¡ʎuɐɟɟıʇ's shout trail with kazb36 - Help.com

hi how ru ??

hi tiffany it has been a long time hope all is ok

hi tiffany. how r you doing ?? i hope good .

Hey.
How are you doing?

just looking to see if u where around thanks

hi how ru to night??

hope u had a good xmas . mine was better than thanks . no pets died .i got ur invite i felt like i have been in a cloud for so long .. tell i got on meds and i will tel u .thy r the only thing that has helped me over come all the things u have described

not to bad im ok had a hard thanks. had to put my old horse down and that was bad. she was 29 years old lol good old girl . sad to see that.wow how time flies. its like just yesterday that i was getting of the bus and riding everyday what fun we had back then..

hi tiffany we had a long talk. and i think she gets what she has done .. and i hope she can get it so that she can control her self. its so not like her at all thats what im so afraid of

No problem. :)

Have you sat down and talked to her since? Like really *talked* to her, about everything?

Is she still doing the flirting and whatnot?

sorry i had to go so fast had a sick kiddo.i fee the same but i think we r working it out i did pack her cloths and told her i didnt want to come home .and to think about my feelinhs so ?? we shall see.. and how ru doeing on your own? better// i hopewell i better go to bed talk to ya later and thanks again..

Omgsh, I am so sorry. :( So, she flirts but has she been sexually involved with him?

‘Flirting’ is considered cheating in my eyes though - Hell, even thinking about a person in that way while in a serious/commited relationship, I consider to be cheating.

I don’t want to sound harsh, but how in the world can she do that? She acts as if it is no big deal that she is flirting with him because she ‘can’t help herself?’ That is no excuse! She is a grown woman and needs to love and respect you like she vowed to do. If she refuses to do that, you are better off without her.

It definitely sounds like you all need to sit down and have a long talk and decide what to do from there.

oh got to go hang

the thing is i found this out on her face book i dont know how but it came up??i asked her .and she denied it . right up to the point i told her that i found her chat.then she told me that it was nothing just friends?i told her that i didnt want her to come home?

well i dont know. wife said that she still flirts with this one man at work and just cant make her self stop?and she has admitted being attracted to him.

I am good. :) Thank you so much for asking.
How’ve you been?

hello how ru good i hope.

hello how ru good i hope.

dumb car stopped running. me and the 4 year old had to walk. then had to go to my ex girlfriends house for a ride what a day.lol

yah if it was just me i would run. but i will have to make a go of it .i hope u got out of your bad relationship.and learned from it sounds like it. and thanks for the chat. u have helped more than u know.and if u need to talk im here some where lol

u know the feeling when u find out that ur boyfriend is cheating ? and u cant get ur breath? u ever have that feeling?

Yeah, I know that feeling all too well.
Just got out of a relationship like that, not even a week ago. We were together for almost 6 years.

I was scared of the truth as well.. but honestly, when you ‘run away’ from it, you’re only going to hurt worse in the end. I did everything to ignore the red flags and the evidence, but sooner or later I just couldn’t get past it anymore.

15 years really is a long time, that’s why you need to sit down and have a good conversation with her. Ask her everything you need to and go from there. She should be more than willing to discuss things.

u know the feeling when u find out that ur boyfriend is cheating ? and u cant get ur breath? u ever have that feeling? im so scared of the truth .if she did im done. and the pore kids i cant leave them so it wouldn’t be good. and on top of that i just got moved into my grandmas old house i would have to kick her out. lol maybe im getting ahead of my self.15 years is a long time to just flush down the pot.

3 hours late?!

You need to sit down and talk to her. Ask her politely what is going on.
She needs to be upfront and honest with you because she looks shady.

