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Honesty is always the best course. I believe you should tell him and explain to him exactly why you want it done. He will understand and support you if he really loves you.

Mine at the moment is Where Are You Going by Dave Matthews Band

This site may help you.

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Which_adjec…

Sorry I should have been more specific. I meant what do you want the adjective to describe?

Oh and you missed Misanthropic in that list :-p

What kinda name you trying to make?

Mr. P is a show off :-p I wonder if there is an m adj. for that? lol

Mystical

If I can get through college and make myself a better person I’ll be happy with that…then I can go from there :)

Infatuation can often make us see only the good in a person and ignore the bad. You are treading on dangerous ground and from the sounds of it you are young too. You need to take this very –very- slowly. You are probably better off not getting involved but I also know that is easier said than done. Like I said before—just take care of yourself. If he can clean himself up then maybe you can give him a shot but I would keep him at arms length until you are sure of what you both want AND if he can come clean.

Well first off the fact that he is your brother’s friend shouldn’t be much of a problem unless you don’t like your brother. Chances are if that is the case, you probably wouldn’t like his friend either once you got to know him better.

As far as the juvy goes…well that doesn’t automatically mean he is a horrible person but you need to take care of yourself before anything else. It does mean he has a -lot- of issues. If you feel you can help him with those and you feel some desire to do so then go for it. But protect yourself more than anything else.

lol…dunno if you’ll find any professionals but we can try to help…what seems to be the problem?

If he really cared about you and felt that way he would be doing anything to be with you. I am sorry but it seems he wants to just be your friend. Men are fickle and prone to changing their minds, but I wouldn’t put much hope into it.

I seems as though you two need to have a very long talk about your future together. If he was remorseful when you pointed out how his behavior was offending and hurting you, it seems he is very likely to come around. From what you say it appears that he cares very much about what other people think about him and this is why he is acting the way he does. That is something he needs to get over. He must be able to introduce you to friends and especially family without worrying about what they think, and if he truly loves you this will be very easy for him to do.

Once you talk to him and tell him pretty much everything you spoke about in this post, you will know if you are wasting your time or not. Either he will get the message and make that extra effort to change and treat you the way he should, or nothing will change and you will know it is time to move on. But if you do not talk to him about all of this I am afraid you will not have very much closure and you will only wonder “what if” you had talked all of this through with him.

You are quite obviously a smart, intelligent, successful, and passionate woman–and I think you will find the answer if you simply sit down and talk this out rationally with him. He needs to be able to accept you only for what you are and leave all prejudice and stereotypes at the door. If this is not something he can do, then you certainly deserve better.

I know I’m not the only one to go through this type of situation. And I know there are people out there going through a lot worse. But I needed to get this out.

One of the problems here is I don’t want to end all forms of communication. I learnt my lesson after the first girl and now I find it very difficult to let go of someone I find so special. It doesn’t matter what I do or where I am–she has a way of invading my thoughts…even my dreams. I feel like perhaps I will need better closure here. I have this urge to talk to her and tell her that I like her, but at the same time a resounding fear of the awkwardness and rejection that that could entail. But then maybe we could still be friends…I just don’t know.

lol Dougie…thanks for the laugh mate. Mind if I add you to friends?