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You don´t need to forget to move on.

I never forgot any of the ones in my past and i don´t think i ever will. Neither would i want to.

I would like to move on from my last though. Kinda stuck there for a while. In time i learn to live with it and the pain resides.

You only dig yourself deeper into the ground by comparing yourself to others. Be the best you can be and be happy with who you are. You´ll never be anyone else than yourself as long as you live. The sooner you embrace this fact, the sooner you can change it all around to start owning yourself and get rid of the anxiety for not being good enough.

I wish you all the best! :)

He definetely needs to take responsibility for his situation and you need to stop assuming that role. You need to focus more on you and how you can grow stronger in support. You´re not meant to carry anything for anyone else or be a vent for frustration.

I think you need to get down to it from a full specter of emotional depth. Then issues can be worked out thoroughly. If one skip the surface there will be icebergs in the ocean that will sink your ship eventually.

How to go forth in such a situation is not easy to figure out. There might be trial and error, bumps and holes on the way. If you push on through you can work anything out. And i can´t even start to tell you how much it is worth it in the end.

[quote cathetel]amazing i loved it, a very deep meaningful poem :) keep writing you write amazing.[/quote]

Aww, thank you. That really means a lot. :)

:D

Find your passion and develop yourself instead of trying to pursue someone else to make you happy. When you´re where you need to be, people will be attracted to you with no effort.

[quote cathetel]that was amazing Grim, you wrote it yourself?[/quote]

Yeah, i found some inspiration from your poem and wrote it down.

Love it!

Through the unity of two one emerge
The tiny seed of hope turned into a force of life
Rough passes makes her stronger
The sea will never wear her down

In the clouds she finds hope
Memories are made in the hands of time
Living in the moment for all to come
Bearing the life inside

Into the world another one is brought
Unity in the making slowly fading away with time
Alone and cold the shiver is felt
Sense of being, but not belonging

Ever so strong in the will and in the mind
weakness is not to be seen
Deep inside the hurt is still there
Cuts that never will heal by themselves

Some nights are gone, flashes of light
waking up in unfamiliar places
Changes in body, changes in mind
Something is different there inside

Growing from abuse, nurtured by love
The seed so fragile it lies
Doubts will seal it´s fate today
Directions, thoughts, sp many paths..

Another flower grows through the pavement
Another one comes through from pain
Thoughts from hate transformed to light
Love makes it all worth it in the end

1. Cuddling
2. Nature
3. Horses
4. Acts of kindness between people
5. Cartoons

Aww.. Love it!

Think i would go for new experiences. Many people can teach you many things. I don´t have a life partner atm either. Though, i would only pursue relations where i can grow further and learn more. There is no need to be with someone just because one is comfortable.

Happy B Day! :D

[quote Anonymous]Grim, I like your thoughts on this. I needed to hear them, and I”m not even the OP of this post. Last night was soooo hard for me. I know what I’m doing wrong. Meds get me through much of the pain of therapy. When I get better with therapy, I probably won’t need my meds as much….but for now, I take them. I was almost 5 yrs
without them. It was hard to start back up. I wanted to hit that anniversary. I was less than 6 months away from hitting my 5 year meds-free mark. I had a fight with myself. I could either stay off and be completely miserable for another nearly 6 months so that I could reach some anniversary…or I could take meds and feel a little better by the anniversary. Second option was best for me. It’s not the same for everybody. I was having it so rough last night that I thought of going to the psych ward. I’ve never done that….but at some point when I’m more healed, I may be able to handle that. Thanks for your words above.[/quote]

All the best for the future. All lies within you and the tools is all around. When you meet a problem you need to educate yourself to get around it. This is a constant process that makes you stronger all the time. Being where you are proves you strong already. Don´t feel down for being at a stage of learning. Be grateful for ALL lessons in life.

I believe in you.

I´d take her in.

If you don´t put in the proper effort and take the time needed, success is not going to happen. Things will bounce all over the place until you either give up or do it right.

Changing the body takes time. Effort divided with time equals your results.

If you want to do something and make a change, do it properly the first time around.