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• burried or cremated?
  

  Check out eco friendly burial sites!!!! There aren’t many around but it’s a fascinating alternative to the sterilized methods Americans have grown up with.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• I can’t let my mind go of this man I fell in love with.
  

  Wow, I can totally empathize with you but unfortunately have no great advice that you probably haven’t heard before but I’ll give it a shot. Forgive yourself for loving this man. You fell hard for him he was married things didn’t work out. Why do you think you came into his life (what was his lesson to learn from you?) What was your lesson you needed to learn from him? I say, don’t TRY to get over him…let the pain seek in, embrace it, make friends with it (I’m serious here). I’m not saying to spray his cologne on your bed, gather everything he ever touched or gave to you and swim in an ocean of pain and grief but I think you should try just letting it sit with you. Don’t try and find another guy–let him find you this time and just Be. Go on with your life and don’t think of any Shoulds of Life…just Be. Breathe. Live. And later Love again.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• I know my wife is cheating on me, but I don’t
  

  It will tear you apart to stay with her while she’s doing her ‘thang’ on the side. Think of all the Halloweens, Thanksgivings, Xmases, birthdays you will have to endure while you are ‘waiting’.
  
  I’ve been married before and always thought before marriage that I would leave my husband immediately if cheating happened. During the marriage things were comfortable but no passion, sympathy, or empathy. We eventually went our separate ways (neither of us cheated) and divorced…but I realized with all of my being WHY people cheat. I wasn’t getting any passion/sympathy/empathy/understanding-the things I desperately needed and thought AHA! that’s why people cheat.
  
  I really urge you to do EVERYTHING in your humanly power to mend things: forgiving yourself, forgiving her, going to counseling, groups, etc. Do everything you can so that in the end you can say you gave it your BEST…because I can’t say that I did and I will always regret that. I think it may also come to harm you in your next r’ship. It seems to be working like that with me. Staying in a r’ship and giving it your all over and over and over again and not knowing when to call it quits (b/c you have this guilt that you didn’t try hard enough in your marriage). Ack! GOOD LUCk!
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

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