Bamby's reply history at Help.com

Awww, I’m sooo sorry to hear about her passing, especially so young. What do you mean you don’t know what to do??

If you ever find an answer to that, that works… Let me know…

Want advise from someone who knows, do not! Put ‘love’ over education or school, you have your whole life for that minefield, put education/school first, trust me…

It’s one of those where you need to do the right thing by rising above it, but comments like that are just plain hurtful. You need to take him to one side and look him in the face and really explain how it’s making you feel, that you are not him and you will live your own life, he has to accept anything and everything and if he can’t then it’ll be his loss. Dunno if the advise helps, but no you have every right to hate the fact that he comes across as a bully, but at least try and make yourself heard first, at least try to build a bridge, you never know it could be the slap he needs. Hope this helps xD

[quote Anonymous]ORIGINAL POSTER: my journaling was what really did it, but as all my writing related to, and affected my moods, the dr. said to stop.[/quote]

Maybe it is for the best, for the time being that is.

[quote Anonymous]ORIGINAL POSTER: As for the not writing, it was because the writing was noticeably worsening my depression.
If you would like I’ll post a link to some of my published work. (from before my depression)[/quote]

I see where you are coming from with that…

[quote Anonymous][quote Bamby][quote Anonymous]ORIGINAL POSTER: (although this is negative ) Any of the other things that I wanted to do, require money that I don’t have. The only exception to this is writing. But for that, my psychiatrist has recommended that I don’t do that at the moment. Believe me I have thought about doing other things.[/quote]

Recommended against writing?.. I suppose if that’s what you have been advised.. I know, money sucks but there are things to do for free, you just have to decide on things you like, or for heading towards goals you want to achieve in life.[/quote]

ORIGINAL POSTER: I just don’t know… I’ve even taken to embroidery to pass the time… I don’t know…[/quote]

It’s difficult and it’s something that you have to deal with yourself in whatever way you feel is right… It’s hard to stay positive but it’s what you have to do and taking your meds xD

[quote Anonymous]ORIGINAL POSTER: (although this is negative ) Any of the other things that I wanted to do, require money that I don’t have. The only exception to this is writing. But for that, my psychiatrist has recommended that I don’t do that at the moment. Believe me I have thought about doing other things.[/quote]

Recommended against writing?.. I suppose if that’s what you have been advised.. I know, money sucks but there are things to do for free, you just have to decide on things you like, or for heading towards goals you want to achieve in life.

[quote Anonymous]ORIGINAL POSTER: my friends and I used to play for a few hours once a week, (our weekly poker game :D) But all of us have had to move for one reason or another and not an option to get together. Since then my dad and I will play occasionally but lately my dad hasn’t wanted to do any gamming. So I’ve gone through and made a campaign for the next time I have to DM. I used to find it enjoyable and rewarding to make a campaign, but after a year of working on it… the luster wears off.[/quote]

Yeah, I think I prefer poker over it, but that’s mainly because most of the people I know can barely the hang of Texas Hold ‘Em… Well maybe it’s time to do something new, keep it as a hobby and an idea but put it to one side, maybe try something you’ve always wanted to, it’s the whole reason I got into becoming a singer/songwriter and learning more about music, for an example, art and creativity are said to aid depression and anxiety.

[quote Anonymous]ORIGINAL POSTER: I really would like to go fishing… My parents leave tomorrow, and I’ve been trying to talk my dad into going with me today, but no go. I don’t know if I should go by myself while there gone.
I wish I had someone to play Dungeons and Dragons with I’ve been dieing to play. It’s been close to a year now since I’ve played a character.[/quote]

It’s always a good idea to be out and about, the air gives you time to think, but sometimes it can lead to the wrong train of thought… Try just a walk or something first before going straight to a big day out with yourself.
Ha-ha tell me about it, last time I did was couple years back, me and some people had a big gathering and we managed to have a big game.

[quote Anonymous]ORIGINAL POSTER: my hobbies include, Table-top-RPG’s (Dungeons & Dragons, etc.) Reading, computer gamming… the usual. I also enjoy fishing, but I’m leery about that. The last time I went fishing when feeling like this, was when I cut my wrist, and I DON’T want to do that.
I have been playing on the computer, almost solid, during my waking hours… I haven’t been able to play any RPG’s for some time, due to all of my friends having moved away for work, or other reasons.[/quote]

Ha-ha, fairs, I love gaming and Dungeons and Dragons is awesome :D See that’s a good start but it’s about keeping your mind preoccupied and focus on the positives of life, set goals for yourself… Fishing would be good but if you don’t feel ready to then it doesn’t matter.

