck.[/quote]

Thank you very much.but it seems like a habit to talk with him and be with him.I know i just cherish illusions on a fake man.but it’s hard to stop it.[/quote]

that is exactly why you HAVE t stop it. because he has wormed his way into your life and made you feel like you need him. like it’s naturall to talk to him. BUT IT’S NOT. it’s not natural, and it’s not healthy. you are a young person with your whole life ahead of you, and you will find someone to talk to and be with who is NOT a liar and a creep. you deserve that. don’t let yourself be exploited.
i really really hope you can find the strength to block him out of your life.
you can do it!

um, i have no idea what that nuttelex stuff is, but unsalted butter is probably your best bet. just watch it really really carefully to avoid burning.
good luck!

well DEFFINATELY dont use the peanut one, ewwww peanuts and apple pie. lol.

do you have any margerine?

you can try using butter, although that might make the crust burn. :(
do you have any crisco? that’s shortening, but it’s not vegetable… that would probably work.

hope this helps!

stop talking to him immediately, cut off all contact, and do your best to forget about him.
it seems harsh, but it’s what you have to do.
this is not the kind of person you want to be in love with.
you don’t even know the real him! you are in love with a fake person! how can you even know if anything he has ever told you is true?!

you really need to completely erase him from your life.
i hope you are ok, this is a horrible thing to have happen to you.
good luck.

look, i felt the same way you did when i started my senior year, and i ended up not even applying for college at all. i’m not saying that i recommend this, but there are tons of other options so no need to feel so much pressure. i took a year off of school, and i grew up a lot, figured out what i want from life, and now i am going back to school at a junior college and i am very happy.
just relax and take life one step at a time! you are still very young, and you have your whole life ahaed of you.
you can take your time.
breathe.

she obviously likes you a lot!
initiating conversations and wanting to stay late during your hangouts… yes i would say that even if she doesn’t feel the same way you do, she likes you enough to be open to it. and if not, i know for a fact that even if she turns you down she will be flattered by the attention and like you all the more for it. :)
deffinately go for it! tell her how you feel! and let me know how it goes!