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Hi Dave

Thanks so much for your words :) I will take them all into mind when dealing with future similar situations as I’m sure this is not the last event that would bother me. We will be apart until at least the first couple months of 2010. I am really counting the days to put this nightmare behind me.

You should definitely move on. Don’t sit around and wait for someone who obviously aren’t willing to give you their 110%.

aw so sorry to hear that. Christmas is overrated.

hi, i love making new friends..whats up?

Wow, based on my experiences, I learned the hard way that you cannot be on top of someone like that every second of every hour of every day. Its just no way to live. He is not having a life/enjoying his life when he spends every second of his time “worrying” about you and what you are doing , who you are talking to ect… I was like him, actually I still am but I am learning to control that. Luckily I am able to somewhat snap out of it now and I feel much better.

I suggest you have a long talk with him and in the end, you need to tell him that its all about trust. He has to trust you that you will be okay without him always knowing what you are doing at all times. Don’t let him be the reason you are not going to school. Go to school for you! for YOUR future! Don’t let anyone get in the way of that. If that is what you want to do, do it! If he loves you he will support you and trust you. There should be no need to even question that.

Awesome

I was thinking the worst thing that can happen is they don’t let me leave Spain or the U.S won’t take me back =(

Your situation is exactly what causes all my insecurity and depression lately =p I fear everyday that my boyfriend would go to work and meet someone else and be in the mindset like you where he’s pondering whether or not he should leave me or stay with me =/

For you to even let this new guy take up space in your mind shows that you must not love your boyfriend as much as you think. I don’t have any advice for you except to follow your heart. If it was me, I would not break up with the boyfriend, and find another job if i have to.

[quote Jerry]Sorry for monologueing on a bit. When I get emotionally involved in someones situation I can’t stop talking.[/quote]

Aww I really appreciate you being emotionally involved in my situation. That’s sweet (: And please don’t stop talking, im pretty lonely most of the time so any random sayings/comments would make my day, like the one above! hehe.

[quote aya_tooya2]O_O i didn’t know this was happening??

is it okay now? you sound ok in your posts in my page :o[/quote]

Yeah, but luckily we realized our problems and now hopefully things will be better ;)

He felt suffocated by me because im home all the time, i can’t work here, i don’t have any friends, I depend on him for Everything. Hence we fight alot over silly things and i end up feeling insecure and depress. Going home will fix us and help us be better for one another for sure!

You are absolutely right ;) Yeah the past 10 months have been lonely and hard for me here in Spain, we are fixing things though and everything is going to be alright…I hope ;)

Aw don’t worry about that. I am sure his family won’t look down on you. Everyone is different, not everyone will be racist. Even if he does, your boyfriend loves you for you! So don’t let anyone getting you down. I would just worry about the 2 of you for now, building your bonds and connecting before he leaves. Distance makes the heart grows fonder!

I did quit university in freshman year.. but if i hit school full force, i will be done by 3 years for sure! i am aiming for 2.5 years.. My major will by nursing/physical therapy!

Yes at least we have christmas together, his family loves me, and mine is starting to like him alot beause he is alot more mature than my ex’s.

He promised me he will visit as often as possible, he was the one to pay for my ticket to Spain, so I guess i could save up and pay him back a ticket to california ;)

My parents being so understanding and helpful is awesome to me, the money i save on rent and food is tremendous. Of course they expect me to really focus and not be out partying and stuff, no problem for me anyways i’m not really a party girl.

Plus without my bf, i wouldn’t be in a party mood =/ I have a couple of friends back home im sure i can go for drinks with, but majority of them all moved on with their lives!

Also, take this time to learn Japanese, it will be fun and useful when you do go there to converse with his family and him of course in their language. You’ll get his family to like you instantly, if not at least you will get their respect!

I am learning Spanish as a foreign language, im doing well but my goal is to fully master it in this time we have apart…

Oh definitely! I don’t have many friends and going home would mean even less, I would love to be online friends and update from afar ;) I am 23, and he’s 26. He is very independent, but he can’t pack up to leave with me because he has a very good career here in Spain and some unfinished businesses. For me, I am still pretty dependant of my family. Of course i am going to get a job as soon as i get back and start school right away. But i have no funds/savings so i’d have to stay with my parents. Luckily they are giving me their back house with a side entryway, bathroom kitchen everything, so i get to feel more independent. Plus they work most of the day so i wont feel like i moved back to living with them, only behind them lol ;) I just want to finish school asap, have savings in my bank and we have the rest of our lives together if things are meant to be. Another bonus for me is connecting with my family for a couple more years before i have to go out and start on my own life/career. I want to spend this next 3 years kinda reliving childhood memories too and spending time with them. You never have enough time in life, and definitely would treasure the time you have with family, not just relationships. All will be good endings, no matter what happens i am sure of it.

Its going to be hard but if you try to keep in touch as much as possible, by phone, mail emails, send care packages ect.. it will be much easier. At least you have until April =p Im leaving in around mid January =/