[quote Anonymous]ORIGINAL POSTER: I think that it is my parents leaving that prompted me to post here tonight…
… I know depression can effect the body, and maybe that is what it is, but ever since I found out I’ve been getting sick too. Physically ill. I hate this feeling, and I just don’t know what to do.[/quote]

Psychologically when you come to terms with something and accept it your mind and body will act different, it’s amazing how a mind controls the body when it affiliates words and conditions with itself…
Well continue to post, keep yourself occupied elsewhere, maybe a hobby or something, what things do you do in your spare time…

[quote Anonymous]ORIGINAL POSTER: My biggest problem when it comes to taking them is to remember to take them. The original reason that I stopped was I wasn’t remembering… it was sporadic at best, so I stopped. Now I’m running into the same issue.
And it has just come to my attention that my parents (whom I’m staying with currently) are going to be gone for the next week on vacation.
I’m worried. Before the suicidal thoughts came on so quickly before… I don’t have any other people that can stay with me, or that I can stay with…[/quote]

I know that feeling, I was never up in the morning or was too hurried to remember most of the time but it really messes with a person when that happens…
Don’t think into it, take it a day at a time, I’m not quite sure but talk to whoever you can, even if it is on here…

Erm, well I’ve been suffering for, years now and been on meds for a while, I have my phases of taking and not taking but one of the main things of not taking and then continuing is your body has to readjust to the effects and during the first few weeks/months the tablets are designed to make your feel worse… Well my ones are, doesn’t make sense really but eventually they kick in and as you’ve seen can help… I would advise to keep on taking them and feel free to talk to me or other people on here, best of luck and hope it helps :D

[quote Inthemist][quote Bamby][quote Inthemist][quote Bamby][quote Inthemist][quote Bamby][quote Inthemist][quote Bamby][quote Inthemist][quote Bamby][quote Inthemist][quote Bamby][quote Inthemist]Its a crowded freakin world, not going to lie. Too many goddamn people on this planet…most are freakin useless. But dont sweat it my dear….you are not alone. Dont isolate yourself, our days are short, they’re numbered…live everyday to its fullest…theres so much out there to be happy about.
Trust me..you are not alone.[/quote]

You wouldn’t believe how many times I’ve heard that and how often I have to face that off with people I’ve lost and things I’ve done/seen… I’ve just not got much to stay happy about anymore…[/quote]

Roght now it may seem that way. Hardships have a way of blinding us from our surroundings. You’ve lost people? Family? How old are you?[/quote]

Family, friends, pets, even random people I don’t really know… Old enough to see the world for what it really is and to be in therapy xD 20, nearly[/quote]

Well, I’m sorry to hear that and I’m sorry for your lost. But at 20, you have so much…so f’n much ahead of you….you road is not bleak…it may be clouded now…but it will clear…trust me. Do you have family/friends to talk to?
You might have to change your mindset…I know from experience, once you get into a negative mindet, its easy to put the blinders on and miss out on so much.[/quote]

Family, not really, friends, nope… Hence why I have to resort to moaning on here… I’ve heard all those before from sooo many people, from old people, inmates, therapists… Negative, well having severe anxiety, depression, etc… probably don’t help that…[/quote]
Well there’s a reason why you’ve heard it before from so many people…cause its true. If you have depression, you have to work through that before you are able to properly judge your life and surroundings.[/quote]

They told me that years and years ago, didn’t work…[/quote]

Well what are you doing to help it work? What are you doing, to help improve your outlook?[/quote]

Same things as usual, all the constant therapy and talk and tablets and **** just ain’t helping… I mean I make plans, future ideas and try to target goals but they just float off in the breeze…[/quote]

Why do they “float off in the breeze”?[/quote]

If you know anything about depression, or in my case, things like plans and sh** can come and then they go and it takes back over, dreams and wants are just a fairytale[/quote]

Have you figured out what the root cause(s) of your depression are?[/quote]

… I wouldn’t be like this if I knew the root cause but there are no magic cures or fixes for it :/