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• My boyfriend is a selfish lover.
  

  Go to a bookstore and find a good book on sex and pleasure like… “Hot sex” . Something that has information and techniques for both men AND women. Read it bed together for fun. Tell him you want to try some new things on him and ask him if he sees anything in the book he might like to try… what he thinks about this or that. Then eventually show him a section on womens sexual response and discuss what YOU might like to try.
  
  I suggest “hot sex” only because I have read it and know for a fact that it has statistics on the percentage of women who have orgasms with penetration alone ( which I believe is only about 30%)…and other statistics.
  And yes, as our only gay eskimo friend says… use “I” statements.
  Do you love this guy???
  - written 2 years, 11 months ago

• My boyfriend is a selfish lover.
  

  He sounds like just what you said… ” a selfish lover”. Whatever “some women” may be able to do doesnt matter. What matters is how he can make YOU feel good. Ofcourse , i completely agree with others that most women need more than 5 minutes and more than just penetration. Personally, i would get rid of someone so unwilling to please me. It should be about MUTUAL pleasure! Is he like this in other areas of your relationship too????
  What is he afraid of ? Is he really worth seeing???
  just wondering.
  J
  - written 2 years, 11 months ago

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