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• Im going through really hard times right now and would like some advice.
  

  I hope things have started to get better for you. I feel for you, for I also have had similar experiences in my past relationships. Such experiences can have a lasting impact on our lives. Whether or not that impact is positive or negative is really up to us as individuals. My advice is to stop letting your mind entertain thoughts about your ex by returning your focus and attention on YOU. You were fine before you met this person and you will be fine again. In fact, you are fine now, you just don’t know it. This guy did you wrong, cheating is one of the most selfish things one can do. Its disrespectful and says a lot about the person he is. Why base your happiness on someone who doesn’t deserve it? You deserve better, and you will find better, once you understand just how special you are. There is someone out there that is jus waiting to meet you. But before you meet them, you need to fully heal and know yourself again. I’ve had my heart broken a few times in my life and I’ve managed to overcome a lot of emotional pain. I’m proud of the lessons I’ve learnt, and as a result I’ve put together an eBook and website which you may find helpful/inspirational - http://www.handleyourheartbreak.com .. Good luck :)
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• I need some help,
  

  I’ve read your replies and it sounds like you really need to work on forgiving yourself first and foremost. You have strong opinions about what you did, which is causing you to feel bad and negative towards yourself. Healing starts within. It starts with the realisation that you didn’t mean to cause harm to anyone. You didn’t intentionally say anything bad about anyone. You said what you said, and now you’re looking back on the scenario and wishing you could have changed things. That’s fine, we all do that. But don’t hold yourself at ransom about it. You sound like a good person, with good intentions. You have a strong and honest heart, and this girl has obviously had a huge impact on your life. Rather than living in the past, learn from it. Identify the actions and words that you’re not proud of, forgive yourself for them, but also be grateful for them because they have brought your attention to some things that you are not proud of. In other words, your experiences have brought you knowledge about yourself, and who you want to be. So starting from this moment, start being that person. Everything starts with you. You can’t forgive anyone until you can forgive yourself. The same goes for love and acceptance. Life is a constant lesson and none of us are perfect, so to speak. Anyhows .. I seem to be getting caried away. I have an eBook and website that I put together which you may find helpful - http://www.handleyourheartbreak.com .. all the best :)
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• My ex and I have been apart since beginning of July - no contact.
  

  I think its not unusual to have your ex in your thoughts daily as you continue to move on in your life. Its like your subconscious keep those thoughts alive just to keep aware of how far you’ve come. It’s not a bad thing, unless you think that it is. The mind can be a hinderance, sometimes it works against us. Perhaps if you just accept the fact that its ok to think about your ex, regularly in fact, it may not pose as a problem anymore. Once you stop noticing it, you probably won’t do it anymore. I think it comes down to how much attention you give it. Intense relationships leave intense memories. I have written an eBook and put together a website based on my experiences re relationship breakups and making the most of heartbreak. Check it out next time you’re looking for a little inspiration :)) http://www.handleyourheartbreak.com
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• Sorted ;)
  

  Hey Johno, I hope things are going ok for you. Just wanted to let you know that I understand how you feel. Heartbreak is tough, relationships can be super challenging, and sometimes we all feel utterly lost and have no idea what to do, or how to do it. I’ve been there, done that. I’m happy to say I’ve survived and I’ve learnt heaps about the person I am and in relationships in general. My learnings have inspired me to write an eBook and build a website. Check it out. If you’re still struggling with your emotions, and wondering what to do .. it might help :)) http://www.handleyourheartbreak.com
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• My girlfriend just broke up with me because she still loved her ex.I had been in love with her.Now I don’t know what to do.Someone help me!
  

  Heartbreak is tough. It is one of the most challenging times that anyone can experience, especially if you are particularly emotional and in touch with your deep inner feelings. However, this is a lot you can do to speed up the healing process and make yourself a better person. Heartbreak actually provides us with a chance to learn about ourselves and make some positive changes in our lives. As a particularly emotional guy, I’ve suffered heartbreak many times. So much so, that I’ve put together a website and written an eBook in the hope that it may help others who are experiencing hearbreak today. Feel free to visit and check it out .. http://www.handleyourheartbreak.com
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

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