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• I’m 22 and 10 years ago I put my mom’s ex-husband in jail for sexual abuse that occured daily for at least 4 years. posted (3 months, 1 week) ago
  I’m on my own now and the guy is getting released from prison next year. He was up for parole,…

• My desire for physical intimacy has greatly diminished over the past couple years, and my boyfriend (whom I love dearly) is having a hard time understanding posted (8 months, 2 weeks) ago
  desire for physical intimacy has greatly diminished over the past couple years, and my boyfriend (w…

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• (1 vote) Dating?
  

  When you learn to spell Dating. :)
  
  - written 9 months ago – voted for by Tal.*

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• i need help.
  

  I used to feel that way and worse, if you read some of my past posts, you’ll get what I mean. I had sex with a boyfriend for the first time after being abused when I was 16. It was very plain sex. There was no oral or anything. It was just plain missionary, and it made it easier not to think about what I had been through. It was a couple years before I could even think about oral sex, but eventually I realized that for every time I had sex with someone I loved and trusted, it put more distance between me and the disgusting man that I hated. As for the shy thing, there are people who have not been hurt the way you and I have who are very shy. In fact, my boyfriend is very shy. I was the one who picked him out :) I guess we’re kind of like you, except in two different people. We fit together very well as a team, and so I know there is nothing wrong with you. When the right man whom you trust enough to open up to comes along, he will treat you with respect and experience things with you as you are ready for them. I wish you all the best. My heart goes out to you, truly.
  - written 2 months ago

• Why do ions have charges?
  

  A neutral atom has no charge. This is because all protons carry 1 unit of positive charge, and all electrons carry one unit of negative charge. Like magnets, these positive and negative charges are what hold an atom together. (There is a third particle in an atom, called a neutral, but they exist simply to give size to the nucleus and have no charge.) When a reaction occurs that causes a neutral atom to lose or gain an electron, it will have a total charge that is unequal to zero (the sum of the negative units and the negative units). For more information on the usual charge for an atom of a particular element (carbon, sulfur, oxygen, magnesium, etc.) you will have to study more about the way the table of elements is constructed and the arrangement of electrons in an atom. Remember, to become an ion in basic chemistry, only electrons are gained and lost. The number of protons, will always tell you what element the atom is.
  - written 2 months ago

• I’m 22 and 10 years ago I put my mom’s ex-husband in jail for sexual abuse that occured daily for at least 4 years.
  

  I will definitely look further into both of those sites. I think I am going to dye my hair, and my boyfriend says he’s going to grow a full beard, to cover his facial features. Thanks again for all the help. I’m trying to feel more optimistic about all this, but maybe those sites will help me find a way to get compensation for the emotional damage part of this whole thing :/
  - written 2 months, 4 weeks ago

• I’m 22 and 10 years ago I put my mom’s ex-husband in jail for sexual abuse that occured daily for at least 4 years.
  

  I don’t have a lawyer, I support myself, so I am very limited financially. I like the hat idea, only I’m not sure that’s allowed in a court room. Maybe he and I can come up with a different way to disguise him. Thanks! I may even look for a way to disguise myself, he hasn’t seen me in 10 years, so hiding my true appearance for his summons would make me feel safer. I wish i didn’t have to be there, but they will dismiss the case if I miss any one of the court dates :/ Wouldn’t it be nice if they could just take your word that someone was a bad guy and not make you see him just so they could say “mmmhm, i get your point, you never have to see him again” Blah.
  - written 3 months ago

• I’m 22 and 10 years ago I put my mom’s ex-husband in jail for sexual abuse that occured daily for at least 4 years.
  

  I was seeing a therapist within the last year, but due to the economic downturn, I can no longer afford it, and I racked up a little bit of a bill before I stopped going, so unfortunately that option is not available to me at the moment. As far as my mom goes, I really don’t know what her intentions are. I have informed her of all of the hearings so far, and she hasn’t come to any of those. I’m starting to think she won’t be there at all.
  - written 3 months ago

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