It sounds like your husband is suffering from depression.
This often manifests its-self in anger/paranoia and agression, I would try and get him to your G.P as soon as possible.
He obviously also has self-esteem issues that need to be worked through. It takes aspecial sort of man to stay at home with the children, many find it emasculating and despite their good intentions,end up resenting their partner and children.
I would be fairly insistent with him on seeing a G.P. If things are left he will in all probability get a lot worse,and may end up doing himself or god forbid you or your kids harm.
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