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Maybe its just that you need to get out more like they said^^^^^^^^^^^^

And maybe, I could be wrong, your not happy with your life because your not happy with your marriage.
I mean I’m not saying I think you hate him but it seems you guys dont do anything togther really anymore that made you guys so interested in each other or happy together in the first place. Maybe your husband is not the same person he used to be and maybe the way you love him could be more of a “family love” than a “relshionship love”. When work is almost over, do you feel happy and excited to go home to your husband who you know loves you and you love him too, and you think you’ll feel better once you see him when you walk in the door? OR when work is almost over do you feel maybe a hint excited because you hate your job and are just ready to leave, but when your on your way home you know theres not much to look forward too?

And about the other friend, what do you mean by nasty? Did he try do something or did he just not like who you married?
Was it worth it to give up your friendship (sounds like it was a good one) because maybe he said things he shouldn’t have?

Because what I’m taking from your friend being “nasty” is that he has feelings for you in a “love love” way not a “friend love” way and I think he still does. He’s just not happy that you decided to marry the man you married.

As far as the getting a new job part goes, keep searching theres something out there for you, never give up, your not doomed to bordom your just not doing the right things to make you happy. find out what makes you happy and pursue it.
hope i’ve helped. =)

i wouldn’t get back with him>>>>> a lot of love/hate relationships usually stay the same way
of and then on again, off then on again, off then on AGAIN….(you get the picture)
you could save yourself a whole lot of drama if you try finding someone else…you cant be in a relashionship with someone you dont trust. well you could if you wanted to but its not something your going to want to stay in.
[*hince the frase love/hate relationship]

1)”The question is - should I let my boyfriend take me away from my parents and leave everything behind here, and start anew with my boyfriend who’s already going to have for me a place to stay, money to live, money to have tietary studies, and time for my boyfriend and I to be together?

or

2)Should I stay and remain at this home where I am still being verbally and internally abused and sad most days, and without being able to be in my boyfriends arms until at least after 4 years?”

definately the first option. you’ve worked hard and deserve to be happy.
yes your parents gave you life and education, but showed you no love,or how to love.but one thing they seemed to have tuaght you is to stand on your own two feet. its time for you to yake a stand. your eighteen get the heck out of there.
and dont feel guilty for leaving your parents, because technically they left you a long time ago. you can do better and its time for you to make a career and succeed at it.

just know that sometimes we as people have to make sacrifices and risks, and learn the beauty of ‘moving on’.

whats its worth?

1)being happy with someone you love and who loves you back, and be able to be in the arms of whom you love.Everything being calm, relaxing, easy.To be excited to look forward not just the future but just the time being.

or

2)being pushed around and scared. the confidence you have in your self limited. no love lives or exsists, your just ulimatley lost. lost and alone in a big lonely world, with no hope and no faith.
-hannah

[quote Anonymous]It is pretty nuts isn’t it? One moment we are all doing pretty ok then things go downhill in relationships and BOOM! ..we’ve been hit with a combo-stupidity-blindness-denail stick![/quote]

totally =0

Everyone wants to know that same answer…..
perhaps its because we forget to use our brains and rely on emotion and hormones and were ‘blinded’ and have an alternate way of sensing reality.

well thats a nice thing hear,exspecially sense most people these days aren’t.

i really dont know how to says this, but here goes…

so i see that your annoyed, when your friend gets mad when people copy her.
but i mean think of it like this: if you came up with somthing really creative and it could be an awesome invention or something, and someone thought it was cool so they copied it, then they showed it to people who didnt know you created the idea first. wouldnt you admit you would be quiet ticked off?

i mean yeah sometimes there little things that maybe your friend shouldnt make such a big deal over, however to me it seems your comming off a tad bit harsh.

you should nicely talk to your friend about it(not accusingly.)but i do have another question, beacause i know me being a teenager, sometimes i over exagerate-i mean come on everyone does- how many times does your friend “invent” a new idea and someone copies her?

beacuase if its only a couple times but your noticing so it feels like its been going on for awhile, then you shouldnt be so negattive towards your friend.
(wait are you mad because she thought of something and you copied it, and she got mad over you for it?) this would explain why you seem to be really ticked off over this-but i dont know

anyways i wouild talk to your friend about it in a polite or joking way-but just know she might take it deffensivly

i just dont get it

you have an awesome voice, your not a good singer your a great singer!
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one thing i have to say is that your friends should accept that your frineds with someone else, do they accept that your friends with this person?
because they should, or else they wouldnt be good friends to you.
im not saying they should necessarily have to like this person, but they should accept the fact on who your friends are.
(well unless you have an unhealthy relationship and she’s influencing you to do drugs or something)

but to me-and i could be wrong-it seems there just jealous because your not hanging out with them a lot, so yeah there bugging the heck out of you.

how long have you been together with your group of friends, because if you and your guy friends have been friends for a long time, is getting annoyed because you want sometime alone with your other friend a valid reason to end a friendship?

-again i could be wrong- but it seems to me that you might be jumping to conclusions on your friends. give it a chance and wait. if there saying rude things to your other friend confront them about it.

but things will only get worse if you only hang out with this girl, your friends will be annoying you more, eventually they will stop hanging out with you, and then something with you and your other friend could possibly go wrong, then your stuck.

“friends are all we got in this world, dont make a stupid decission, and cost such a loss.”-hannah(me)

something is worth seeing the next day.
and i know now your probablly wondering what the heck i mean by that. you said
“how do i find the will to see tomorrow if i know nothing is worth seeing the next day” and im saying there is somthing worth seeing the next day.
(i dont know what “it” is, however theres one person that does, but they’re just not aware of “it” yet)
and that one person is you.

sure, you dont know what “it” is yet, but you’ll figure it out. dont you see? everyone was put on this planet for a reason, you YES you have a reason for being.

nature has given you a great gift. and yes sometimes you think:

‘what am i still doing here? i dont belong. i just keep getting hurt more and more. why, when somthing starts to get right, does it get all wrong and messed up? just give me one good reason.’

i will tell you what this is, this is LIFE, and when theres life there comes stuggles, and with struggles comes perserverence, and with that, you have a stronger person.
YOU ARE A STRONG PERSON, AND YOU HAVE A REASON FOR BEING.

listen i think i might have a feel of what your going through, and i have learned to become an independpent person. sometimes things are so good and then just get really bad and i wonder why life has to suckk so bad sometimes, but then there are some good times that i would never wish away for a momment, and those memories are wonderful and are a special thing to keep with you forever.

“dont end something that could be great, in the end, just dont mess with fate”-hannah m.(not hannah montana, me hannah m.)

ohhhhh nevermind i didnt read the tags on this…sorry i cant help you here.

wait what are you wanting to see more of?

haha thanks(for real)

first of all NEVVVVVVERRRRRRRR ever make someone choose between there friends, what will end up happening is “girl a” will eventually choose “girl b” over you.
(there friends)
and to “girl a” may come off as selfish and she’ll think of you as a jerk
(even though your not, your just going through things right now)

even if “gilr a” still is friends with “girl b” that shouldnt stop you from liking “girl a”, and “girl b” is like just a cloud blocking your sun.
(and yet the sun still shines)

yeah “girl b” might still be in the picture, but that wont be a problem unless you make it a problem. its clear that “girl b” hurt you, and hurt you bad. you shouldt even think of her all you should be focusing on is “girl a”, dont waste your time pondering over “girl b”, she’s not worth it to you.

one last thing i want to say is to be careful, you dont want you and “girl a’s” situation to end up like yours and “girl bs” situation.

i wish you luck!
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