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• seems like there is always something wrong. posted (6 months, 3 weeks) ago
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• I have a terrible procrastination problem posted (2 years, 6 months) ago
  I know this may not seem as such a big issue, but for years I’ve been constantly trying to end…

• help please! posted (2 years, 6 months) ago
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Hello users,Im Sandy's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (3 votes) Want to get to know the Help.com community!
  

  i think the problem here is people take this site too seriously. it seems like there is a “take all or nothing” vibe running though user’s mind. i’ve been using this site for a few years now and never encountered problems. i thinks its bc right next to is my facebok, msn, music playing in the backround and etc. i dont literelly mean this. what im trying to say is that this isn’t my life. and it would be unhealthy if it were to be any of yours. go on this site during your free time, chat with some interesting people, notice an interesting post and reply to it. that’s is what we should be doing. not finding life long friends and/or loves. not devoting every moment of our internet use to this site. go out. have fun. live your life. but remember: this site is to give and take advice on your REAL life. the life you have outside this site. i believe once you begin to take this site too seriously you start to have unatainable hopes for how amazing this site really is, thus begin to notice flaus and become disapointed. its not a new born baby. beautiful and precious, with hopes to become a doctor or lawyer. then the screaming and bratty attitude begins to arise. its a web site, that has always had the same values. helping others and recieving help in return. keep it simple, and you wont be able to be disapointed.
  
  - written 4 years ago – voted for by Sugar Rush, Commander Ikari, Sans

• (1 vote) how does one “move on”.
  

  there’s no quick solution, especially when it seems you’ve really developed deep feelings for this person. it takes work, trial and failure, effort. but whats important here is you have taken the first big step in the right direction! you’ve acknowledged the state of your relationship with this person to yourself, in an honest manner.
  sometimes our egos or defensiveness makes it difficult to admit that someone we like doesn’t like us in the same way, but by acknowledging this you are already freeing your mind a bit from their mental burnden.
  next, just try to keep yourself extremely busy and occupied, so you are unable to think about them and you are able to be comforted by a strong support system. try build your self-esteem and confidence, since many of the times it can get damaged in these situations.. remind yourself what you love about yourself and life. and, very importantly, avoid as much contact with them as possible. so you can really keep moving forward! good luck!
  
  - written 6 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by President Awesome:3

• (1 vote) I dont want this…
  

  It’s hard to forget about something that was so segnificant in your life. But you must move on. Don’t try to focus on her so hard. Just accept your thoughts of her and take the time you need to collect yourself as an individual and in time you’ll be fully moved on. My last breakup left me thinking of a guy every single day for well over 3-4 months. Even without a single word shared between us I still couldn’t get him off my mind, and at times wandered if I ever would. But in time your mind does forget and you do emotionally heal. You may never fully get over her, but you do deserve to be happy and not let lingering thoughts ruin you.
  
  - written 3 years, 7 months ago – voted for by Considine1000

• (1 vote) dude iv got the worst prob wiv ma luv life
  

  I didn’t know it was a rule to spell everything in slang if you were “gangster by heart”…
  btw if you love hannah you have to realise that there are going to other girls you’ll have feelings for and you can’t expect to only be interested in hannah forever. you have to push those feelings aside bc as much as you want other girls, you need hannah in your life. then again you seem pretty young still and I doubt you’re old enough to consider hannah as the love of your life. so just keep going with your relationship with hannah and try to stay with her, if you feel you need to let her go for “chelcee” then do so. dont cheat, just break up with hannah.
  ps. help.com isn’t a place to build a rep as a “gangsta”.
  
  - written 3 years, 11 months ago – voted for by iisamazin

• (1 vote) Anorexia Anyone?
  

  anorexia is a disease. it’s a form of depression, a way of self pain. alot of people dabble with it for the image of being “thin”. others have it because of a traumatic experience in there lives and it triggers a part of there brain. traumatic experiences can trigger can trigger all kinds of emotions (in which turn into diseases). once you start to feel that depression self image can be a way of excape for many of these people. therefore they start to become anorexic (which is a proven mental disability). have you seen how an anorexic person views eating, as to someone just dieting? to you honostly think that people that starve themselves till death can possibly just be “experiementing”. they create a bond with this disease and learn to adapt a distorted image of beauty. they actually fear food. frightened of what it can do to them. take away this beauty or acceptance they crave for, but in the end they will never achieve it. bc anorexics will always want to be thiner. they not only try to be thin, but they put themselves through excrusiating pain, isolate themselves from everybody, loose interest in all activities they once enjoyed, obsess (and I mean think about it all day long) about being “thin”, and are incredible depressed. it’s a mental illness of depression.
  
  - written 3 years, 11 months ago – voted for by fcell04

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• My computer won’t turn on.
  

  then how are you making this post right now? :O
  haha just kidding.. sorry I’m not help with technology.
  - written 6 months, 2 weeks ago

• How would you react if one of your friends told you that he cheated on an exam in college?
  

  i would advice not to rat them out. it’s really not worth it and it won’t change your mark or really effect you if u do rat on him. yet, friendship is bias. so just figure out if you desire having a person capable of this as a friend.
  - written 6 months, 2 weeks ago

• How would you react if one of your friends told you that he cheated on an exam in college?
  

  if what he did really conflicts with your moral standards then just stop hanging with him so much. don’t tell on him though, who really cares if he cheated or not? if he’s not cheating someone else is bound to. It’s whether you want to be friends with someone who has those specific moral standards. I have friends now i find myself seperating from due to their moral behaviour. but, personally for me, cheating for marks isnt so bad. people cheat for marks all the time but in other forms (ie. using money to influence your academic success). or horrible people born rich, who don’t even need to cheat to have their success, that isn’t fair either is it? For me, i usually begin questioning their morals when i see that they’re willing to intentionally hurt others.
  - written 6 months, 2 weeks ago

• hellow im sorry i want help im in relation with my
  

  jeez man, i’m reading you’re comments and you sound so lost. it’s not about refreshing your love, it’s about backing off and giving her the space she needs. we all need space from our partners! how about you change your mentality, you don’t have to feel this way. You don’t have to have this anxiety, fear and worry over your relationship. wouldn’t it be nice to just have trust in her and your relationship where you could be free from your irrational concerns?
  - written 6 months, 3 weeks ago

• hellow im sorry i want help im in relation with my
  

  you sound like my controlling ex-boyfriend. which may be why I’m getting heated just reading this. lay off, man! she may be your girlfriend, but she’s also an entire human being with her own beliefs and relationships (friendships). you’re just going to control her to a point that she won’t be able to take it and see that being without you is better then being with you and having nobody else. “if i could put her in y heart and close it to not let any one touch her”, that sounds really paranoid, neurotic and obsessive. why do you feel this way? why are you so afraid of having her simply interact with other human beings? why are you so jealous and insecure?
  - written 6 months, 3 weeks ago

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