2008-12-23 00:40:21 on Ok so…
[quote 045001]this seems like a cycle you need to break at some point.1. your avoiding people because you think they will be weirded out.2. by avoiding them, you probably do weird them out.3. you’re aware of this, and you feel people don’t like to communicate with you.4. back to 1 again…I think you need to take control of this situation and try to experiment (as Gabz said). In particular, work on your non-verbal communication. Think about the people that you like, and see if you can spot their strengths.[/quote]
I know, I’m stuck in my habit but I think I’m protecting myself when I’m only isolating myself. When I was younger I was never even like this. I was happy and outgoing but I went to this really horrible (class D) Redneck school and it seemed like EVERYONE had me on their **** list. The teachers themselves would even pick on me just to make the ‘cool kids’ think they were cool. I transferred out of that **** hole school in 9th grade and the new school was much better, but I had so many anxiety problems by that time it was hard to make new friends (I did but most have moved away.) I am 22 now btw. I really can talk to people, I just really need to feel accepted and liked by them BEFORE I can open myself up to them. I know I need to change this and I am trying, I just need to try harder I guess.
And gabz I totally know what you mean with the whole shopping thing. I HATE going to the mall because I feel like everyones eyes are watching me! It is so nerve wracking. Even when with friends in public I still can feel this way (although not nearly as bad.)
Thank you both for your help and kind words I really do appreciate it and I do care what you are saying, but I know I come off like I don’t >
I will force myself to smile next time I’m talking to a stranger, even if I feel like a complete idiot the whole time.
2008-12-23 00:25:20 on Ok so…
I guess I shouldn’t say its only because Of my past, its just hard for me to communicate well with others in general.
2008-12-23 00:24:16 on Ok so…
You’d think nothing, but eye contact makes me very nervous. Also If there is any slight evidence (real or imagined) that the person is weirded out, I get very anxious and can’t stop thinking about it. Then my counter-emotions (being stern etc etc) kick in automatically.
I guess I can’t stand the fact that people are judging me. I don’t know how to not care about what others think about me because I want them to think good things about me and for all I know they are. But because of things that happened to me a long long time ago, I automatically assume the worst :(
2008-12-23 00:18:45 on My cat just got into my chocolate drink (yoohoo)
If anything at all ,your cat will have the runs. Thats about it lol.
2008-12-23 00:01:54 on My Grandma is trying to get me to convert to her religion?
[quote ♥ tiffany!]So I’ve already sort of messed up?
I took down her number and said I’d basically get ahold of her. I just didn’t want to be rude. She’s a really nice person. But now I feel I gave her the wrong impression.[/quote]
Maybe you could talk to her about your religion instead if you think you’ve messed up.
Just an idea ~_~
2008-12-22 23:53:05 on I need some major help on arguing with my friend.
people who are bipolar are very easy to irritate and sometimes it seems they get upset for no reason. I don’t know tons of info abut bipolar disorder, but I know they can go from being extremely happy to extremely angry or sad at the drop of a hat. Its possible, but maybe its just his personality idk honestly.
2008-12-22 23:45:00 on I need some major help on arguing with my friend.
ask him what hes trying to prove to everyone
He sounds like a immature person if he is mad at your for something you don’t even know about and won’t talk about it. He sounds like a douche bag wasting your time. Get over him.
Sorry for being so blunt, but people like that are idiots.
2008-12-22 14:44:36 on Need help to create a name for an alien race.
How about demonites lol even though its a demonic knight it’d be a cool race name. Idk..
2008-12-22 14:42:32 on Need help to create a name for an alien race.
Yea fallout 3 is awesome.
The game I want is Resident Evil 5 but I have to wait until march -_-
World at War is pretty fun too, especially the zombie mode.
2008-12-22 14:39:37 on Need help to create a name for an alien race.
Speaking of crazy alien games, has anyone played dead space yet? I’m thinking of buying it for the 360.
Resistance 2 was fun.
2008-12-22 11:13:28 on This applies to all cheaters and people who have been cheated on.
No it was just a generalized observation.
2008-12-22 11:10:16 on This applies to all cheaters and people who have been cheated on.
If you harbor unforgiveness it will only affect your growth in life as you will most likely have a fear of being cheated on in relationships. Learn to forgive people for their last mistakes and put it behind you.
2008-12-22 11:01:15 on This applies to all cheaters and people who have been cheated on.
Every one makes mistakes. Although the mistake the person made may have been wrong, they deserve a second chance and forgiveness.
2008-12-22 00:23:09 on What’s the matter with cheese-nips?
Well I do like cheez-its occasionally, but they always leave their residue on my hands which really bugs me. I kind of OCD about foods that leave my fingers feeling waxy/grimy.