If it were me, I wouldn’t allow this to go on. Then again, I don’t have any experience being married or dealing with this type of situation. I do know though that she is disrespecting you by going out and spending time with this Justin guy, and she expects you to be okay with it.

i dont know for shur she could have.she only have owned up to what i found or what i heard. there was more nights that she came home late.like 3 hrs late. the ether bad thing is at the same time. justin split up with his wife because he was cheating on her.i dont want to make it worse.but i have to know

she dont drink that much.

That’s not your fault. The kids aren’t stupid ..even if they never would have overheard you, eventually they would have figured something out.

Do you think she could be having an affair? :/

How do her and ‘Justin’ act around eachother?

ya thats what i told her. and thats the way i look at it. its hard to answer the kids about why she came home so late and who is justin. that was bad. and she got made at me for the boys over hearing.

I mean, have you confronted her with her drinking in general?
How often does she go out?

I mean, honestly, even if she is unhappy ..she needs to be an adult and deal with the situation, not party and try and avoid it. She has a husband and kids she needs to care for and love. She’s neglecting it as of now, ..from what it sounds like.

sorry copy paste and all.its a mess and im climbing the walls do think she is working out.well u cant say gut oh what a mess.

hyde thanks. i have tried she dont talk well.i need to. i even dragged her to a head dr.and all she would say was she wished it was better between us. and she has not been back.we have 4 kids and it kills me to think. about them but they have hear us. and th oldest asked me out right what was up he i 13 i told him. that mom wasnt where she said. well another lone one but needless to say he isnt impressed. and i so didnt meen that to happen i do love her. but i wont put up with being lied to.ugh

her favorite

not to say they also had he fav drinki just know or have a feeling is that dumb

yes and she said that at the last moment they changed there minds about the bar. but later i foud out she and this girl friend had gone there befor.

When you found her hanging with all those people, did you sort of ‘confront’ her and ask what she was doing?
If so, what was her reply?

yes because of the anger.and when i talked to her about the driking. i was not mad

and i almost lost my wife so i went and talked to a dr and she put on antidepressants

Do you mean you almost lost her because of your anger?

then she started to go out for drinks after work.i asked not to drink and drive .that made her mad i told her i would come and get her.

I don’t understand why she would get upset. Even if you do have anger problems ..in this situation, I can only see that you were trying to assure her safety. She had no reason to get upset. — If anything, you should be upset. If my husband were the one doing this, I wouldn’t put up with it.

so i thought i would go down to th e bar and play pool. but she wasnt at the bar. so i was going to look at 1 more bar and on the way home i seen her truck at this guys house that she was carpooling with.

Hmm.
That’s very strange, especially since she is married and has children. Do you suspect that maybe she isn’t happy with her life ..that’s why she’s acting out like this?

have had a anger problem for a long time.i dont beet on anyone but i lose my temper.well it got worst after my grand ma died 2 years ago. and i almost lost my wife so i went and talked to a dr and she put on antidepressants .and they have helped with that.my wife started a new job before she was a stay at home mom of 4 .now she is in school in day time and work 4 nights a week.well after a year. of work she started to come home late.a couple times i went down to see if her car brook down and she was just chatting in the parking lot. then she started to go out for drinks after work.i asked not to drink and drive .that made her mad i told her i would come and get her. but not to drink and drive.well i was out of town at my sisters house and i allways stay late. but this night i had a bad feeling so sis watched the kids and i came home. found a message from the wife saying she was going out to the bar to play pool with friends. so i thought i would go down to th e bar and play pool. but she wasnt at the bar. so i was going to look at 1 more bar and on the way home i seen her truck at this guys house that she was carpooling with.so i stopped and went up to the door and the looks on there faces was likes oh …..there was 2 guys 3 girls and they where all drinking and playing cards at first she jumped off of the bar stool and came out side and asked me what i was doing? and if i wanted to go home i told her no letts go in and play games.we did and then went home she was drunk and i found out that she had been there before. just to play games so know i dont trust her. she says nothing was going on but io dont know .i was her first and i cant beleve she would do that . but i didnt think she would lie to me soo what do u think..??