The only thing lacking in you CLAIR is the fire in your belly. When you decide to look out for CLAIR, put CLAIR first and do what you have to do in order to take care of CLAIR, everything else will fall into place. Why is it your job to take care of everyone else’s emotional needs at the expense of your own emotional needs? Why is not important! Understanding is! Unless you start putting yourself first you are not going to be able to have a fulfilling life. If you do not look out for yourself no one else is going to, CLAIR. Your friend Soul:)
But sometimes, when you find out so many others agree with the course of action that will require courage, it can help you know you’re doing the right thing and overcome the mental obstacles that are keeping you from doing it. I hope we were able to help you with that a bit. . .
I understand about the privacy thing - that’s why I suggested you might want to go ahead and post your issue anonymously. That way you can get lots of people’s opinions. And there really are a lot of wise people of all ages on here who can offer advice from all perspectives. So maybe wait a bit and then write out the story and post, clicking the anonymous button, and no one will tie it back to your username. But I’m happy to talk with you here if you’re OK with that.