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I hate earwigs….and I don’t like needles much either, but thats due to a traumatic incident in the past. Other than that I am pretty much fearless.

[quote Dorian][quote Raven89]I am going to argue that girls and women are just as bad, faking that they are in love with someone just to get what they want. Whether it be money, jewelry, or even just a date to the prom. Same problem with both sexes, just a different agenda. At least most guys are upfront about what they want, and wont go leading someone on for months or even years.[/quote]

Then again, some guys will fake being in love to get what they want as well. It takes all sorts.[/quote]

yes, but most of the time its pretty obvious as to what the guy is after

I am going to argue that girls and women are just as bad, faking that they are in love with someone just to get what they want. Whether it be money, jewelry, or even just a date to the prom. Same problem with both sexes, just a different agenda. At least most guys are upfront about what they want, and wont go leading someone on for months or even years.

How old are you?

This sounds really similar to my situation.

Your name isn’t Christina is it?

I don’t know. It will forever be a mystery to me what really happened. I just feel down.

See my problem was a bit different. She wanted to be a little more physical, but she never gave me any indication that that was what she wanted. I’m a good guy, so I was just trying to stay within safe boundaries, thinking that I was maybe stretching them a little too far. I was just being respectful, but I’m being convinced more and more that thats not what girls want anymore.

No, my ex wasn’t a bad person, she just lost the ability to talk to me. I loved her with all my heart but she just didn’t feel the same.

Sorry. Anyways, back to your problem. No, unfortunately there is no fool proof plan. Communication is key. Tell him how you feel.

I would warn that if your ex was a bad person, then you should probably stay away.

Wow you kinda sound like my ex girlfriend.

Just remember that it is always easier to forgive than forget. If you know that this isn’t going anywhere, you have to look at the relationships in your life that are going somewhere and focus on those instead. Don’t be depressed that one girl wont give you the time of day, its all just a process of elimination to finding the girl that will love you as much as you love her.

Well honestly I have to say that you sound like my girlfriend of 2 years. Who I love with all my heart, but she just wants to throw it all away. I am actually breaking up with her tonight, because I am done playing games. I did nothing wrong so I have no reason to feel bad. All I want for her is for her to be happy. If its not meant to be, its not meant to be. I’m not saying I don’t feel anything, because it feels like two years of wasted time and memories.

Isn’t it funny when you read a story on hear that sounds remarkably similar to your own?

I feel like I am in the same position right now with my girlfriend. Not sure what I did wrong, praying that I don’t lose her. Wondering if she even still loves me.

You’re not alone

I don’t know, its just something thats always worked for me. I just play music, my little way of bringing something better to this world.

Its okay, I mess up everything without trying either. Sometimes in life it seems like no matter what choice you make it pisses someone off. The important thing is to keep going. Someone once said “I don’t know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”

Yea, we need just a little bit more than that to help you out.