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I knew i was right!!Lawl…

There is nothing you can do but speculate as to why she is acting this way. I think that you didnt know her as well as you thought, and she really is a just a selfish, shallow, person.( Sociopath perhaps?)The fact is that most decent people would not act with such hatred for no reason.This is also a confusing situation to me. It is a very unusual way to handle things..im sorry that i cant be of more help, but you have to come to the understanding that you may never know why she acted this way.

There is no easy solution to this problem. If you can, reconnect with some family members or friends a.s.a.p. This situation will take some time to resolve itself and it would be nice if you has some people in your life to keep your mind off of it. If your working, really throw yourself into it, spend as much time as you can keeping busy so you dont have to think about her. Feeling bad about what happend is natural, you were given no closure. Give yourself adequate amount of time to be sad, but then put it behind you. This one moment in your life doesnt define who you are. Sometimes people turn out to be the opposite of what we think they are. There is nothing you can do to change it, you are only in control of your own actions. Its not your fault that she left you, it just wasnt meant to be, now you are free to find that special someone that is right for you.

I guess that i was just thinking what i would do in this situation. Im good at reading other people, so i usually am confident that any feelings i have will be reciprocated. Anyhow i only meant it as a suggestion, theres nothing wrong with just going for it, but if your not sure then go with take the other posters advice.

The fact that she slept with someone else but hates you for kissing her friend, says alot about her. It seems that this relationship is a wash..let it go. You say yourself that you moved to fast with her, well learn from this and take things a bit slower the next time you get involved with somone. Take some time for yourself to adjust to being back in the states. If you absolutely need some closure, attempt to contact your ex after a couple months and explain what happend. Hopefully you 2 can be mature about it and move on from there.

Time it right and try and kiss her. If she kisses you back then your golden…Make a move first b4 asking her to be your girlfriend.

If presents are a must then hit up the local dollar store and stuff their stockings with small inexpensive treats. Presents dont have to be put under the tree for Santa to have visited. The above posters advice was also most excellent!

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Hey Tiffany. Id like to say first of all sorry to hear about your situation :( It may help to hear that i have been in a similar situation b4). First thing i did was get up very early in the morning and come home very late, that way you can avoid being around all the people living at home. Next get a job, any job, even if its delivering the paper, even working at Mcdonalds(i took at job at starbucks). Search the newspaper and internet for pepople who are looking for a roomate. Living in a house or apartment with a couple other people can be very cheap. Perhaps if you get the ball rolling your parents will help the rent as well.Hopefully this advice helps, and good luck…Im available to talk to anytime if you need to vent.

Dear Dimmingstar…First things first, how is your relationship with your sister’s? Could you possibly confide in one of them? If not then could you possibly speak with a church official such as a priest? If there is nobody you can talk to then i would suggest you tell your mom what the situation is..give her a chance to help you get help for yourself. If she refuses then you know you have to take matters in to your own hands and seek professional help. You are very young and have so many things to look forwrd to in your life, i wish i was 16 again!! Keep your chin up if possible and know that there is answer to your problem, since you are not the first or only teenager to go through this sort of thing.Good luck!