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my issue with those relationships was a simple one. I always understood the child came before me. That wasn’t an issue for me. My issue was spending more time with the child than the the mother.

Your right it is a difficult balance. but does have to be balanced none the less. These were fresh relationships. The mother didn’t give us a chance to get to know one another. I knew more about their children than I did them. Why would I invest my time, my heart, in only the child? When we would break up, it would hurt the child more than her.

After a few of those experiences, I chose to protect the children. If I would start to date a women with a child I would tell her. Im OK with her being a mother. But before the child be introduced to me as mommy’s boyfriend, I wanted to know that we were a good match first.

wanting to break off a bad relationship is difficult enough by itself. But its even harder if you know its the child whos going to hurt the most.

O.K., I’ll offer my experiences from the gyus point of view. Kids have never scared me, In fact I’m quite good with them. Dating a women with kids never bothered me.

Most of the time, here is what I had the hardest time with. These mothers pushing their kids down my throat! When I would ask for the two of us to have our time together, without the child present, she would freak out and say something like, “If you cant accept that I have child we shouldn’t be together.”

OK, I agree with that statement, never disputed it. But when will we have time to talk? When will we have time to do the things couples do? (I don’t mean on the couch after the child is well asleep) Have a dinner date, a romantic night out, go to a movie not G rated. I’ve proven that I have no issues with the child, so when do we have time to get to know each other?

That always ended badly……

I would love to share some stories with you about your addition to this one post.

http://help.com/post/223880-whats-the…

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