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• Hi, I am very sad. posted (2 years, 11 months) ago
  I am going through the residuals of a break up after an 8 year marriage. I am crying all the time. I…

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• Hi!
  

  You can utilize many relaxation techniques along with the suggestions above. Diaphragmatic breathing, guided imagery, muscle relaxation. Just know that medication is NOT the be all end all. Social anxiety is most commonly treated with paxil or prozac, however, both of these drugs are “black labeled” whihc means that they can cause suicidal ideation. I would recommend that you see a therapist ( master’s level clinical social worker, preferably) who is trained in Thought Field Therapy, which utilizes tapping key points in the body to help create new pathways in the body for energy to flow. Slowly desensitizing yourslef to the places and situations that you are fearful of is the best road to take. you need the help of a trained social worker to help you do this safely. I know you said that you have had bad experiences with psychiatry, however, just like when you eat in one bad restaurant, you don’t stop eating out, do you? Neither should you give up on therapy and psychiatry. Interview potential therapists and psychiatrists…ask them where they went to school, if they are trained in treating anxiety disorders, and what their philosophy is in treatment. Come to you session prepared, do your homework, be a responsible consumer of services. Remember what you are experiencing is merely a distortion of normal body reactions…you an take control of this and it is ONLY TEMPORARY. Within a 9-12 week period you should be over this if you have a properly trained therapist, a good psychiatrist and most importantly, if you do the hard work necessary to make the hard changes. Good luck
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• I’ve started cutting…again.
  

  sounds to me like you have some choices to make. You can choose to continue to be unhealthy and depressed into adulthood, or you can get some help, and feel better. Health is a choice. I am not trying to be harsh or insensitive, but the attention seeking piece (ie posting it on a website) is pretty manipulative in and of itself. You need to find a healthy way to get your needs met. If you choose to kill yourself, well that is unfortunate, becasue there are people here in your life who you would be hurting alot if you make that choice….ultimately it is up to you.
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• I’ve started cutting…again.
  

  Mostly, cutters are not suicidal, however, you need to realize that you might accidently hurt yourself seriously, by cutting too deep etc. Make sure you wash and put neosporin on all your cuts. Sterilize the tools you use to cut yourself with in alcohol. Keep them wrapped in clean cloth. You are cutting in order to cope, and it sounds like you don’t want to cut…so you are at a crossroads in your process. You have a choice…stop cutting, get some help OR keep cutting, don’t get help and keep feeling bad. Emotional dysregulation problems can be treated very well in short term, cognitive behavioral therapy. I have treated many girls and boys with symptoms similar to yours. Don’t buy into the hype that you are “crazy” and that you are a “borderline personality” and that you have to be on meds your whole life. Bottom line is, you can make the choice to heal, and you will heal once you make that choice to accept the help that is out there. Talk to ADULTS you trust, and seek out help. Life is too short sweety, start living your life and stop creating pits for yourself to fall into. Best of luck…..
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• This is kinda a weird one; do you believe that you can have an “old soul”?
  

  I do believe that souls exist, and that they return to humans. They are learing lessons and that is how a soul is “old”. So yes, I do believe in old souls
  - written 2 years, 10 months ago

• Please can you help me?
  

  Send me $29.99 and I will send you a manual on how to become independently wealthy in 2 weeks! If you act now, you will get the Ginsu knives as well.
  
  You could ask at your church for help, often they help. Don’t beg for cash on the internet, it makes it appear that you are trying to scam folks.
  - written 2 years, 10 months ago

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