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• What are someways to get your body healthy at 14?
  

  For most people the answer is simple, eat whole grains,fruits and vegetables(preferably fresh fruits and vegetables).
  Cut out most meat,especially red meat.
  Cut out or cut down on animal fats and use small amounts of vegetable fats instead.
  Avoid pre-packaged foods, (lots of foreign chemicals and mostly calories without
  the nutrition of fresh natural foods.)
  Reasonable amounts of exercize, don’t overdo it.
  8-10 hours of sleep-VERY important.
  Don’t stress out. Most things aren’t really that important in the long run.
  
  I’ve found a supplement called RELIV very good but you probably don’t need it at your age.
  - written 11 months, 3 weeks ago

• My lust for life is missing.
  

  Laura, I hope you read this. I linked to this post through one of your responses to someone else’s request for help. Your answer was wonderfully correct but more than that you were poetic in your response. It was simply beautiful. You spoke truth in a way more beautiful than I could have managed.
  Never-the-less let me attempt to speak some truth in a less beautiful way.
  
  I find that when I’m depressed or down or in the “Blahs” that there is an amazingly simple cure and it works every timefor me. There are two steps.
  
  First, I pray for help. He who knows all things and understands our hearts as well as everything else, also has the power to do whatever He deems correct if we also do our part.
  Second, I read from the Book of Mormon til the darkness or grey disappears.
  You could substitute the Bible, but for whatever the reason, I have found the Book of Mormon works better for me. It usually takes less than an hour for me, but varies. You can get a copy from the library or if you know a mormon friend or neighbor they will get you a copy, usually for free. You can also get a free copy from their website mormon.org and they’ll even deliver it for free
  I know this sounds simplistic, but it has never failed me.
  You sound like a wonderful person. Don’t worry too much about your husband and his small circle of travel. I’m a guy and when you work away from home all the time, it’s just nice to be at home where you can relax and do nothing. It’s a pretty common working-guy thing. My wife felt the same way,but it’s not because I don’t like to get out, it’s that I am on the run too much at work, and home with my wife and children is where I most like to be, and where I can finally relax and decompress. Give me some time away from work and then the “Let’s go do something” attitude returns.
  Again it sounds too simple to work, but it works for me, every time. Give it a try, don’t let the simplicity of the method dissuade you. And don’t forget to offer a thanks to Him afterwards.
  
  Having just come out of surgery, there could also be a medical reason, but even then attitude and actions will probably have an impact on you. ( My Mother-in-law,Sister-in-law and Brother-in-law (different family) all are Bi-Polar and each deals with it differently, but their approach seems to have a major effect on them.
  - written 11 months, 3 weeks ago

• I give too much of myself to other people.i give it all away and end up feeling like a big neon sign that says “vacant”
  

  Christ taught us to love our neighbor as ourselves. What gets lost in that too often is that we are also to love ourselves. We should treat ourselves with just as much care and concern as others and not ignore our own needs by giving everything to someone else. You can’t get money out of a checking account if someone is making deposits into that account.
  Ultimately our own self worth comes from doing what’s right. Not from what others want us to do or even from what we want to do,but from making our behavior align with our correct beliefs.
  - written 11 months, 3 weeks ago

• Does contentment really exist?
  

  What you are experiencing isn’t all that unusual,but it’s not neccesarily terminal either. There is a reason you got together in the first place,hopefully it wasn’t only for physical reasons. If you saw something you liked in each other in the begining, think back, those qualities probably still exist. Probably the best antidote for boredom is for both of you to get outside yourselves and to start doing unselfish things for each other. It takes two but sometimes one can start it rolling. Self gratification is a nowhere trip and always eventually leads to dispair in the end.
  If there was never much worthwhile you saw in each other in the begining and it was only a matter of convienence then maybe you ought to rethink how you would feel without each other. Many people break up a marriage or relationship only to find themselves getting divorsed again because they didn’t fix their own internal failings, they just changed their surroundings. Finding someone who is compatible and who we like being with alot of the time ( not all the time of course) isn’t that easy to come by.
  Do you like each other even though you’re bored?
  Like Libragirl said, it’s easy to get complacent and lazy.
  - written 11 months, 3 weeks ago

• why isn’t it the same?
  

  He’s probably hurt or wounded. It’s a guy thing. If you broke up with him, it may be a protection thing where he’s guarding against further hurt by not investing his feelings too quickly until he feels the relationship is more secure. Why open up himself to you only to have you inflict more pain again.
  Why did you break up with him? Was it your decision to break up rather than his.
  I would guess he doesn’t feel a lot of trust in you or in the relationship right now.
  If that’s the case you have to genuinely earn that trust again, and it has to be real, not a self gratifying act.
  - written 11 months, 3 weeks ago

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