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• Life is too easy.
  

  I’ve felt the “things come too easy” paradox before … and it can be isolating. You feel that you tell others your very real struggles, they dismiss your concerns as invalid because, after all, everything comes easy to you, so you obviously don’t have any problems! It can be a lonely place, and it’s hard to talk about without sounding conceited.
  
  And you’re not the only person who’s felt the “I have everything but it means nothing” phenomenon. There’s an entire book of the Bible on that theme. The writer of Ecclesiastes talks about how he collected wealth, power, natural beauty, even friends … and he summed up his experience by saying “Meaningless! Meaningless! Utterly meaningless!” and that everything we do feels like “chasing after the wind.”
  
  But that’s not to say there’s no meaning in life. It’s just that there’s no meaning to these things–even good things–when they’re pursued as ends in themselves. I think of it this way. If I’m going hiking, there are a lot of great things I can take with me … comfortable boots, a GPS system, etc. I will enjoy these things … ONLY if I am using them to pursue a higher goal (hiking). If I just collect them and try to enjoy them while sitting in my house, ultimately they do nothing for me and I am disappointed and unsatisfied.
  
  Academic success, recognition, financial stability, all of these things are nice to have to help you toward your ultimate goal, but they cannot BE your goal. Even relationships, as wonderful as they can be, can’t quite fill the void. These things are all empty in themselves and they will leave you disappointed. You have to have a purpose greater than yourself.
  
  Whenever I feel empty and insecure, I look to God, who loves each one of us more than we’ll ever understand. His love isn’t based on our performance, and He will never flake out on you like your acquaintances all seem to have done. You are searching for something; perhaps He is searching for you. I just know He loves you and doesn’t want you to hurt yourself; He wants you to know Him and give you the meaning you lack.
  
  I know I’ve written a very long post and may have violated a “taboo” by bringing up theology, but I am very concerned for you and I hurt for you and would be more than willing to talk more if you are interested.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

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