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hey girl, when you hop on line let me know how you are doin

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I’m so glad to here you were healthy enough to get out! Just remember weight doesn’t make you ugly, attitudes do. keep your attitude positive and keep your focus on your future. regaurdless of present and past problems, you own your future, no one else can control that. stay healthy so you can live life, you only have one. start making plans for stuff you want to eventually do, even if it seems unattainable right now, your future self may make it happen! so dream and plan.

hey girl thanks for letting me know you are okay. how was today for you?

Any habit is hard to over come. They all take work and patience. At 14 i think most teens are going through hardships they cant even. So they going through or experiencing all kinds of emotions. Do you have other family members you feel comfortable with talking to or even living with? Maybe they can help you over come this

Lol, okay. :)

Hi i feel for you i really do. reading your profile and previous post saddens me. I wish we could choose the lives we live but unfortunately some of us are put into families we wish we werent apart of. Just think positive and try your hardest to not let your parents depict your future. When you are 18 go to college and set out a life of your own.

You dont have to respond i just wanted you to know that you can get through this. Dont let this disease take control of you, eventhough it seems like it already has. You can still beat it. You say it feels good but i know deep down inside it doesnt.

♥Hugs♥

No, I don’t go on Chat. Sorry.

Hi, I just got your friend request and I’d be glad to add you, but I don’t think I’ve seen you around, so I’m just curious why you asked. :)

im so sorry..=(
i know what you mean about wanting to kil yourself but to scared too.. thats the exact same way as i feel.
but you can get through this. just try and accept the help. the sooner you do, the sooner youll get back to your normal life.
why wont your parents visit?

you kno i screwed up as a teenager REALLY bad, as did my parents. I did the anorexic and bulemic thing. god sent me kids way to early and then i had to focus on not making them as (email removed) up as me. I still don’t know what I did other than put them 1st at all time, and support their dreams no matter what they were. I came from a father that was never there, and a mentally ill mom who was hardly there. I overcame all this and look for the good in each day as well as learn from all experiences good and bad. so please have hope that even if you aren’t happy where you are at this very moment that you can change it and make your future yours and do it your way so that you are happy.

Hey Tiff Tiff, I am a vegetarian too. I have been one for 10 or so years and am trying like crazy to stop eating dairy! I quit mean with no trouble but I can’t seem to go a week without cheese :( I feel like a hypocrite eating it too, but hey, I’m trying. All we can do is try! ps, I like your name!

lol Thanks. And no worries, I assumed you had a curfew.
Yes, guys really dont care that much about looks, or what sort of clothes you wear. And the ones who do arent worth your time. In time, youll become for comfortable with yourself. But in the mean time, try finding a hobby that can keep you occupied and interests you, instead of obsessing over your weight.
40%! That is very scary, yes. I hope youre trying to accept and understand that your parents sent you there b/c they love you. They want you to get better and just cant do that by themselves.

Rereading your earlier shouts..
You do know, in the end starving doesn’t work. Sure, you’ll get thinner. Sure. But you’ll never see it, No matter how much you do it , you’ll never be satisfied and you might just end up going round in circles losing and then gaining over and over again. It’s really not worth it. People don’t like others who look anorexic, if thats why you’re doing it.
Most likely, you wont listen to us before its too late. That’s just how it always is. But if you do take my advice to just start being healthy and stop worrying about weight, you’ll be SOOOOO much happier.
Just remember that this thing, itll take years to get over. YEARS of your life. PLEASE.

Whole wheat bread hun, its got loads of fibre and other yummy stuff (yay!) :P

Well then, make sure you dont overdo it :)
Start by exercising a bit more everyday and eating smartly.. You know whats good for you. It’s hardly a secret. You eat more healthy stuff,and then your body does what it knows will be good for you :)

Hi there. I got your friend request, but I don’t think I’ve seen you around before. What’s up?

wow..i kinda get it, but not entirely, and to be honest, i never will, because i dont know whats goin on in that head of yours. but im sure you’ll pull through..we all believe in you..

Im off to bed, but if you want to talk, you can always shout me. :)

Im a very curious person, so Ive done a lot of research on whatever topic strikes my fancy.
Confidence doesnt come from appearance. Sure, it helps a lot, but confidence is about knowing you are a strong person, knowing your abilities, and your talents.
If you lose more weight, do you honestly think youll be happy? Do you think youll be happy when you pass out again from fatigue? Or when your intestines start eating away at themselves? You need to talk to a professional you trust, to help you see this as a disease.

Im 19.
Youre not crazy. But youre not acknowledging this disease either, and thats what anorexia is. Is there a counselor at the facility you can talk to? Theyre there to help you think of yourself in a positive, healthy way.

People like Posh spice are not good role models. You shouldnt be envious of her, or try to be like her, or any of the Hollywood actresses you see in magazines. Youre not fat. Even if you gained 30 lbs, you still wouldnt be fat. Woman are beautiful, and were beautiful b/c of our curves. More important than that, woman are beautiful when were healthy, happy, and confident. You wont find any of that down this road.

how old are you?
when i look at myself i see someone unconfident in there skin.someone fat. when i see people as skinney as posh spice i get envyous….but i was surprised to learn she weighs 98 pounds. i think that with every pound i lose i will be happier and that is a crazy thought and it wont go away. and when i look in the mirror im huge but when someone takes a picture of me i see someone way to skinney.
am i crazy?

Honey, you are damaging your body if you dont eat. In a permanent, life threating way. You need proteins, carbs, vitamins ect to have energy, and to grow. Youre only 14, you need to build healthy bones and teeth that will last you the rest of your life.

What do you see when you look at yourself? Someone beauitful? Someone fat? What do you see when you look at other people? Do you envy a certain type of body shape?

We’re always here to talk if you need support!

Chapter One

“Eeny, meeny, miny moe. Catch a cricket by its toe, let it squirm, let it die. But never let it go.” Iris chanted softly to herself. She held her leg with one hand and in her other hand she held a piece of black string. She twisted it between her fingers, letting it cut off her blood flow before releasing it and starting again. A book lay open on the floor, probably a homework that she would never have to do, or it could be a book that belonged to her brother that she was keeping out of spite. Iris loved to see him run about the house in worry for his ‘precious work’ she always left it just long enough before she could rush in and find it, the model sister, the model pupil, model daughter, the perfect one. Iris had never had to try to be perfect, people told her she was and she had just never denied it, why ever should she. It wasn’t ever her intention; she only wanted to blend in. It was easier that way but now she was idolised. All this praise for lies, cheating, for making herself better by making others look worse. Now Iris had almost perfected perfection itself.

Faces

Faces stare from empty rooms,
The quiet whisper of days gone by,
The last time fate stood still,
Someone began to die,

You flew on beautiful wings,
Through the concealed morning dew,
Love uncompleted,
The me without the you,

First impressions,
Last chances,
The fabric of life,
Not a stare but glances,

Life is a water,
Water is life,
Life freezes,
The liquid cut with a knife,

A chance is a chance,
And chances are taken,
You can’t live standing still,
Temptations beckon,

A small touch,
A lasting feeling,
You can’t bargain with death,
There is no dealing,

A loss never leaves,
Losses are hidden,
Life can move on,
It is not forbidden,

Don’t live for death,
Die for life,
Love and compassion,
Not fear and strife,

Sometimes goodbye is not enough,
Never make promises,
Your face is now hidden,
By Death’s sweet kisses,

I never got a chance to know your heart,
Yet I knew our love was real,
I am sure as the first leaf that falls,
Although neither I can feel.