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the triplets are doing fine thank you.
they walk now :)

I’d rather remember living my teens as a teenager, even in a painful way than living my teens as a teen who had to grow up too fast…

I’d rather remember proms, parties, and hanging out with normal teens than remember drugs, violence, lame jobs and hanging with messed up young adults.

proms, parties, hanging out with normal teens, having fun…
worrying only about what boys thought about me, who was dating who and the next maths test.

I’ve never had all that.

You two need to talk.

Meet up somewhere, only the two of you and have a real talk about the way you both feel.

Think well about everything you wanna say and ask, so you’re well prepared.

He needs to know he can’t just mess around like that.

hallelujah by jeff buckley or if not for you by bob dylan.

The more you wait, the more you’ll hurt her.

So go on and break it before it gets bad.

You owe it to her.

You know, the concept of this site is helping people… So maybe you could tell us why it’s complicated and we could help you with that?
Or at least try?
You’ve got nothing to lose and it might be easier than trying to just fall out of love…

:)

I think you’re way too young to support a kid at your age, especially if the father is not around.
I myself found myself pregnant of triplets age 24, it wasn’t planned and I’d only been with the guy for a few months…
I kept them and they’re the best thing that’s happened to me in my whole life along with the father, who stuck around and loves all of us.
But it is hard work.
It really is.

So, at 14, you should really consider it seriously.

I am completely pro-choice
but, don’t rush into abortion.
Even if you don’t want to raise a child, there’s still adoption, if you don’t think yourself capable of bearing with the abortion.

I have had an abortion myself when I was 16, and it’s not an easy thing to do, so prepare yourself well and make sure you have people to support you.

:)

Well there’s also still the chance you’re not pregnant, and I hope you’re not :)

Take care
x
Lilly

You can’t fall out of love like that.

I don’t know why you don’t want to be in love with him if he loves you back but, all I can say is, falling out of love happens with time.
Could take months, or years.

You might want to rethink it though.
Even if the situation seems too complicated to just love each other now, it might change…

tell him.
ask him why he doesn’t talk to you

She might feel happier, but she’s still in danger.

When I was in depression, drugs made me feel happier.
Doesn’t mean they were good for me.

You need to tell her parents about it, so they can at least make sure she’s safe.

[quote Westnoteast]Oh, I learned that he actually makes her happy. Shes been in therapy for years and has not been happy, now this man is actually making her happy, and the relationship isn’t just her and him wanting to do this stuff on the webcam, apparently it has true emotional depth and she atleast cares about and trusts him, she can’t say the same for any other people. Now I don’t know the man, and I don’t even have any evidence to back a single bit of this up. Even if I tell her mother shes not likely to be able to do much of anything about it, and chances are it will only make her consider other options to contact him, and they can’t very well bring him in without any evidence.[/quote]

she IS in a lot of danger.
30 years old men asking 15 year old girls to do things by webcam is NOT right, it’s illegal.
And the fact she’s insecure about herself makes her vulnerable.
You need to tell her parents or this will end very badly

This man most probably tricked her into thi so-called romantic relationship.
These things happen all the time.
I’ve seen so many cases like this one where I work.

You CANT let that happen.

cheers :)

I told her not to get her hopes up too much, I don’t want her to get hurt… although I know she will.

They’re having that talk today, I’m crossing fingers for her.
But I’m expecting the worse…

I’ll keep you updated on how it went…

:)

So, some feedback here, she told him they needed to talk but he’s been avoiding that talk for about a week now but still acts the same.

P.S.

invite a few people please, we really need more advice…

what keeps you from being with him?