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Could be better, having some issue, but I am okay. How are you?

wow its been forever since we’ve talked! im doin well how are you?!

More to the point Katie! You ARE around. Its been a long time. I have become distant from Help. Thankfully my life has become busy enough to pull me away from the addiction. I have’t stopped caring about you, or the other guys here, I just have grown away from where the website is heading.

I have been waiting to see a post or something about what has happenned.

J.

hey stranger how you doin?

After 3 weeks and 4 days, I’m back!

Have you made it across the border yet Katie?

Mmmm…yeah, it must be difficult, but in the end you’ll probably be better =)

But weren’t you unhappy? If so don’t be so sad, tell yourself that you’re better off now. And you will find a guy who will love you as much as he loves the girl he finds.

I told someone else that I think love is sort of like a puzzle. Just because two pieces don’t fit doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong, you just have to find the piece you connect with :)

Aw well try not to think like that, you seem like a great person and I’m sure there’s someone for you. Even though I often feel alone myself I try to stay positive knowing that there’s someone for me.

It’s just rough right now because you just went through a break up. For a long time I felt that way with my ex, if you look at some of my old posts from like a year ago I was very miserable when I came to Help.com. But things improve with time.

It’s always hard dealing with a breakup, I’m sorry to hear things aren’t going to work out for you there :/

But try to cheer up with the knowledge that you’re changing your life. You’re coming back to the US, you’re single, you can find new opportunities. One of the things that helped me to get over my ex was the comfort that she just wasn’t miss right, and so I still have finding that person to look forward to.

Sure! What’s on your mind that’s making you so sad and anxious?

hey! how yo doing?

I’m sorry to hear you’re sick :( Did you take any medicine? That should help you sleep.

I almost wish I was sick, just to have a reason to get out of these Christmas family events :/

Just got done lunch, now I’m not doing anything lol. I should be cleaning though but I’m having trouble building up the effort xD. How’s things for you?

Well without any info no one can learn about you lol. I tried to put a lot of text on my profile so people could get to know the kind of person I am and my interests and such. Hopefully that doesn’t scare them away more than a blank profile lol…

I can leave a comment for you lol, but part of why you don’t have many is only a few friends and there’s not much on your profile. You should add some more stuff and get some more people to add you.

I do try to think positive and have faith, if I didn’t I would have fallen apart long ago lol.

But I’d be so scared of failing because in a situation like that with no money and no one to turn to it would be such a small margin of error. Plus thanks to the anxiety holding a job is very difficult. It took me awhile to get comfortable in my last one. It’s very hard for me.

Do you have a myspace? Or did you already add me I think you might have I can’t remember.

Well thanks it’s good to have people to talk to :)

But I don’t see how you can think the money thing isn’t a problem. Maybe you know something I don’t lol but I don’t know how to move to another part of the country without any money or credit. How will I get an apartment? Plus if I can’t find a job here, how do I know if I can find one there?

I just don’t see any options :/

hmm, money is not a problem like i said…you can start over anywhere..all it takes is a bit of hard work, then it will ease up as time go by.

Anxiety and depression, i’ve dealt with that all my life. I am much better now though and I am learning to enjoy life and dealing with it every day more and more.

So the only reason that makes sense to me for why you can’t make the move is because of your father.

If you are not doing well there, I just think that you can do much better in California. Once you are situated you can always fly back and forth to visit him you know. I don’t know I will always be here to support you and i’d love it if we could be friends. I find it very easy to talk to you and fun =)

Well there’s a few things holding me back. One, some of the personal problems I mentioned that I had to deal with were anxiety and depression. I had so much pressure and responsibility on me right after high school that I collapsed. It would be very difficult for me to go to a completely new environment.

Another thing is my dad is not doing well, I don’t know if I should move so far away from him in this situation.

And the third thing is money of course. My savings are almost gone. I don’t have the money to move, let alone across the country.

I would also have to have time to devote to school. And I’m not sure I could get aid. And there’s some other things that have been holding me back from moving it’s a long story.

Plus a problem I have is that I don’t have a job right now. The place where I was working shut down :( I’m trying to find a new job desperately before my savings run out.

Believe me I want to go back to school. But I just don’t have the opportunity right now. I tried to get a student loan for some computer classes but I didn’t have the credit. I have so many problems to deal with and it’s such an uphill battle :/

And no I have no family out there, all my family is from around here my parents moved out there temporarily then moved back.

