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• do you notice that many people enjoy being “victims”? posted (2 weeks, 2 days) ago
  it seems that way to me. among some people i know and among some people i see online. and when the…

• need help figuring myself out.. posted (4 weeks, 1 day) ago
  i got accepted in a great job opportunity abroad. it is satisfactory in terms of money/compensation…

• one year at help dot com. posted (1 month, 2 weeks) ago
  just realized i first posted here a year ago, around october. i was so depressed then and wasn̵…

• is GIVING really a selfless act? posted (3 months) ago
  and sharing as well. when i help other people, i feel good about myself. it’s not that i a…

• laptop care posted (3 months, 1 week) ago
  can any of you answer these questions? is it better to just leave your laptop open/on standby inst…

• i’m 23 y.o. posted (4 months) ago
  and never been in love. is that weird? it didn’t really bother me until someone asked recent…

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vivzofwale's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (2 votes) Good guy’s finish last?
  

  it’s not just about fat girls, you know. it’s about all in all beauty. and wealth. sometimes race and family name.
  
  society is really like that. it’s up to you if you’ll live your life following what it dictates or break the unspoken rule. :)
  
  - written 1 month ago – voted for by Dr. Ralph

• (1 vote) Ok, i aint done this before but i dont know where else to turn.
  

  i don’t think you should ditch that friend just yet. especially if this may be the first time he has done something like this. i’m pretty sure there are many good things about him and it’s why he’s your friend anyway (at least i hope). friendships aren’t perfect. track records do become tainted. the important thing is communication. how about telling him how this incident made you feel? maybe it will make your friendship more stronger in the future. :)
  
  - written 3 weeks, 5 days ago – voted for by Morgan

• (1 vote) Sigh…
  

  seems that you’re used to waking up for others. how about waking up in the morning for YOURSELF. what you can do in this vast world and all the change you can make. :)
  
  - written 1 month ago – voted for by Nostalgia ;[

• (1 vote) Is it better to feel pain, anger, and hurt or not feel anything at all?
  

  pain, anger, and hurt make you stronger. as long as you deal with it constructively. it’s kinda like school. you hate going to classes and waking up early for it. you hate exams. you hate all those long nights of finishing a paper. but we all know why we do it. it’s to equip us for the real world out there, to furnish us a job which will secure us for the rest of our lives.
  
  so yeah, pain, anger and hurt will make you a better person.
  
  - written 1 month, 1 week ago – voted for by dove7

• (1 vote) I’m just feeling so low at the moment, I don’t know how to get myself out of this low im in.
  

  agreed, just keep on looking. ;)
  
  the economy is terrible right now. i don’t know if it will make you feel better, but i graduated from my MBA right smack into recession. was jobless from april to august. now i’m only recently employed in a job i’m completely overqualified for, earning like a fresh grad/entry level employee.
  
  just keep in mind that it beats doing nothing! for your future employers, they will see that you’d rather do a job that will pay the bills rather than sit around at home wallowing in “pride” as you’re too overqualified for any of the jobs available.
  
  best of luck! everything will turn around, i promise. :)
  
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago – voted for by dove7

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• i have a fat stomach and people make fun of me for it
  

  try emphasizing your waist by using belts. and try getting tops with an empire cut. this hides the stomach.
  
  in the long run, do some crunches. :)
  - written 3 days, 14 hours ago

• I’ve a close friend who’s a copycat.
  

  maybe you need to avoid her a bit. so she could grow her own personality. :)
  - written 6 days, 13 hours ago

• Hey
  

  smiling is a good start. :)
  - written 1 week ago

• I desprately want to become anorexic i hate my body i feel fat and ugly…..
  

  hi emillie.
  
  from your weight and height, seems that you’re okay already. :)
  
  have some bad news for you though. even if you lose weight and become anorexic, it will NOT make you happy. you will still feel fat and ugly.
  
  may sound like a surprise for someone as young as you, but happiness can’t be found in the environment. happiness can’t be found in beauty. not even in intelligence or success. and the biggest surprise is, happiness can’t even be found in our relationships.
  
  happiness is a decision. you can decide to be happy and content with what you have. or you can decide otherwise. the richest most beautiful person can be unhappy. the poorest most mediocre person can be happy.
  
  it’s up to you, dear. but to be honest, wishing for something like anorexia (which is a serious illness) to be thin or beautiful is a bit shallow for my taste. the fact that you desire that should be a wake up call.
  
  hope you can talk about this with your counselor or your parents.
  
  best of luck! :)
  - written 1 week ago

• Daily Show or Colbert Report?
  

  daily show!:)
  - written 1 week ago

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