first of all, well done! taking the first step is always the hardest, you feel like you want him back in your life because despite all his abuse and hurt towards you, you loved him and your relationship was a rush, it was exciting, it made you feel like what you had was good before you saw it from the outside? my best friend was in exactly the same position. her boyfriend was controlling, he abused her and despite her constant cover up stories, we all saw through the charade. leaving her to find out for herself was the hardest thing any of us could have done, but she had to see it for herself because other peoples point of view only pushed her more into a relationship that was no good for her - physically, emotionally, cognitively, even spiritually. when she finally realised who he really was, she plucked up the courage to leave him and i respect her so much for that.
after they broke up though, he contacted her daily, and despite the fact that they were no longer in a relationship, she still felt trapped, she felt that she had to drop everything to answer his calls and texts and the abuse she got down the phone when she didn’t answer straight away made her apologise to him because she was still emotionally involved.
my advise to you is stay on the right road. go back to uni, find yourself again and remember who he really is, not who he appeared to be when you were with him. if you do see him, be civil, fighting fire with fire only causes a bigger flame, but don’t let your mind get side tracked again, he’s bad news and you’re doing the right thing by letting him go!
all the best, go out there and be who you want to be without letting anyone make you feel trapped! you’ll find the right guy one day who will support you every step of the way and at that point you’ll be able to look back and think to yourself how much this guy wasn’t worth it.
X - written 6 months, 1 week ago
this can never go any further than a mindless fantasy, sorry but it’s the truth.
first off, she’s your teacher.. she could lose her job if anything ever happened between you two.
secondly, she’s a mother of three! think of how her children would feel
and thirdly.. she’s married! sorry but you can never interupt a happy relationship! it’s the rules of society.. just forget about her mate.. trust me, there’s plenty more fish in the sea.
i used to really fancy a teacher at my school, but then i realised how wrong it was, he was only recently a new dad, married and like ten years older then me..
you have to back off.. sorry, but that’s how it is..
you’ll find someone new in no time.. promise! :) - written 1 year, 8 months ago
it’s great if you talk to each other in person instead of online.. it means that you have an actual face to face bonding. maybe try toning it down a bit with talking to him online and see if he brings it up? as you said, he is sometimes busy and can’t reply… - written 1 year, 9 months ago
talk to him in person? ask him if everything is ok with you two… find out why he’s isolating himself from you
the key to a good relationship is talking to each other! working things out… - written 1 year, 9 months ago