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• Is anyone a nurse or in any medical proffesion that had to take basic Anatomy in university? posted (9 months, 1 week) ago
  I elected to take an accelerated Spring Anatomy class in May and I bought the text book ahead of t…

• My girlfriend and I want to get drunk together fast tomorrow night. posted (10 months, 1 week) ago
  She is picky though. I can drink pretty much anything but she is a pickier drinker. Coolers usually…

• Would you forgive a cheater, would you or have you ever cheated, and do you know what it is like to be cheated on? posted (10 months, 3 weeks) ago
  Just curious on people’s views on cheating…plus, please include where you are from. I …

• I need ideas for a really great Christmas present for my girlfriend…I have two days to get her something. posted (11 months) ago
  Romantic would be great, money isn’t an object…we have only been going out for 4 months…

• I met a girl about 4 months ago off the internet. posted (11 months) ago
  It was as close to ‘love at first sight’ that I have ever experienced or have had any of…

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• (1 vote) why does the United States of America have troops in Iraq and Afganistan?
  

  If you read Naomi Klein’s book, Disaster Capitalism, it explains everything quite nicely. War there is a good excuse to inject capitalism into the region and therefore slowly make the middle east more capitalist and stable in a way to control the oil more effectively.
  
  The problem is that the Americans are now realizing that the region will never be stable and a more effective solution to their oil addiction is to find alternative energy sources so America won’t need the Middle East’s oil and they can start treating the MidEast more like it treats Africa and just ignore the region and stop wasting American lives and resources trying to help people who seem to be stuck in midevil times with their warring tribes and fundamentalist violence.
  
  - written 9 months, 1 week ago – voted for by chunkymove

• (1 vote) I had lost my virginity in december :(
  

  No problem. Everyone comes to the point where their parents can’t dictate their life to them anymore. It is another thing if you throw things in his face and are inconsiderate of their feelings. Your parents should love you even if you grow to have some different valuse then them. Just don’t get pregnant I guess!
  
  - written 10 months, 1 week ago – voted for by piggssqueel

• (1 vote) What do I say to a friend who is devastated by a breakup and can’t stop crying?
  

  Sometimes you can’t say anything. Sometimes you just need to be there for them and to listen to what they have to say. I guess that’s what you can say. Tell them it’s alright if they want to talk it out.
  
  - written 10 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by pink sparkle

• (1 vote) guys i seriously need to lose weight FAST.
  

  You say you want fast and easy…the tea was the easiest thing I’ve done in my pursuit of weightloss, but really, it is a lot of hard work to lose a significant amount of weight.
  
  Remember this, and this comes from my experiences, once you find a diet plan that works, you will fall off the wagon from time to time, but the hardest part is starting it. If it is a healthy diet, you will adjust to it and it will satisfy you if you stick with it. You will need to cheat sometimes and drink some booze or have some ice cream, but as long as you don’t give up and get back on the wagon when you fall off, you will lose weight. Some with working out…the hardest part is starting a new routine, but once you fall off the wagon and stop for a few weeks, make your self start again and don’t give up.
  
  The weight will come off…it will be painfully slow at times, but it will come off. The advantage we have being bigger guys is that we can safely lose about 3 pounds a week if you are strict. I weigh myself every day as soon as I wake up (after going to the bathroom). And I keep track of my progress. I also measure my neck, my stomach, and my chest once a month to see the inches I lose.
  
  You can expect to lose a lot the first few weeks. That is mainly water weight though. Don’t be discouraged when after 2 to 6 weeks the weight doesn’t come off as easily…it is then that you are actually just losing fat.
  
  The water loss can be attributed to the fact that your muscles store a certain amount of sugar before your body taps into your fat reserves. The thing about sugar is that your body suspends it in water in your muscles because sugar crystalizes when it is not suspended in liquid…so when the sugar is burned, your body expels the excess water.
  
  One pound of body fat is about 3500 calories. For your size you probably need about 3000 calories just resting so if you eat about 2500 calories a day and exercise off another 500 calories, you are burning an excess of 1000 calories a day. (These are all rough figgures so you get the idea.) So if you are losing 1000 calories a day in fat, you will burn a pound of body fat every 3.5 days. Make sense?
  
  - written 10 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by uze_dif

• (1 vote) My girlfriend of over a year cheated on me with an ex boyfriend.
  

  I really don’t understand why someone would end something that perhaps took years or even decades to build over something like cheating. I know that people can change and relationships can truly be broken beyond repair, but to take someone I have invested a significant portion of life in and label them with the phrase ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ I think only really would be cheating myself.
  
  I love my girlfriend pretty much unconditionally. I know she is a good person and I know that she always is striving to be a better person. I have an unlimited amount of faith in her and if she ever did cheat on me I would first look at myself and ask myself what I did wrong to make her feel like she needed to go outside of the relationship. I know she is human, I know she will make mistakes, even serious ones…but she makes me want to be a better person and I want to be the guy she thinks I am. The guy who in her eyes is forever understanding and forgiving…someone who wants her to be the best person she can be.
  
  The only way I can truly be that guy is to forgive her and give her a second chance and give her the opportunity to be the person I fell in love with. I want to help her grow and be beside her every step of the way in life’s journey even through the really hard parts and when her actions effect me negatively. I think that is the only way to experience true love and maybe I’m a little crazy, but I think that even something like infidelity has the potential to make a relationship stronger. Sometimes people grow after making mistakes and I what to give her the benifit of that doubt.
  
  - written 10 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by skyy

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• Nurture
  

  [quote Anonymous]However it can keep you from getting in a situation like that in the first place.[/quote]
  
  Not always.
  - written 5 months, 3 weeks ago

• I want to make my boyfriend really happy
  

  [quote piggssqueel]that is one douche thing to say dude, but I know there is some huge differences… which arent any help *sigh* [quote Solid]Lol, you can really see the difference between men’s and women’s advice on this one. Women say ‘look into his eyes’ and ‘love him’, and the guys basically say ’sex, preferably in blowjob form’.
  
  You’re boyfriend is a man right? Maybe it’s time to get over your fear of blowjobs?[/quote]
  
  
  
  [quote Solid]Lol, you can really see the difference between men’s and women’s advice on this one. Women say ‘look into his eyes’ and ‘love him’, and the guys basically say ’sex, preferably in blowjob form’.
  
  You’re boyfriend is a man right? Maybe it’s time to get over your fear of blowjobs?[/quote][/quote]
  
  
  Douche thing to say? Why? Because it might be true? Sometimes the best answer isn’t the prettiest. Most guys would be more thrilled to get a good blowjob than just about anything else….even if they wouldn’t admit it in an attempt to be politically correct.
  - written 7 months ago

• I want to make my boyfriend really happy
  

  Lol, you can really see the difference between men’s and women’s advice on this one. Women say ‘look into his eyes’ and ‘love him’, and the guys basically say ’sex, preferably in blowjob form’.
  
  You’re boyfriend is a man right? Maybe it’s time to get over your fear of blowjobs?
  - written 7 months, 3 weeks ago

• What is the state of racism in America?
  

  [quote New American Atheist][quote]marriage is semantics, its just a label, and its for heterosexual couples.[/quote]Not for me. Not for me.[/quote]
  
  I would of agreed with that before tonight, you have changed my mind though. Good stuff to think about while I eat my lunch.
  - written 8 months, 1 week ago

• What is the state of racism in America?
  

  [quote 1 2 3]vampire[/quote]
  
  Basically. And I don’t want to hear any vampire jokes! They offend my race! lol
  - written 8 months, 1 week ago

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