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• my husband suffers from anxiety and I am afraid of spending my life constantly having to reassure him and getting ground down by it. posted (12 months) ago
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• any meditationers out there?
  

  Hi, I’ve been meditating recently and have got a lot out of it. There are lots of different approaches as the replies above indicate, but let me just share something amazing which I have found - meditation brings profound benefits even when you think you’re not doing it right!!!
  
  You can start my kind of meditation without anyone neccessarily helping though it’s great if you can find a group to join, don’t worry if you can’t. Just try finding 20 minutes a day to sit still in an upright position, cross legged on a cushion if it’s comfortable for you, in a straight backed chair if that’s easier.
  
  I do it in a chair. Place your legs shoulders width apart comfortably so your feet are planted firmly on the floor, have your back nice and straight, imagine your spine going up to the sky, tuck your chin in a little bit but don’t strain anything. keep your eyes open but your lids drooped, don’t shut out reality but don’t pay attention to it either. Just be. Breath normally for 20 minutes, set a timer.
  
  If you like you can repeat a mantra, “I am a peaceful being” is a nice one, or “I choose now, I am here” or whatever you like, or just count your breaths, 1 to 10 then start again. All your aiming to do is sit still and quieten your mind. and it doesn’t matter that your thoughts will wander, when you catch them wandering just acknowledge that and let them go and bring your focus back to your mantra or the breath.
  
  I promise you if you do this regularly (daily is ideal) you will sleep better and feel calmer and more energetically. I promise you will also think you are not doing it right, don’t beat yourself up about it, just sit still and breath and you will get results. If a load of emotion comes out just let it then meditate some more. It works miracles. sending you love and light and luck, would love to hear how you get on. x
  - written 11 months, 2 weeks ago

• I REALLY need to talk.
  

  sorry angel, got confused there!
  - written 12 months ago

• my husband suffers from anxiety and I am afraid of
  

  thanks :)
  
  It’s a horrid complicated mess
  
  :(
  - written 12 months ago

• my husband suffers from anxiety and I am afraid of
  

  thanks both, I like your approach best k4kiero and i will investigate that book, I need to listen to him Hazel, I’m not interested in denying his feelings, that’s not going to be a solution, just a sticking plaster. Before we ended up separated I didn’t used to listen to him enough and he ended up in a right mess. Now we’re trying to put our marriage back together, though living apart while he sorts himself out, I need to allow him space to express what’s going on for him. He’s seeing a counsellor twice a week and going to AA and I think both those things are positive. I just worry he’s focussing too much on what he sees as his illness. i wish he’d just get into exercise or something but he was beaten as a child and he is really messed up as a result.
  - written 12 months ago

• my husband suffers from anxiety and I am afraid of
  

  thanks both - will look into those books Hazel.
  
  we are doing a lot of communicating and that is positive and I feel lucky to have the love that is between us. I like what you say, kiero, about what he is feeling being natural.
  
  my problem is that he believes he is mentally ill and I believe that by focussing on this he may be making it true. I don’t know what mentally ill really means, he is my wonderful beautiful adorable clever handsome husband and I wish he could just accept anxiety as a normal emotion and live with it and get over it and not label himself as sick.
  
  my fear is that his “illness” has the potential to take over both our lives
  - written 12 months ago

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