I know how that feels with the friends. I lost contact with most of mine after high school and some personal problems I had shortly thereafter caused me to lose contact with the rest. Those same problems caused me to stop school so no I’m not going right now :/

I would love to go back but I don’t have the money. You see, I can’t not worry about money sadly. I live on my own so I have rent to pay. I don’t have a parents’ place to move back to. My father is a mess and poor, and my mother is living with her parents but moving back to the UK soon to be with a bf she met there.

So financially I’m very much on my own :(

I was born in OC btw, in Anaheim.

Well I won’t have a friend there if you stay over there :P Which part of Cali are you from?

It wouldn’t be too much pressure just to get you a sweatshirt or two. I could never imagine just letting a gf sit there shivering with no winter clothes :/ Blanket or not.

But I know what you mean about the money. I had some stress from some personal problems as well and indulged with my savings. Now money is very tight while I’m inbetween jobs and I regret it.

I’m hardly one to talk I don’t handle stress well myself lol but I try to encourage others even where I sometimes fail.

Why don’t you have any winter clothes?? Can’t your bf buy some for you or let you where some of his shirts or something?

I want to live somewhere different too. I guess it’s a case of “the grass is always greener on the other side.” But sometimes other places than where we are really are better. I feel like there’s not much here for me anymore even though I do love Baltimore.

There’s risks living everywhere though. We can’t just huddle in a corner and hope the disasters don’t get us. We have to live our lives and just have the strength to face the challenges when they present themselves.

Rain can be romantic but not when it’s this cold lol. But I do like the sound. I downloaded some white noise soundtracks off iTunes of rain and rolling thunder.

I would love to go back to Cali it’s even one of the places I’m considering moving to. But I don’t have the money right now so I’m stuck here lol :/

It’s pretty cold here but we haven’t had much snow just rain lol.

I hope we don’t get any super bad weather though I can’t handle any more problems right now.

He said that to you?? That’s a bit odd. My ex and good friend had a bf that liked to look at Maxim magazine, and she didn’t seem to mind. I was like huh??? To me when you’re with a girl she should be the only one you look at in that way, and if you do have another thought you better not let it leave your head lol.

I know it’s tough for you but maybe you really should try to move on. There’s billions more guys out there.

I was born in Cali, but moved back here when I was a baby so I haven’t really “been there” been there lol.

Well that’s good though I guess, lots of guys and society in general likes younger looking women lol. It feels hard for a guy though sometimes cause like everyone wants you to look older and mature.

So how’s things with your bf over there? Are you still trying to make it work?

That’s probably for the better.

I’m 22, although I have a young face and look like 17 or 18 lol xD. And yeah I live in Maryland just outside of Baltimore.

I don’t really answer that question. I just allow people to beleive I am however old they think I am.

Ok I guess. It’s rough right now I need a new job and money is tight. With the holidays so close that makes it hard, but I’m scraping by somehow lol. How’s things with you?

we have accents? I guess I do. I spotted the Australian elephant when I saw the Madagascar sequel today.

I’m Australian. So no, I’m from New Zealand though, going back for 2 weeks on Jan 10

nothin much, kicking back. How’s life? Where are you now?

hey katie i hope all is going well for you! Haven heard from you in a while… Hit me up let me know how everything is going

I’m so proud of you Katie. You are making a good decision for yourself. I’d be interested in msn-ing if you do it.

J.

My name’s Pheadra. I would LOVE to be your friend. You can tell me everything!!! Do you have YM or MSN? and add me up on myspace. www.myspace.com/padle. I cant give you my email here. :D

Have you called your parents?

Hey Katie, How are you feeling? Did you sleep well? I’m sorry I couldn’t keep you company. after reading the post, I think you’re making the right decision! There’s no point of hanging around if you’re feeling miserable all the time! Shout at me if you’re there. I would love to hear from you!

Well just remember things will get better. I’ve had those sort of nights myself but things always get better :)

Np, thank you for the add as well :)

Are you feeling better? I just read your last post you seemed pretty upset..

im ready to talk :)

dont add what? I haven gotten anything :(

Hi Katie, I am reading your post.

Tell me when you come back, and if you’re doing fine =P

we need to work on you hello kitty addiction lol

morris

I do not, but perhaps I could…I will look at it sometime.

I am glad that you are doing better. :D

I can’t believe it is already December. How you doing Katie?