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• I never imagined that I would be divorced. posted (1 year, 1 month) ago
  I live for my children, but how will i begin to fill the gaping hole left in my heart by my ex? I …

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• a question to everyone.
  

  letters to the editors would a place you could start. I wrote a really good inspirational letter once and sent it in…. unfortunately it was to long and they rejected it =( Check into their length restrictions before hand.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• Illegal Immigrants tell me what you think about them.
  

  OK, I see the debate and everyone is entitled to their own opinions about the legality of immigration but something has been bugging me for awhile now about this topic. My grandparents are both immigrants from Mexico. My grandfather fought in WWII and is one of the hardest working people I know. At 84 years old he is about to retire from his second career and will soon be receiving two retirement checks. What I mean is he gave 30 years of his life to General Motors and then went back to work after he retired to “stay busy” and now has 30 years in at his current job. Then I look around at the local gas stations and party stores and I see many immigrants scraping away to get there piece of “the American Dream”. And I ask myself… Why has society singled out Hispanics and middle eastern immigrants when clearly the majority of them are far more motivated and productive members of society then the countless well fare recipients who were born here? These immigrants WANT to be here. Most of them not because want to lay around the house and drain our economy. They want to be here so they can make a better life. They dont want to be here because they feel America owes them a better life, they want the chance to earn it. Politicians can give you numbers on how many millions of immigrants “rape” the government for health care, but I wonder how many “red-blooded” Americans sitting on there a$$es at home, collecting government checks are doing the exact same thing. The only difference is the immigrants are at least doing everything that they can in hopes of a better life, while those who feel it is owed to them are waiting on the next government hand out. Sorry had to vent, Immigration really isnt the issue here, health care is. God bless our collective A.D.D. and our governments ability to provide us with enough distractions to take our minds off it. =)
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• I never imagined that I would be divorced.
  

  Ahh, it seems as though i am at a crossroads. I have been so selfish in the past i have a hard time seeking happiness for myself. I have spent my whole life ‘moving on’ past problems and failures and ‘rolling with the punches’ that now it seems i spend a great deal of time trying to figure out what went wrong and trying to make sure I dont make the same mistakes again, trying to better myself from a personal and emotional stand point, while at the same time fighting still for whats left of my marriage. Very trying times indeed, everyone seems to thing that if i make myself better things will get better… i guess a part of my still feeling guilty for the past somehow prevents me from accepting this completely. I have been doing a whole lot of self analyzing lately and trying my best to come to terms with who i really am and why, its a little unsettling and interesting at the same time. I think my shrink keeps me coming back because I interest her with my own insight. Her advice seems to fall a little short sometimes, but her just listening is very therapeutic. Like most of my other relationships, its a little messed up, but it works=)
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• Heart is breaking because of marriage troubles…help!
  

  Anonymous-
  Leave him, seek help from some kind of support group, family, freinds, anything and find the strenght to leave. I am not one to advocate divorce especially when children are involved but this marriage is in a very bad way for you and your child. You have to leave and then he can start working on his issues. Be careful, you didnt mention physical violence, but from what you have said he seems as the type that is capable of such things. This man treats you beyond terrible and has no respect for you or your marriage, you owe it to yourself and your child to leave him. Not only for your own personal happiness, but you and your child’s physical well being. Im not sure how things work where you are posting from, but I know in the states if child services or a doctor notices that your child isnt eating well you would run the risk of having him/her taken away. If you cannot do it for yourself do it for your child. I wish I had something a little more positive to say to you but at least know that you deserve much much better than someone who treats you this way. His behavior is completely out of line, and its time for you to look for your own happiness.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• Heart is breaking because of marriage troubles…help!
  

  Im glad you too talked about things, communication is so very important, especially now. I dont know about your husband, but I know that my sense of responsibility to my family after my first child was born took priority over everything else in my life, including the happiness of my wife. Work somehow becomes number one in a man’s life, and that unfortunately leads to all kinds of selfish behavior… It’s a tough balancing act believe me. All I can suggest is counseling, he will undoubtedly not want any part of it, but keep at him, in a none annoying way of course. Dont let him wait until its too late like I did, convince him its for the best. Even if you have to play a little dirty, its worth it and in the end he will thank you for it. Good luck to both of you.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

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