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• (1 vote) hey im a 13 year old boy, and this girl and i are in
  

  the best advice i can give you would be to take it very slow, and, at your age and level of experience, wait a long time before you make any kind of commitment, official or physical.
  
  I do believe in love at an early age, you just have to take it very slow, I had a friend who met her bf at 14 and they are still going out, and still powerfully in love.
  
  A good relationship will mature with time and help both of you to grow in ways that you would never otherwise be able to. Give it time.
  
  - written 12 months ago – voted for by Decipher Reality

• (1 vote) How do I convince my parents to let me and my girlfriend see each other in the nude?
  

  Here’s the bottom line: I’ve done that. Not with consent of either of our parents, but I have. And at the time, it was something I really wanted, and it was nice, but 1) there’s no way that it won’t make you WANT to do things more. I know it seems like if this happens you’ll be satisfied, but take it from me, you won’t be, and the more you get into that sort of stuff without getting a long term commitment, the more likely it is that you will split up sooner and it’ll hurt more. This I know from many many months of experience going through the pain it’s caused, not to mention that it lowered my girlfriend’s standards to the point that when we broke up, she no longer thought there was a point in objecting to any sort of sexual activities with the guy she met at college and dumped me to be with.
  
  Thankfully, that’s All behind us, but it’s still a pain in my heart I have to deal with sometimes when she and I are together, and if I could change what I did, I would, and I know it would change what she ended up doing, and it might have even stopped her from needing the anti-deppressants she is currently on.
  
  Dude. I know how you feel on this, and how much you want it, and even why, but dude: DON’T DO IT.
  
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago – voted for by brightshine

• (1 vote) how do u know if a guy likes
  

  Ask him (almost) exactly that:
  “Hey insert guy’s name here>, how could I tell if a guy likes me?”
  
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago – voted for by chunkymove

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• I need a boyfriend sooooo badly ;[
  

  What’s wrong with being different?
  if you don’t know what having a boyfriend is like, how do you know it’s any good?
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• hey im a 13 year old boy, and this girl and i are in
  

  It doesn’t matter how long a teenage relationship lasts, the real determining factor is will it last until you are in your 20s? If the answer is yes, then there is a huge chance that it will work out, but even then, there is also a huge chance it won’t. Taking a relationship slowly puts far less stress on a relationship, and makes it last longer, not mention that it builds character, which is something most teenage boys desperately lack.
  - written 7 months ago

• I am having a hard time at work I love my job but sometimes its alot to handle.
  

  Just don’t let the stress control you.
  You do not belong to it and it does not belong to you.
  You only have it because you choose to do the job you do, and that means having to deal with the stress one little tiny small bit at a time.
  - written 10 months ago

• what should i do if i have a friend and they do bad
  

  I would say if they are nice to you, try to get them to be nice to others and themselves as well.
  - written 10 months, 1 week ago

• I feel that I have become deeply cynical of late.
  

  to me, this screams one thing:
  La Bouche
  (oh, sorry, I geuss i didn’t hit ctrl+c correctly)
  
  Familiarity breeds contempt
  (there we go!)
  
  Now, I’m not saying you have any contempt for yourself or this site, but when things become familiar, we stop thinking and growing, and we start to get either lazy or uptight, depending on how one is wired. That’s one reason why I’ve been on such a long hiatus, I haven’t been active in a while, granted I haven’t been active very long in the first place, but still.
  
  Just mix it up, do things differently than you have been, and I bet that cynicism will fall right off like dust off a trash compacter-the second half of this metaphor is completely random since I don’t know/remember you very well; it was just the first appliance that popped into my head; actually, the first appliance was a mechanical bull, but I had to normal it up for ya; then came a tumble weed, but that made no sense; then a saddle, but that was too cliche-.
  - written 11 months ago

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