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• How are you dealing with the economy? posted (11 months, 2 weeks) ago
  Any money saving tips to share? I’ve been keeping an eye on my gas usage (even though the pri…

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• (1 vote) I’m crying- and I’m no teen any longer.
  

  How about if you do some volunteer work, perhaps in a homeless shelter, or where they serve meals- - it doesn’t matter how shy you are, they just want a smile and to be treated kindly.
  
  The comments above are great ideas, sometimes you *do* have to fake it a little, don’t think of it as faking– think of it of helping change yourself into someone you want to be. You have to be an actor somewhat, and pretend that you are outgoing and not afraid to speak louder. And soon, you’ll be able to act more naturally and allow yourself to be more comfortable in social situations.
  I used to have this same problem when I started in my new job. I felt that no one wanted to be my friend. But then I realized that *I* was the one holding back from everyone. I forced myself to say “Hi, how are you?” to everyone and then stop to listen to them. Little by little, I have made friends. Remember–we all have something to offer to someone, even if it’s just to listen. That means a lot to people.
  
  - written 11 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Girl23

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• How are you dealing with the economy?
  

  Thank you all for the tips! Merry Christmas and let’s hope this next year is a great one.
  - written 11 months ago

• How do I get revenge on a kid who ive faught with for three years now and hate so terribly bad and have no help from any of my friends?
  

  Very good advice posted already…
  Let go of all the bitterness, forgive that person and you will be free! It’s a wonderful feeling. Anger just eats away at your heart, and wastes emotion…I know it’s hard but try it.
  - written 11 months, 1 week ago

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  Well if he’s needy like you say he is, he will really wonder what happened to you.
  The secret is being hard to get, you know the saying…play hard to get. I’m not saying he will call immediately, but after the wonder and excitement of seeing his ex is over, he’ll should start wondering why you haven’t contacted him. And don’t worry about letting him know that you don’t hate him…that’s part of the plan.
  - written 11 months, 2 weeks ago

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  I know it will be hard, but try not to contact him at all. He’ll be wondering why, and wonder what’s going on with you. Right now, he’s imagining you falling apart (which you might be but he doesn’t have to know it) and saying, “Oh, poor Shelley” and expecting tearful phone calls. Let him turn that phone and see ZERO voice mails from you. Nothing makes a man coming running back then thinking that you’re over them. I’ve always believed in being a bit nonchalant around them, holding back just a little. Maybe I’m wrong, but I feel that when you truly, truly open up your heart and expose all your feelings to them, they think they have you in the palm of their hands and they can do what they want.
  
  Whew!! Rant is over. Sorry! But I hope that I helped a little.
  - written 11 months, 2 weeks ago

• I Asked The Girl I Liked And Got A No Now What?
  

  You are young. Give it time, it really does heal all wounds. You can’t push these type of things, actively looking, looking all the time for a new girlfriend– girls can sense that type of stuff and it turns them off. Find peace and confidence in yourself and you will see that the right girl will be attracted to you. You’ll be ok. Remember:
  
  #1 personality characteristic that attracts women:
  
  **SELF CONFIDENCE, without being arrogant.**
  - written 11 months, 2 weeks ago

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